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THE AVOIDANT PARTNER: Building Intimacy and Emotional Connection with an Avoidant Partner and How to Overcome Avoidant Attachment style
Have you ever started dating someone, and after a romantic weekend together, POOF he disappears?
Or perhaps you meet someone, and it starts off hot and heavy. You’re texting daily and can’t wait to see each other again. But suddenly, the communication starts to fade, and you find yourself chasing, yearning and waiting for their attention?
If these scenarios sound familiar to you, this might be an indication that you dated or are dating someone with an avoidant attachment style.
People with an avoidant attachment style have a deep-rooted fear of losing their autonomy and freedom in a relationship. Subconsciously, they equate intimacy with a loss of independence and when someone gets too close, they turn to deactivating strategies – tactics used to squelch intimacy. Deactivating strategies pulling away when things are going well, focusing on small imperfections in their partner as a way out, forming relationships with an impossible future, and/or waiting for the perfect unicorn – the “one” that exists only exists in fantasy, not reality.
Avoidants have built a defensive stance and subconsciously suppress their attachment system. While they can get into relationships, they have a tendency to keep an emotional distance with their partner.
Though avoidant partners might not seem as emotionally available or connected as others, their emotions and need for connection are often the same as anyone else. With some understanding and support, it’s possible for avoidant partners to open up and create greater emotional intimacy.
In this book THE AVOIDANT PARTNER, we share what it actually means when a person has an avoidant attachment style, simple steps you can take to get the love, connection, and build that deep soul mate bond, and how the avoidant partner can overcome his/her attachment style.
Or perhaps you meet someone, and it starts off hot and heavy. You’re texting daily and can’t wait to see each other again. But suddenly, the communication starts to fade, and you find yourself chasing, yearning and waiting for their attention?
If these scenarios sound familiar to you, this might be an indication that you dated or are dating someone with an avoidant attachment style.
People with an avoidant attachment style have a deep-rooted fear of losing their autonomy and freedom in a relationship. Subconsciously, they equate intimacy with a loss of independence and when someone gets too close, they turn to deactivating strategies – tactics used to squelch intimacy. Deactivating strategies pulling away when things are going well, focusing on small imperfections in their partner as a way out, forming relationships with an impossible future, and/or waiting for the perfect unicorn – the “one” that exists only exists in fantasy, not reality.
Avoidants have built a defensive stance and subconsciously suppress their attachment system. While they can get into relationships, they have a tendency to keep an emotional distance with their partner.
Though avoidant partners might not seem as emotionally available or connected as others, their emotions and need for connection are often the same as anyone else. With some understanding and support, it’s possible for avoidant partners to open up and create greater emotional intimacy.
In this book THE AVOIDANT PARTNER, we share what it actually means when a person has an avoidant attachment style, simple steps you can take to get the love, connection, and build that deep soul mate bond, and how the avoidant partner can overcome his/her attachment style.
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Published November 21, 2022
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Emily Walker
126 books79 followersEmily Walker loves creating worlds and stumbling around in them. She is constantly losing her chap-stick and has an obsession with the color pink. Currently a resident of the mountains and loving the view she writes mostly science fiction, and horror. Her small family consists of her red-bearded other half, an adorable daughter Harper, and a rat terrier named Rebel.
You can find all of her work here - http://www.authoremilywalker.com
You can find all of her work here - http://www.authoremilywalker.com
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August 15, 2024
super helpful insights
i feel much better equipped to love my partner in a way they can recognize and receive as a result of having read this book. I highlighted so many passages! I am an anxious style, while he is avoidant - and I feel so much less lost than I did before reading. Straight to the point and full of practical tools.
i feel much better equipped to love my partner in a way they can recognize and receive as a result of having read this book. I highlighted so many passages! I am an anxious style, while he is avoidant - and I feel so much less lost than I did before reading. Straight to the point and full of practical tools.
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