A map, written in code and hidden in the gospel of Matthew, reveals a truth so explosive it could rock the foundations of Christianity—or lead to its rebirth. A cleric appears out of the rain-spattered darkness, bearing a mysterious A long-lost map with the power to transform men is on the verge of being discovered. Thrown headlong into a global chase, author David Murrow must race to find the map before it falls into the wrong hands and disappears forever. The Map, which begins as an action thriller and then transitions into a modern-day parable, reveals the path every great man – including Christ himself – has walked. In this dynamic follow-up to the best-selling Why Men Hate Going to Church , Murrow cleverly translates the masculine spiritual life into an actual, ink-on-paper map. Then he shows men where to find the map in the New Testament and how to walk its ancient paths today.
This book was a difficult one for me. I had some huge problems with Murrow's terminology that made it difficult for me to finish the book, much less write a review of it. I'll highlight some of the problems I had with it, then show the parts I liked. (I'll quickly add that none of my criticism is personally directed at Murrow; rather, my criticisms are of his word choices and arguments.)
The first half of the book is fiction, involving David Murrow as a character embarking on a global chase to find a long-lost map with "the power to transform men". Turns out, it's a fictional parchment written by an early Christian named Justus who claimed this "map" is found in the gospel of Matthew. It's referred to as The Three Journeys of Jesus and consists of three parts: submission, strength and sacrifice.
This section of the book is far too agenda-driven (as opposed to character or plot driven) and contrived to really read as the action-packed, Jason-Bourne-style thriller as the endorsements on the cover and front pages claim it is. Murrow's writing abilities lean toward non-fiction, and it would have been better for him to stay with non-fiction throughout (as I believe he did in his bestseller Why Men Hate Going to Church).
The second half is the non-fiction part, where Murrow shows men what their spiritual journey to greatness looks like, how Jesus walked it, and where to find it in the Bible. Here's where I started to have some major issues with his arguments.
First of all, does this supposed map actually exist in the book of Matthew? Several other reviewers have taken a skeptical stance on this, and I myself am inclined to think that Murrow stretches his interpretation of Scripture too far to make his point.
My second, biggest issue is his use of the terms "masculine" to describe strength and the harder virtues and "feminine" to describe the softer ones. While he writes a nice explanation of why he chose these terms:
"I'm not saying that strength is manly and submission is womanly. I'm simply pointing out that . . . attributes such as strength, aggression, goal orientation, competitiveness and conflict are most often identified as male. On the other hand, love, communication, family, nurturing and harmony are regularly understood as female."
True enough. But just because it's "instantly understandable" doesn't mean that he had to use gender terms to make his point; why not refer to "submission" and "sacrifice" as "softer virtues" and "strength" as a harder virtue? Why be deliberately politically incorrect? It was unnecessary to do so.
(...) The purpose of this book is not to stereotype. Nor am I assigning certain traits to males and others to females. (...) My prayer is that men and women will develop both sides of their personalities. I'm pleading with women to be strong, and with men to embrace weakness. " (p.106)
That would be lovely if it were true. However, Murrow doesn't really plead with women to be strong. (Women are seldom addressed in the book. That's understandable, if irritating, given his target audience.) Moreover, while he does plead with men to embrace weakness to a certain extent, he spends far more time on the need for men to stop being "Christian nice guys."
And he does stereotype both men and women, often blatantly. Consider these statements (and there are many others of this nature):
"If trials are the lessons of submission . . . and the journey of submission moves you in the feminine direction . . . then how should you react to trials? Like a girl. I'm serious. When trials come, get help from friends. Run toward community, not away from it. Weep. Talk about it." (p.185)
(I like his ideas on how to handle trials, but not the "like a girl" part. And the immediate addition of "I'm serious" makes me think he knows this phrase comes across as a knock.)
"Successful conflict resolution always begins with a feminine response. Lavish kindness on your enemies." (p188)
(I agree with the lavish kindness on your enemies part, but why characterize this as a "feminine" response?)
"The (praise and worship) choruses are repetitive and simple—designed to stimulate the emotions rather than the mind. As a result, worship itself is becoming more feminine." (p191)
(Implication here: "feminine" worship focuses on emotions at the expense of the mind, as though something mentally stimulating isn't feminine somehow.)
"There's nothing worse than a feminized fellow—except perhaps a macho fool." (p200)
(Why not just say a "weak" man? Why make it sound as though feminine characteristics are negative in a male, especially when he spent so much time claiming he wanted men to develop their so-called feminine side?)
"But when I look (the new discipleship program) over, I'm always disappointed, because it's not discipleship at all. It's a Bible study course. The idea is to get men to read their Bibles (which most of them forget to do) and then gather them in an informal classroom setting (a living room) where they read from books and answer questions. You've attended these groups. The format is always the same: Bibles, books, banter, and a bowl of chips." (p225)
(That's pretty dismissive of the average male's ability to remember to read their Bible. It's also blatantly stereotyping men. I agree that discipleship programs need to be more than Bible studies, though.)
"Think what would happen in your church if every man were being personally discipled by another. I suspect many of the problems we deal with in our churches and families would quickly evaporate. If men had spiritual fathers, would we even need women's ministry or children's ministry?" (p.221)
(Okay, Murrow just spent 200-plus pages arguing that men need a journey that was appropriate for their masculine needs, and now he claims women and children wouldn't need ministries tailored for their particular bent? I agree, though, that if men were being discipled, many problems would lessen or disappear. But the final question pushes his argument into the realm of self-contradiction.)
Okay, at this point, you may think I completely loathe this book. Not true. Murrow has some excellent points that I agree with.
For example, I like how he sometimes uses the "three journeys" as a template for prayer: opening with submission to God, then receiving strength from Him, closing with a prayer to be poured out in sacrifice for others and God.
Also, he emphasizes that we need to embrace each of these both in turn and simultaneously. One shouldn't skip submission and overemphasize strength: that leads to an abuse of power. Likewise, submission without ever moving into spiritual strength is detrimental; it leads to weak Christians who never stand up to evil.
His illustration of this last point was particularly powerful to me. A pastor shared how a woman in his congregation was bitter, divisive and hateful. She berated and criticized him, tore down others, and the pastor sometimes wanted to slap her. Then he thought, "oh, no, Jesus would love her and wash her feet." Eventually, the pastor said, "She destroyed the church. Split it right in two, but I never spoke a harsh word to her."
Murrow was outraged: a selfish, bitter woman destroyed a church and the pastor never stood up to her evil, divisive ways. This struck a chord with me, as I have seen people such as this woman divide churches, I have seen Christian leaders (male and female) who were afraid to confront evil because they had a warped sense of how Jesus would react, I have seen the fallout of two different church splits. Souls are lost through such things. I share Murrow's reaction:
"I think even journey-of-submission Jesus would have picked up a whip and driven this Jezebel out of the church!" (p.172)
And if you don't agree, go read about Jesus cleansing the temple; Jesus pitched a hissy fit in the middle of the temple, and rightly so.
Murrow's complaints over men thinking they have to be "Mr. Christian Nice Guy" are well taken. People who believe following Christ means being "nice" all the time are weak and ineffective for God—and that goes for men and women. Sometimes we can't be "nice" to display Christ to other people.
By the way, I have no issue with guys getting to do stereotypical "guy" things, nor with gals getting to do stereotypical "girl" things; some things tend to "seem" more masculine or feminine. I'm not advocating that men or women forget their gender. Plus, both men and women need strong friendships of the same sex; that's healthy and necessary.
My issue with this book was more over Murrow's choice of gender terminology to describe his ideas. Many of his ideas are useful and just as applicable to women as to men. He means well, he definitely has a heart to reach men for Christ, and he has excellent insights. Unfortunately, they are often buried under needlessly gender-specific (and stereotypical) terms.
Disclaimer: I was provided with a free copy of this book from Thomas Nelson Publishing in exchange for a review on my blog. Check out my link to BookSneeze.com if you would like information on how to get free books to review! (Hopefully David Murrow and the powers-that-be at Thomas Nelson won't hate me! I certainly don't hate them.)
By the author of Why men hate going to church) A simple Hebraic code hidden in Matthew? Of three journeys, 1-7, the journey of submission, 8-25 the journey of strength, 26-28 the journey of sacrifice. Many good ideas and relevant suggestions and reminders of biblical truth…but it is inimical to the biblical purpose to hide something so important in a code, etc. Wrong, wrong, wrong….God communicates gospel truth clearly and simply.
Fantastic book! it really made me think and was really revealing!
first, let me address the thing i'd want to know about the most: why all the low ratings for this book? i think there's only one real reason for this: about a third of this book is a novella which serves as a parable for the book's message. i can understand if people who liked Murrow's previous hit, Why Men Hate Going To Church, would balk at this choice. and really, the novella is not too bad, but it's not amazing. you can speed read it and get the picture. when i read it, the first thing i thought of was something along the lines of The Da Vinci Code, and Murrow humorously pokes fun at this. i'm not going to give it away, but when you read it, your "hunch" will be right (that's all i'll say).
next, is it as good as his previous book? i have to say yes. it's different in theme, somewhat. his previous book was on the effeminization of the Church, while this is more of a biblical analysis of the journey of male discipleship as shown by Jesus by way of the book of Matthew. now, let me also say that though this is geared towards men, i honestly think this is more universal to both sexes and that it's really about discipleship than anything else. for that reason, this is a jewel of a book that is able to point men in the right direction while still being able to impart wisdom to the ladies. this book is so illuminating that the last time i was asked to preach at my church (last week), i had to talk about some of the themes and topics of this book. it really is an incredible book.
another thing i absolutely love about Murrow's writing style is that he switches gears from preaching the ideas to talking about practicality and gives numerous tips and ideas that you can use or implement in your journey of discipleship or discipling others. he also has resources through his website (which i believe is www.thethreejourneys.com. if that's not it, the correct one is in the book. while i havent yet looked at his resources, i will.
this book is a necessary read for every man who feels stagnated in their walk with Christ, who need to be mentored, men who love Wild At Heart but ask "What next?", men who may be too sensitive or passive (wusses), or men who have a desire to disciple others but don't know how to go about it.
Kind of interesting in the way that this book is set up....but I ended up really liking it. The book is divided into two sections; a fictional short story that gives a more current context to some of the points that Murrow makes in the second part of the book which is non-fiction and takes the reader through the "code" or "map" that Murrow believes is embedded in the gospel of Matthew. So, what is this map? It is a path that all men can follow that helps them become the man that God wants each of us to become. To not only learn how to submit to God, but to be strong and even aggressive for what is right and ultimately sacrificial so that we will pass along what we have learned to the next generation. While I am skeptical of "new" things that are discovered in the Bible, I do think that the visualization technique of the map and the related passages can help men understand some of the difficulties that we often find when addressing what it means to be a man and to be Christlike when some of the things seem to contradict. Overall, I found this to not only be an interesting and easily consumed book (it only took me two days to read it), but I also found it to have some great points and insights that I will not only hang onto for myself but use as conversation points with others. It also is making me re-look at the gospel of Matthew through the lens of what he wrote to see things in a different manner than I may have in the past. I would definitely suggest this book to any guy as a great book to read and as a good book to make you think more intentionally about your spiritual growth.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
This book starts as an off-to-the-races thriller, aka the Celestine Prophecy. Later, he takes a very simple theory and tries to apply it to life's challenges, such as building strength, work success and even settling conflicts. Overall, I found the theology very simplistic, and quite unconvincing. While he adequately illustrates the inherent struggle he is wrestling with (manliness vs. godliness) and makes several good observations, I found the substance and resolution to this duality a bit wanting.
I also fundamentally disagreed with his analysis of why men don't go to church: it's not because the church is an emasculating force for men, as he claims, but rather that the church and its sacraments have not kept pace or relevance with the demands of a rapidly changing and evolving world.
I sense that David Murrow intentionally uses aggressive terminology to counter the prevalence of passive terminology often found in Christian how-to books. At times I felt Murrow was crossing the PC line but I appreciate that it may be necessary to make a significant point. Where are the strong men in the church?
The premise of formulating a map from Matt 7:13,14 was interesting and insightful but I hope readers will do their own personal study of the text as Murrow challenges them to. After reading the book of Matthew as suggested by Murrow, the points he makes doesn't quite jump out to me like it did for him. In any case, it was an easy and enjoyable read.
The first half of the book is interesting and gripping. I sped through that quickly. The second half starts strong then quickly mires in chapter after chapter of list after list. I get it. But it gets monotonous quickly. I found myself bored quicckly and so i set the book down and forgot about it for 6 months. Had to finish it so I came back and finished the last 5 chapters that are list heavy. Honestly, this book should have been a lot shorter. Its hit or miss. Good depth but extremely verbose and redundant.
By the end of the book I was pleased to rate this book with four stars, although, a 3.5 would be best. In the last two chapters and the epilogue Murrow’s goal to make disciples of men is evident and he clarifies his use of the Map. It was a challenging read and I found myself battling with the concept. But I am glad, for this book stimulated the way I see Jesus. It also made me reflect upon the necessity of a new, thought through approach to mens discipleship.
My dad and I were able to listen to this whole book while driving home from Redding. This was fascinating since we had just come from a men’s conference. Having a clear map of surrender as the starting point, submission to Christ, strength of Christ, and finally sacrifice of Christ as metrics for where a man’s life falls…is both important and necessary due to its overall accuracy that So many men find in this season. Especially western men.
I do not read a lot of fiction. As a general rule, I simply do not enjoy it. However, I do have an appreciation for its value. As a communicator, the best way to make a point or teach a lesson is often through the use of a well told – or written – story.
The Map (2010, Thomas Nelson) by David Murrow is a unique blend of fiction and non-fiction. In the first part of the book, Murrow tries to write an adventure story. This story serves as an illustration that will be explained in the second part. I commend Murrow for his creativity and novelty, and it almost works. Part of the problem is that the fictional story is only pretty good. I realize the blurbs and book descriptions on the back cover of the paperback are there to help sell books. That being said, the quote from Robert Lewis (founder of Men’s Fraternity) only sets the reader up for disappointment: “the spiritual punch of C.S. Lewis, written in the style of a Jason Bourne thriller.” Let’s just say it’s a bit of over-kill.
That is not to say the book is bad. Actually, it is quite good! The Map is a follow-up to Why Men Hate Going to Church, and provides some much needed balance. The second half of the book is all about the path men should take to spiritual maturity.
With the understanding that many, if not most, men need visual cues to help them learn, Murrow lays out the journey to maturity in the form of a map. Reaching spiritual maturity is like climbing a mountain, and Murrow’s map is designed to help get us there. To draw this map, Murrow took cues from major sections of Matthew’s gospel. In analyzing the book of Matthew, Murrow saw three journeys Jesus made: Matthew 1-7: Jesus is mostly humble, meek, and submissive. His life and teachings reflect a classic feminine pattern. (the journey of submission) Matthew 8-25: Jesus is mostly powerful, bold, and outspoken. His life and teachings reflect a classic masculine pattern. (the journey of strength) Matthew 26-28: Jesus is mostly meek, passive, and sacrificial. His life once again reflects a classic feminine pattern. (the journey of sacrifice)
Murrow understands that everyone—men and women—have personalities that include both masculine and feminine traits. When he uses the terms masculine and feminine, he makes in meaning and intent clear—and I appreciate that.
“Before we go any further, let’s not run aground on the words masculine and feminine. I’m not saying that strength is manly and submission is womanly. I’m simply pointing out that, throughout the literature of a thousand cultures, attributes such as strength, aggression, goal orientation, competitiveness, and conflict are most often identified as male. On the other hand, love, communication, family, nurturing, and harmony are regularly understood as female. (Even modern bestsellers such as Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus follow this Line.)
“So please don’t judge me when I use feminine to describe the soft virtues and masculine to describe the hard ones. The purpose of this book is not to stereotype. Nor am I assigning certain traits to males and others to females. Quite the opposite. My prayer is that men and women will develop both sides of their personalities. I’m pleading with women to be strong, and with men to embrace weakness. My labels may not be PC, but they’re instantly understandable. “
After introducing the concept of the three journeys, Murrow spends three chapters examining and describing them in greater detail. He does a good job of continuing the metaphor of map and mountain as he describes these journeys. He also offers biblical examples of men on these journeys, highlighting their successes as well as failures.
The last few chapters were the most helpful to me personally. In Chapter 16, Murrow identifies seven points where men “get lost on the mountain”. I found this encouraging. Some of these are points I have been stuck or have seen other men stuck. It was encouraging to see that my experience is not isolated and that it is possible to get unstuck and continue on the journey.
The remainder of The Map is devoted to incredibly important, but often forgotten (or neglected), task of applying what you have learned to your life and/or ministry context. Please do not miss this step. Murrow good advice in this arena. The reality is that, as men, we are on these journeys. The question is whether we will realize this and allow the journeys to grow, shape, and mold us into the men God has designed us to be—and calls us to be.
I started reading The Map almost hoping not to like it. I wanted to take what could be called an elitist or condescending view of a simplistic, purely pragmatic Christian “how-to” book. Alas, I cannot. It is a good book with simple, but rich, insights into a journey to biblical manhood.
Murrow writes in a style that is easy to read which would make The Map easy to hand out to men you know. I would recommend this book to anyone who finds this an important topic. Church leaders, including lay-leaders, may find it particularly helpful as they provide ministry opportunities with and for men.
Very interesting look at man’ journey toward maturity and true masculinity. I think the second part is much more valuable. In fact, one may skip straight to the second part for good stuff.
David Murrow, known for his books challenging Christian men, has written a new book providing further encouragement to those men. In The Map: The Way of All Great Men, Murrow divides the narrative of our Savior Jesus Christ found in the gospel of Matthew into three separate sections, each section being part of a map which men can emulate. In discussing the portions of Christ’s personality or mission that displayed qualities that we normally associate with femininity as well as the more traditional masculine parts of Christ’s life, Murrow provides insight into some of the internal conflict that many Christian men face today. Throughout the book though, especially the second-half, Murrow’s call of boldness from Christian men is loudly proclaimed.
I personally enjoyed this book. The first half of this book is one of the more interesting stories I have read of any sort in some time and belongs in any discussion of great short stories published in 2010. I’ll say that the surprise in the middle of this book left me frustrated at first but I soon came to appreciate it for what it was. Murrow cuts no corners in this book reminding today’s American Christian man that we are in danger of becoming extinct. Murrow does some damage to his map’s validity when he points out some of the flaws in his map’s reliance on the book of Matthew at the first of the second section but, again, I came to appreciate this more as I read. I could relate in my own Christian walk with a great deal of what Murrow maps out in his book and I believe that Murrow and myself are not the only two thinking the thoughts he presents. If you are interested in ideas and ways to revitalize or shake the men in your church to begin walking more closely in Christ’s footsteps, this unique view of the book of Matthew would be a good jumping off point. I would recommend this book.
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It talks somewhat about why men don't like church, and (to be overly brief) it's because church is too feminine.
Stylistically, this book is awesome, because the first maybe third of the book is written narrative-style. Then the last 2/3 is kind of an exploration of the concepts found in the first third. It's like a sermon in that way - read the passage, then pull it apart and expound.
Basically the concept is that of a spiritual journey. The three parts of the journey are submission (which seems to be feminine, taking men away from what they are naturally looking for), strength (back to the masculine) and sacrifice (back to the feminine). Without spending time in each stage of the journey, we short-circuit our spiritual growth. And churches that overemphasize one of these stages over a balance of all three are bound to be unhealthy...if not now, then at some point down the road.
I will be thinking about these concepts for a while. The only things I didn't like: 1) I wish he had given more/better examples on strength. I didn't love his explanation but I thought he was on the right track. 2) I wish he'd mentioned that there are mini-journeys within each life journey. He talked more about how submission was primarily after a conversion experience and sacrifice was an end-of-life-after-you've-been-following-Jesus-for-a-while, but I think we experience journeys within journeys, so to speak.
At the end of the book, like any good researcher, he mentions areas for future exploration. I hope he writes more on this topic.
This falls into the same line of books like the John Eldridge books that I've read. That means there is some great ideas with needed challenges for men. There is a desire to call men out to something bold and exciting.
The problem comes when you stop being a brilliant sociologist/psychologist and appear to take a theory and lay it on the Bible. Using the Bible to prove your idea is good but it seems he stretches (a lot).
If you haven't read Murrow's book "Why men hate going to church", you are missing out. Well researched and thought provoking. And if you want to pick a book that has amazing fictional writing, the story he builds is gripping (this book fits the bill). Murrow is a brilliant writer of fiction, from the first part of the book and his insight is excellent in " Why men..." I just wish he would have approached this introducing an ideal he has seen in the Bible, not the Indiana Jones who has discovered the only way to manhood.
While I didn't agree with his assertions throughout the entire piece, I did find it very intriguing and helpful to me as a man who feels out of place in the church today. I am now curious to go through the Gospel of Matthew and see if The Map is as apparent as Murrow claims it is and see if it is contradicted in any way.
I still find "Why Men Hate Going to Church" to be his best work. I am kind of hoping he'll have a third book that explains how churches can start taking steps to bring back a balance of masculine and feminine to the church.
For those who have their minds made up, The Map is going to sound absurd. But I enjoyed it and recommend it to anyone seeking clarity on why men feel out of place in the church.
I enjoyed the first half of the book which is a fun, fast fiction-read. I was intrigued to see how Murrow would transition and handle the second, non-fiction half of the book. I was only a few pages in to that portion when I found myself saying, "No! No! No!" While Murrow's general points may be valuable, he simply fails on the notion of a secret, hidden Hebraic code tucked into the text of Matthew. I tried to keep reading, really I did. But, alas, I just couldn't. It wasn't long and I simply shelved the book. I give it one start because I enjoyed the first half of the book, but I just can't swallow the way he tries to sell his product in the second half.
This first half of this book is in the format of a thriller. Then Murrow goes on to make a call for action - Christian men who are no longer beginners need more from their church. Murrow calls himself an evangelical Christian, and this is written from that point of view. But there are useful points for any Christian, male or female, who finds something lacking in their spiritual journey.
This book was amazing, the story in the beginning was so cool i couldn't put it down, i'm not a huge reader but this totally made me love reading! The map is a huge metaphorical ride of journeys of men that have been lead by Jesus through storms and trials to make it through and teach them the three journeys which I love so much!
First half of the book is OK. Part two should be named, "The Bible according to David Murrow." As others have noted, it seems merely a pitch for his 'map' and new discipleship program. What really alarms me however is that some of his writing is heretical, such as claiming that "Jesus flunks" [the test of spiritual character, as defined in Galations 5,] "on almost every count!" Avoid this book.
Good story to a point - questionable theology. Written like an Og Mandino book in the first part,and I didn't care for the feminist references - too 60'esh, but I understood his principle premise behind it and have no real consternation about it. Do not think the book really answered the question or came up with a real solution concerning men's participation in the church.
Mixed thoughts. I need to think about it more before I make a judgment. Loved the very beginning, but was let down with the switch in the book- the reveal. Came back around to like some of it at the end. Still not sure what I think of the basic idea. Some of it I really like. Some of it I have a hard time seeing in Scripture.
Great book to give food for thought! The first half is a fictional adventure while the second half was a content enriched philosophy on the Map to Manhood! Great stuff. Also read "why Men Hate Going To Church" with this book as we'll!
This is a really interesting and thought-provoking book. I especially loved the story of finding the map in Greece. A good read and good things to think through.