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The Science of Sex: Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered
An engaging manual exploring the many scientific, practical, and emotional aspects of pleasure, for you and your partner(s)
An empowering reeducation to fix our broken sexual culture.
Dispelling the myth that everyone else is having “perfect sex,” or even that there is such a thing, this book explores taboos, debunks myths, and brings together the latest research to a topic that has preoccupied the vast majority for millennia. Reframing assumptions about sex and moving away from a shame-based approach to a pleasure-focused, biopsychosocial one, Kate Moyle, a certified psycho-sexologist and relationship therapist, aims to encourage curiosity and pleasure, open a variety of perspectives and voices, build awareness and discovery, and enable readers to think about sex holistically. With a question-and-answer format directly addressing the reader, you can discover the sex you like having and move to a place of more acceptance, less judgment, and the freedom to be curious.
Up to date and inclusive of all genders, bodies, and sexualities, this is a sex re-education, empowering you to explore your preferences, expand your horizons, and maximize you and your partner(s) potential for rewarding, and intimate sex.
An empowering reeducation to fix our broken sexual culture.
Dispelling the myth that everyone else is having “perfect sex,” or even that there is such a thing, this book explores taboos, debunks myths, and brings together the latest research to a topic that has preoccupied the vast majority for millennia. Reframing assumptions about sex and moving away from a shame-based approach to a pleasure-focused, biopsychosocial one, Kate Moyle, a certified psycho-sexologist and relationship therapist, aims to encourage curiosity and pleasure, open a variety of perspectives and voices, build awareness and discovery, and enable readers to think about sex holistically. With a question-and-answer format directly addressing the reader, you can discover the sex you like having and move to a place of more acceptance, less judgment, and the freedom to be curious.
Up to date and inclusive of all genders, bodies, and sexualities, this is a sex re-education, empowering you to explore your preferences, expand your horizons, and maximize you and your partner(s) potential for rewarding, and intimate sex.
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256 pages, Hardcover
Published September 19, 2023
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June 6, 2024
I've noticed a trend in this recent uptick in sex education books being published. Authors are trying to hit every possible topic in sex (which I understand is in the title), but it makes for a very superficial and rushed book. Imagine if I made a book on physics, and tried to cram every topic within physics in the book. Apply the same with history, biology, psychology, etc. This happens because we don't think of sexology as it is, which is an impressively vast sphere of information that touches upon so many intersecting domains, and instead as a lil' thing that happens in many peoples lives.
Every page is dedicated to a new topic within sex (i.e., disabilities & sex, what happens when we're aroused, sexual shame), and as great as the pages are, they're reflective of the mini jot notes I make before starting a new research project within sexology.
Ultimately, I am speaking from a position of a sexologist & researcher, so my review might not be fair given this is what I read all day everyday. I think for those who lack education, this is a great starting point to understand the fundamentals and fill in the gaps.
The visuals are gorgeous and engaging which I appreciated as well. This was the first sex-ed book meant for the public that included biological components like the pleasure pathways within the brain, which I loved too as I often see generalizations such as "the love chemical oxytocin is released! Ok moving on!" in books.
As a book for those who are unfamiliar with sex education and sex knowledge (EVEN IF YOU'RE BANGING IT OUT DAILY), 3.5/10. As a book for other researchers, counsellors, and sexologists? Move forward dawg skip this go read & judge Foucault or something.
“We demand that sex speak the truth [...] and we demand that it tell us our truth, or rather, the deeply buried truth of that truth about ourselves which we think we possess in our immediate consciousness.”
This wasn't a quote from this book, I just like it. Also any quote Robert California (the lizard king) has ever said on sex– include those too.
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Every page is dedicated to a new topic within sex (i.e., disabilities & sex, what happens when we're aroused, sexual shame), and as great as the pages are, they're reflective of the mini jot notes I make before starting a new research project within sexology.
Ultimately, I am speaking from a position of a sexologist & researcher, so my review might not be fair given this is what I read all day everyday. I think for those who lack education, this is a great starting point to understand the fundamentals and fill in the gaps.
The visuals are gorgeous and engaging which I appreciated as well. This was the first sex-ed book meant for the public that included biological components like the pleasure pathways within the brain, which I loved too as I often see generalizations such as "the love chemical oxytocin is released! Ok moving on!" in books.
As a book for those who are unfamiliar with sex education and sex knowledge (EVEN IF YOU'RE BANGING IT OUT DAILY), 3.5/10. As a book for other researchers, counsellors, and sexologists? Move forward dawg skip this go read & judge Foucault or something.
“We demand that sex speak the truth [...] and we demand that it tell us our truth, or rather, the deeply buried truth of that truth about ourselves which we think we possess in our immediate consciousness.”
This wasn't a quote from this book, I just like it. Also any quote Robert California (the lizard king) has ever said on sex– include those too.
BOW CHICKA BOWWW WOWWWW
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November 29, 2023I don’t want to rate this book because I feel so mixed about it. It had really good qualities, but it wasn’t the book I thought it was going to be AT ALL. I’ll start with what I liked: it was a good, modern book, incorporating inclusive language, dialogue about consent, discussions of a broad spectrum of needs and identities. I would say it would make a good introductory primer for people new to the sex positive community and all it represents. For this reason I feel a bit guilty even criticising this book, as it is so much better than a lot of other sex themed books out there.
BUT!!!! My BIG PROBLEM WITH THIS BOOK. It promised something it did not deliver and I felt pretty ripped off by that, if I’m honest.
I REALLY don’t think this book should have been called the science of sex. That was what I wanted to read about and it wasn’t what I got. There were moments where the author touched on scientific research and explanations, but they were lightly scattered throughout the book and not discussed in any great depth. This was SO DISAPPOINTING to me! I really had to force myself to finish the book as I had paid for it and didn’t want to waste money… but it was all about a series of concepts that I am very familiar with already. The book should have been called The Politics of Sex, or even The Psychology of Sex…
NOT the science of sex.
I also found it a bit… well… DRY, if you will pardon the expression. It just kind of stated a lot of stuff that lots of sex positive people write about on the internet… and it wasn’t presented in a very tantalising way, which is odd, when you think about it.
I read another book called Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski, right before this one. It was much more science based, and more interesting to me.
BUT!!!! My BIG PROBLEM WITH THIS BOOK. It promised something it did not deliver and I felt pretty ripped off by that, if I’m honest.
I REALLY don’t think this book should have been called the science of sex. That was what I wanted to read about and it wasn’t what I got. There were moments where the author touched on scientific research and explanations, but they were lightly scattered throughout the book and not discussed in any great depth. This was SO DISAPPOINTING to me! I really had to force myself to finish the book as I had paid for it and didn’t want to waste money… but it was all about a series of concepts that I am very familiar with already. The book should have been called The Politics of Sex, or even The Psychology of Sex…
NOT the science of sex.
I also found it a bit… well… DRY, if you will pardon the expression. It just kind of stated a lot of stuff that lots of sex positive people write about on the internet… and it wasn’t presented in a very tantalising way, which is odd, when you think about it.
I read another book called Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski, right before this one. It was much more science based, and more interesting to me.
November 30, 2024
Hi,
I hope all is progressing well.
The Science of Sex by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, (illustrations by Jocelyn Covarrubias) biopscychosocially approaches sex, educationally. When perusing an Internom, I decide to buy then read the text due to my choice to constantly practically improve and grow as a mindful individual as well as romantic life partner (especially considering one may choicely-practically grow very well; one may be consistently healthy all one's life and reap the benefits of being so infinitely). One has much control over one's life. Considering biopsychosocial parameters in connection with psychoneuroimmunology, one may greatly define one's self (sexually, yes, even more so beyond sexually) well. I find the text may prove valuable for one seeking to be more aware of sex biopsychosocially though the text expounds encouragingly the importance of self-exploration, mindfully (as well as respectfully, consensually, especially in connection with good communication which the text champions greatly, if exploring sexually with another and/or others), to improve one's self awareness well. The text is entertainingly encyclopaedic in organization as well as advises to consult with a professional (varying depending on the context of need) beyond the text, necessarily. Additionally, I find the following texts may assist one in further deliberating contexts of concepts within The Science of Sex by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, (illustrations by Jocelyn Covarrubias): The New Sex Bible, The New Guide to Sexual Love by Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, PhD: Idiot's Guides: Kama Sutra by Dr. Ava Cadell, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex, 4th Edition: Learn the Secret of a Sizzling Sex Life by Dr. Sari Locker, PhD, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex (2nd Edition) by Dr. Judy Kuriansky, PhD, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire by Judy Ford, MSW, LCSW, with Rachel Greene Baldino, MSW, LCSW, The New Sex Bible for Women: The Complete Guide to Sexual Self-Awareness and Intimacy by Dr. Amie Harwick, Great Sex for Life by Linda Sonntag, Sexual Happiness for Women: A Practical Approach by Maurice Yaffe and Elizabeth Fenwick, The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime by Mikaya Heart, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price, Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us by Dr. Jesse Bering, PhD, She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner, Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex by Susan Bratton, The Vagina Book: An Owner's Manual for Taking Care of Your Down There by The Thinx Inc. Team, Dr. Jenn Conti, MD, and Daiana Ruiz (Illustrator), The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis—From Size to Function and Everything in Between by Dr. Aaron Spitz, M.D., This is How You Vagina: All About Your Vajayjay and Why You Probably Shouldn't Call it That by Dr. Nicole E. Williams, M.D., Come As You Are (Revised and Updated): The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Dr. Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter, M.D., Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing (Newly Updated and Revised 5th Edition) by Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D., A Man's Guide to Healthy Aging: Stay Smart, Strong, and Active (A Johns Hopkins Press Health Book) by Edward H. Thompson, Jr., and Lenard W. Kaye (with contributions from contributors which receive credits at the end of the book),The Joy of Sex by Dr. Alex Comfort, M.B., D.Sc., Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life by Dr. Nan Wise, PhD, The Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson, What to Expect When You're Expecting by Heidi Murkoff, The Complete Kāma Sūtra: The First Unabridged Modern Translation of the Classic Indian Text (translation by Alain Daniēlou [inclusive of help from Kenneth Hurry]), Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Dr. Stephen Snyder, M.D., Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas, Dr. Nita’s Crash Course for Women: Better Sex, Better Health, Better You by Dr. Nita Landry, MD, OB-GYN, The Girls' Guide to Growing Up Great: Changing Bodies, Periods, Relationships, Life Online by Sophie Elkan with Laura Chaisty and Dr. Maddy Podichetty as well as Illustrations by Flo Perry, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman, Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Dr. Matthew Walker, PhD, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Dr. John Gottman, PhD, and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, and Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by Dr. John Gray, PhD.
Onward and Upward,
Kevin Dufresne
www.Piatures.com/book-reviews
IG: @Dufreshest
I hope all is progressing well.
The Science of Sex by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, (illustrations by Jocelyn Covarrubias) biopscychosocially approaches sex, educationally. When perusing an Internom, I decide to buy then read the text due to my choice to constantly practically improve and grow as a mindful individual as well as romantic life partner (especially considering one may choicely-practically grow very well; one may be consistently healthy all one's life and reap the benefits of being so infinitely). One has much control over one's life. Considering biopsychosocial parameters in connection with psychoneuroimmunology, one may greatly define one's self (sexually, yes, even more so beyond sexually) well. I find the text may prove valuable for one seeking to be more aware of sex biopsychosocially though the text expounds encouragingly the importance of self-exploration, mindfully (as well as respectfully, consensually, especially in connection with good communication which the text champions greatly, if exploring sexually with another and/or others), to improve one's self awareness well. The text is entertainingly encyclopaedic in organization as well as advises to consult with a professional (varying depending on the context of need) beyond the text, necessarily. Additionally, I find the following texts may assist one in further deliberating contexts of concepts within The Science of Sex by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, (illustrations by Jocelyn Covarrubias): The New Sex Bible, The New Guide to Sexual Love by Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, PhD: Idiot's Guides: Kama Sutra by Dr. Ava Cadell, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex, 4th Edition: Learn the Secret of a Sizzling Sex Life by Dr. Sari Locker, PhD, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex (2nd Edition) by Dr. Judy Kuriansky, PhD, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire by Judy Ford, MSW, LCSW, with Rachel Greene Baldino, MSW, LCSW, The New Sex Bible for Women: The Complete Guide to Sexual Self-Awareness and Intimacy by Dr. Amie Harwick, Great Sex for Life by Linda Sonntag, Sexual Happiness for Women: A Practical Approach by Maurice Yaffe and Elizabeth Fenwick, The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime by Mikaya Heart, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price, Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us by Dr. Jesse Bering, PhD, She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner, Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex by Susan Bratton, The Vagina Book: An Owner's Manual for Taking Care of Your Down There by The Thinx Inc. Team, Dr. Jenn Conti, MD, and Daiana Ruiz (Illustrator), The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis—From Size to Function and Everything in Between by Dr. Aaron Spitz, M.D., This is How You Vagina: All About Your Vajayjay and Why You Probably Shouldn't Call it That by Dr. Nicole E. Williams, M.D., Come As You Are (Revised and Updated): The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Dr. Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter, M.D., Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing (Newly Updated and Revised 5th Edition) by Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D., A Man's Guide to Healthy Aging: Stay Smart, Strong, and Active (A Johns Hopkins Press Health Book) by Edward H. Thompson, Jr., and Lenard W. Kaye (with contributions from contributors which receive credits at the end of the book),The Joy of Sex by Dr. Alex Comfort, M.B., D.Sc., Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life by Dr. Nan Wise, PhD, The Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson, What to Expect When You're Expecting by Heidi Murkoff, The Complete Kāma Sūtra: The First Unabridged Modern Translation of the Classic Indian Text (translation by Alain Daniēlou [inclusive of help from Kenneth Hurry]), Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Dr. Stephen Snyder, M.D., Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas, Dr. Nita’s Crash Course for Women: Better Sex, Better Health, Better You by Dr. Nita Landry, MD, OB-GYN, The Girls' Guide to Growing Up Great: Changing Bodies, Periods, Relationships, Life Online by Sophie Elkan with Laura Chaisty and Dr. Maddy Podichetty as well as Illustrations by Flo Perry, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman, Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Dr. Matthew Walker, PhD, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Dr. John Gottman, PhD, and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, and Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by Dr. John Gray, PhD.
Onward and Upward,
Kevin Dufresne
www.Piatures.com/book-reviews
IG: @Dufreshest
February 21, 2024
Having met the author personally, I was already a fan of her work before reading her book. The book is beautifully illustrated and makes the taboo topics of sex, intimacy and relationships accessible and dare I say, fun to read about. I wish I had this book growing up as part of my sex education. Everybody will benefit from reading this book.
December 26, 2023
Skimmed. Simple, easy to read. I like the layout of the book and its visuals.
March 23, 2024
Some very helpful information, including about aging
September 27, 2024
A complete waste of time. I feel dumber having read it.
April 23, 2024
A super clear, thorough and empowering exploration of sex. Packed with need to know questions & answers, this ‘re-education” by Kate is inclusive, positive and real.
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