When I Feel Scared

The Way I Feel

by Cornelia Maude Spelman

Children often feel afraid. This book, with its comforting words and illustrations, will help children address those fears and learn some new ways to cope with being afraid. First, a little bear describes some of the things that frighten him, like bad dreams or big, tall slides, or when his mother goes away. Sometimes, he just feels scared and doesn't know why! But he learns there are things he can do to make himself feel better. A "Note to Parents and Teachers" reinforces the positive messages in the book.

Genres: Childrens, Picture Books, Emotion, Parenting, Nonfiction

24 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2002

About the author

Cornelia Maude Spelman, MSW, is a writer, artist, and former therapist. Her “The Way I Feel” picture books for children have sold over four million copies and been translated into eleven languages. Her new book A FOOT IS NOT A FISH! helps parents have fun while showing their children that it is not hard to see what is true and what is not, using absurd comparisons that will amuse every child—and parent.


SOLACE, a memoir, is about marriage, mothering, addiction, grief and friendship, and how listening can heal. Oo

Reviews

[مريم السمان · Rating 4 out of 5]

Scared is a cold,tight feeling.

[Dulce German]

This book is about a kid bear that talks about all the things he’s scared of but finds a way to deal with it when he is scared. The structure of the book helps a reader connect with it when it mentions things he’s scared of. As for the illustration they seem to be water-based with a lot of fun colors. I like how the book gives kids explains of things they can be scared of. This book can be used on the first day of school when some students can be feeling scared of starting the new school year.

[Suzanne Lorraine Kunz Williams · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sometimes we all fill scared. I love that this book tells us that we are not being babies when we feel scared. And it tells us some helpful things that we can do when we are scared.

* Talking Points: What makes you scared? Who can you talk to when you are scared? What can you do when you feel scared?

** Essential Oil Pairing Tip: My favorite blend for times when a person feel scared is diffuse 2 drops doTERRA's Balance essential blend, 2 drops Serenity and 2 drops Vetiver.

[Jessie Drew · Rating 5 out of 5]

“I liked it a lot.”- Wolfie, 6yo
This is a simple and effective book in terms of suggesting different ways that children can take charge of their fears. It also identifies which fears are helpful (growling dog, playing near street) vs. unfounded fears (monster under bed, etc).
Definitely recommend.

[Sara Bushaw · Rating 4 out of 5]

This an excellent comfort book for many reasons. However the main reason this book stuck out to me was the overall theme/lesson which was showing/teaching students how be comfortbale when they are scared. This book gives great tips on how to help children control their fears and how to deal with them.

[Sterlande Altidor · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is great for parents to read to their children when they feel scared. This book is a very good book to help your children identify what being scared means, and how to overcome it. This book give parents ideas on how to help their children cope with the feeling of being scared.

[Lauren Holmes · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this was a cute little book. The illustrations are really cute and go with the story. It talks about what you can do if you are feeling scared. I like how it not only talks about what you can do, but it also talks about things you can do to prevent yourself from getting scared.

[Diane · Rating 4 out of 5]

"Scared is a cold, right feeling."

A little bear is scared of loud noises, bad dreams and when his mom goes away. But he knows what he needs to do. He can tell someone and talk about his fear, he can cuddle with someone or read his favorite book.

[Ray · Rating 3 out of 5]

BL 2.1
0.5 pts

[Mort · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book to help children with their fears.

[Kelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

What a wonderful book to describe what being scared means, how it feels, and what it might look like. Plus it gives some tools to learn how to deal with being scared.

[Magdalena Chavez · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good book to connect the feeling of being scared. it's okay to be scared and there are ways to cope with that feeling.

[Chanel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent series that explains to both children and adults on how to manage emotions.

[Montana · Rating 3 out of 5]

fear, worry, coping skills. ages 3-6.

[Shuvo · Rating 4 out of 5]

'বাচ্চাদের বই,
বেশ ভালো,
দুই মিনিটে খতম '

[Maureen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good reflection about the feeling of being scared.

[Virginia · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5 stars

[Fjóla · Rating 2 out of 5]

A good enough series. It held my 4 year olds interest and he identified well with it, nodding his head as we read along. We also read When I Care about Others, which is probably even better, as it explains empathy, a very timely concept to understand for 3-4 year olds ...

[Morgan Groth]

Author: Cornelia Maude Spelman. Tags: feelings, scared. Perfect book for the beginning of kindergarten when students are feeling scared or anxious about being away from their parents. I would want my students to know that it is alright to feel those things and to talk about those feelings. That way the class can work together to fix the problem.

[VBergen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Age: from 3 years old

This book is nice but all the books of the series I have read so far, are very similar: " when you feel angry/sad/scared/worried tell someone. It is o.k. to feel angry/sad/scared/worried, even grown up people feel like this, and that feeling is not going to last forever, you will feel better".

[Jenny · Rating 5 out of 5]

First time I've read a book in this series and I really liked it. The pictures are cute and it teaches good concepts to children. As a social worker/therapist, it was fun to see that this was written by a social worker. I look forward to reading other books in this series.

[Ayana Mishelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

a little bear tells about things that frighten him, like his mom going away ect. this is a great book to talk about feeling and getting in touch with them and naming feelings. great for sneak -in- reading or when someone in the class is dealing with fears and emotions

[Suzanne · Rating 2 out of 5]

I've been collecting all these Cornelia Spelman books about feelings for the library. They are good for guidance class or other classroom discussions with younger students about dealing with feelings appropriately (or even identifying feelings).

[Greta · Rating 4 out of 5]

This series of "feel" books are helpful to children and their parents as they explore and come to understand different emotions.

[Theresa · Rating 2 out of 5]

a good story about feelings and how to get help in dealing with them

[Theresa · Rating 2 out of 5]

a good story about feelings and how to get help in dealing with them

[Andrea · Rating 2 out of 5]

ok

[Michelle Tempted By Books · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was really cute and helpful. I would recommend it to any parents or children who are dealing with anxiety and fears.

[Meghan]

This book helps children to understand what they are feeling and discover ways to cope with those feelings that are appropriate. Great for young children.

[Stacy Vance · Rating 4 out of 5]

Book on how to deal with feelings. Good book for small kids.