I've seen a lot of negative reviews for this book but I am so glad I picked it up. I will preface this by saying that, if you want to enjoy it, you have to decipher the message according to your values and not judging it for it's title or the semi-religious content within. As to why I picked up the book, I have struggled with a binge eating disorder for a large portion of my life and I am also someone who considers themselves to be very spiritual (not devoutly religious). I had found this book because I was fascinated by Marianne Williamson as a 2024 US presidential candidate and hadn't realized that she was once a spiritual teacher for the likes of Oprah Winfrey.
The last time I had the healthiest relationship with my body I was meditating every day, eating whole-foods/plant-based and finding myself on a spiritual level. I wondered if this book could help revitalize this side of me that had been laying dormant during the last four years of my life where I had come up against a lot of personal struggle. This book now has hundreds of highlighted passages for my continued reflection. It covers the deep emotional trauma a person has when they are battling with food addiction and binge eating and leans on spiritualism to reaffirm a disposition of openness and acceptance.
This book gives you practical guidance on how to confront these feelings of discontent and fear, with compassion and love. Not only can it help with shaping your physical and emotional being, it can help with spiritual understanding at large. Why I prefaced this review as I did is because some of the content and practices weren't for me. I found writing a letter to my 'fat' self with hateful verbiage with the purpose of 'getting it out of you' was unproductive. I've done that for too long to regress back to those behaviors while I am trying to reform healthier neural pathways. With that said, other perspectives Marianne brings to this book really helped me lean into some of the emotional responses that have been keeping me from treating my body and mind right. To further express this, I want to share a few of my favorite passages:
"You are not weaker or more wounded, better or worse, than others; each of us is home to a great contest between the forces of fear and the forces of love."
"Every overeater has head them a million times: the admonishments of weight loss. You've got to stick to your diet, commit to the process, stay with it no matter what, discipline yourself to "just do it", and so forth. Yet such admonishments only add to your anxiety; if you were able to consistently be there for yourself, you wouldn't be an overeater to begin with. While over eating would be seen as some as an indulgence of self, it is in fact, a profound rejection of self."
"Looking back into your childhood isn't about figuring out whom you can blame, or building a case to justify feelings of victimization. It's simply about identifying your wound so the medicine of love can be applied correctly."
I will end this, already lengthy, review with one final thought: if your interest is being piqued by this book in whatever way. Give it a chance. I believe in your ability to distinguish the useful information from the less useful information without someone else interfering. When it comes to eating disorders, spirituality, childhood trauma, generalized trauma, fear and love; there are a lot of positive takeaways from this book and I would recommend it to a friend if they were struggling the same way I have been.