Us In Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage

by Ted Lowe

“Ted Lowe absolutely nails it in Us In Mind when he writes that your thoughts are what matters most when it comes to marriage. Learning to change your mind by taking control of your thoughts can be the difference between a miserable marriage and a loving and fulfilling partnership for life.” —Daniel G. Amen, MD, author of You, Happier and The End of Mental Illness

Research shows happy couples think in ways unhappy couples don’t. What if you could ensure your thoughts were setting you up to love well?

You can.

In Us In How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage , you will discover through Scripture, research, and neuroscience an ironically simple way of rethinking how you see your marriage. You will focus on just five intentional thoughts which are designed to help you love well, even when it’s not

Be assured, this book is not a stuffy textbook; it’s full of humor , real-life examples , and practical application . Whether you love marriage books or hate them, this book holds a fresh perspective on marriage for everybody, offering even the biggest skeptic a relevant takeaway.

You can change your marriage by changing your thoughts. It’s simpler than you think.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Nonfiction

175 pages, Paperback

Published October 15, 2022

Reviews

[Kelley Nan · Rating 5 out of 5]

*From a Christian perspective of someone who isn't afraid to admit she's flawed and continually falls short*

Our small group leader chose this book for our latest study and I'm so glad she did. Whether you find the content in this book introductory in some of its concepts or valuable for its reminders (and in reframing perspective), the importance of intentionality in a marriage is indisputable. Even the act of reading this book is movement in a positive direction and if you're seeking to make your marriage the best it can be, I would wholeheartedly recommend this quick read. I felt convicted more than once but also eager to better love my spouse. It's relatable and filled with good advice (like...seek council that's for your marriage, not just for you) and I appreciated that that it's written with nonjudgemental empathy.

And, I actually listened and loved the author-narrated audiobook!

Add this one to your arsenal if you're ready to take accountability and take steps forward to a more fulfilling and selfless relationship with your spouse.

[Maggie Buckley · Rating 5 out of 5]

We are using this book for a couples’ study at church. It’s an excellent read - would be really helpful to use as part of pre-marital counseling sessions!

[Lauren · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best marriage resources I’ve ever read- and I’ve read a lot. It’s a quick read with easy to understand, doable concepts.

I like that this book centered on how to have a great marriage as opposed to how to survive marriage, repair a marriage, or resolve conflict like most marriage books. It also isn’t sexist which is unfortunately hard to find among Christian marriage books. Many of the concepts are rooted in science and common sense and not overly spiritual.

Anyone could benefit from the principals addressed even if you aren’t Christian and even if you already think your marriage is doing well.

[Dr. Peter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unconditional Love

This book is very easy to read and to understand. In our relationship with our spouse, we are to model the unconditional love Jesus has for each of us. We all have our “Freds” that, if allowed, will control us in ways that take in a direction of not being the men and women God designed us to be. I loved the simple, straightforward way of triumphing over our “Freds” and becoming much closer to being the person God designed. Doing that together in a marriage relationship can clearly turn a difficult marriage into the joy God intended it to be.

[Nathan Ownbey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of the best books I read in 2022. It was short and impactful. I read it on a quick getaway with my wife and then she read it right after me. That is great advice that is still sticking with me months after reading it.

[Wyatt · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book on marriage and very practical. Bought this book after a marriage conference and it was a good reminder of the practices taught by Ted during the conference. I could see reading this annually.

[cindy townley · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is our speaker for a marriage event coming up. It has very practical items you can do to make your marriage go from good to great. Give it a read.

[Kelli · Rating 4 out of 5]

Basic suggestions for improving marriage by improving thinking. Ideal for new couples

[Gary · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful information

[Kristina · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great to read along with our small group. It reframed the “challenges” of marriage into more digestible & realistic practices.

[Victoria Nesbit · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’m doing a class based off of this book, the methods and tools are so beneficial. Everyone should read this book!

[Madison Gromer · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars
Full of practical wisdom and insights!

[Michelle Voran · Rating 5 out of 5]

My favorite books are the ones that change you - that truly impact you. This book on marriage is really, really good. Highly recommend for every married couple to read. Whether you are about to get married, 20 years in, or 60 years in. Read this book.