أحبك أكثر: كيف تعمل مشاكل الحياة على تقوية علاقتك الزوجية

by Les Parrott III, Leslie Parrott

Les and Leslie Parrot think that the forces that can destroy a marriage can also become the catalysts of a rich and deep relationship when the couple learns how to use their everyday problems to strengthen the marriage. The authors explore how a marriage survives and is strengthened when a couple learns to use their problems as motivators in their love life.

Genres: Marriage, Relationships, Christian, Nonfiction

209 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2000

About the author

#1 New York Times best-selling authors, Les and Leslie. A husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy relationships. In 1991, the Parrotts founded the Center for Relationship Development on the campus of Seattle Pacific University - a groundbreaking program dedicated to teaching the basics of good relationships.

Married in 1984, the Parrotts bring real-life examples to their speaking platform. Their professional training - Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist - ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge.

The Parrotts are New York Times #1 Best Selling Authors. Their books include the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, Love Talk, Real Relationships, The Parent You Want to Be, The Hour That Matters Most and Crazy Good Sex.

Each year Les and Leslie speak in over 40 cities. Their audiences include a wide array of venues, from churches to Fortune 500 company board rooms. Their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages.

The Parrotts have been guests on many national TV and radio programs such as CNN, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, The View with Barbara Walters, NBC Nightly News, and Oprah. Their work has been featured in USA Today and The New York Times.

Visit their website for lots of free resources at www.LesandLeslie.com

Reviews

[Lisa · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this book because I was looking for a Christian marriage book less heavily focused on roles (I find those of the Love and Respect ilk to be inaccurate, frustrating, and sometimes actually harmful). In that respect, I liked this book better than other ones I’ve read in the past.

Otherwise, though, it was a little...meh for me. It probably would be better as a springboard for discussion with your spouse if you had the workbooks they refer to frequently in this book. Without the workbooks, it seemed ok but not earth shattering to me personally.

It also really assumes that both partners are reasonable people who want to work on their marriage, so a lot of the advice will not work for someone in an abusive marriage or with a partner who refuses to talk or engage. I find it rather disheartening that in the entire book, they haven’t talked about abuse at all. Even the appendix, on big problems, only covered addiction, infidelity, infertility, and loss. I really, really wished they had covered abuse because many books don’t, and trying to apply some of this advice in an abusive marriage (think positively! misery is a choice!) would just make things worse.

I keep looking for a marriage book that I really love and would recommend to others but haven’t found one yet. This one is, to me, better than ones like Love and Respect but still not great. Probably better with the workbooks.

[Natasha · Rating 3 out of 5]

I don't know why I keep thinking I just need to find the right marriage book, parenting book or (fill in the blank) book to solve all my problems. There was nothing new or earth-shaking in this book - but maybe that's the point. We KNOW more or less what we need to do to have successful relationships, communicate well with others, etc. But we don't want to do the daily (boring) hard work of making things work. We want easy, a magic cure. Well, hate to break it to ya, love is not a feeling and marriage is a covenant lifetime commitment. Life's not all about you and your happiness. Think about your kids (if you have them). And maybe figure out some ways to bring more peace and kindness into your home so that you're not miserable the rest of your life. You liked the person when you married them, so...

"There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love." Martin Luther King Jr.

Audiobook ~6hrs on Libby app

Chapters:
1 Love is not enough
A marriage survives and thrives when a couple learns to use problems to their advantage.
2 why every marriage has everyday problems
3 Tackle this problem first, and all others get easier. (attitude) A fine line separates an obstacle from an opportunity.
4 Who said sex was a problem?
5 the 6 suble sabbatours of marriage - busyness, irritation, boredom, drift, death, pain.
6 How to solve any problem in 5 not-so-easy steps.
7 joining your spirits like never before
8 the good that comes from a problem-solving marriage

[Victoria · Rating 3 out of 5]

Got it from the library as an audiobook. Maybe it was better with the workbook but I felt it wasn't deep enough.

[Alison · Rating 3 out of 5]

decent content presented in concise and straightforward fashion.. some excellent points made by authors, as well as very good quotes from others dispersed regularly throughout the text but not directly discussed in the text to allow reader thought on their own about topics. Book is supposed to be used w/ workbook, which would enhance and expand the material. Also note that this book assumes both partners are willing to look at their marriage and their individual issues and work on these things. And, I think there would be difficulties with some of the material if that were not the case. And that probably would be the case a lot of the time.

[Greg Van Vorhis · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was pretty good, but by about the 7th chapter, my mind started wandering. It's a good supplement to the book Love and Respect, but if you are going to read only one book, read Love and Respect instead.

[Greg Van Vorhis · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was pretty good, but by about the 7th chapter, my mind started wandering. It's a good supplement to the book Love and Respect, but if you are going to read only one book, read Love and Respect instead.

[Robin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of good reminders about marriage. I really like the Parrott's. I've read a few of their books.

[Brittany · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book full of great life lessons, and it is for anyone. No matter if they are dating, engaged, married, or just have friends. There is something that everyone can take away from this book!

[Amy]

New Bible Study Book

[Aisha 🗺 · Rating 5 out of 5]

الكتاب اكتر من رائع ،في كل فصل بيتكلم عن مشكلة او عقبة تواجه المتزوجين مع ذكر أمثلة لقصص واقعية تعاني منها وكيف قدروا يتجاوزا العقبات..ممتع وجميل

[لطيفة القارئة · Rating 1 out of 5]

جيد

[Ahmed Gebril · Rating 4 out of 5]

ان من يحب يؤمن بتحقيق المستحيل ...

[Hossam Saed Samy · Rating 3 out of 5]

ربما لو كنت قرأته فى بدايه تعرفى على كتب العلاقات و الزواج لأعجبنى و لكن يوجد كتب اخرى اقوى منه و يحمل كم استفاده اكبر

فى العموم الكتاب جيد

[Melissa · Rating 2 out of 5]

Meh...

[Janina · Rating 2 out of 5]

I don't recommend the workbooks. Just extra money.