Big Girls Don't Whine (Women of Faith

by Jan Silvious

No one wants to be labeled a whiner, but many of us go through life with a "poor me," victim mentality that sounds a whole lot like whining. God never intended for us to act like "little girls," says Jan Silvious. His goal is for each of us to live as "big girls"-mature Christian women-who are capable of enjoying the richness of life He has planned. In Big Girls Don't Whine, Jan helps So how can we tell if we're living life as an immature 'little girl" or a confident "big girl?" A little girl… A big girl… In Big Girls Don't Whine, Jan Silvious calls us to be real women in a real world, free to experience a life of full of potential and vision. This book is the how-to manual for making it happen.

Genres: Christian, Self Help, Christian Living, Spirituality, Nonfiction

192 pages, Paperback

First published December 31, 2003

Reviews

[Carla Still · Rating 5 out of 5]

This has been a wonderful book to digest. The comparisons between the Little Girls and the Big Girls help me identify where I am in the growing into the Big Girl process. Jan Silvious shares many insights of her journey and communicates clearly how we should behave to be a Big Girl. This both was both encouraging and challenging. She addresses issues that face both Little and Big Girls.

[Patti Kimzey-bojorquez · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of my favorite books of all time! Jan Silvious is a master at getting the point across without preaching at us. She makes her point well. Through her personal experiences, she teaches us to be better wives, Moms, sisters, daughters and friends by helping us to be Big girls when things don't always go our way. I think this is a must read for young women everywhere.

[Rachal T · Rating 3 out of 5]

The author gave a lot of examples of the growing process from a little girl to a big girl. Most of which I could not relate to on a personal level in my twenties. There was value in the broader examples and friendship level of examples how big girls can inspire those around them.

[Lady Mac · Rating 2 out of 5]

I don’t think this book has aged well. Not to say it’s completely unreadable. There are good quotes, and some decent life advice. I wish I would feel comfortable enough to recommend this to someone else, but I just can’t and here’s why:

Many of the differences between “little girls” and “big girls” can actually be attributed to diagnosable mental health issues. This book was written 20 years so I give some grace with that. However, I feel the author is overly harsh and sometimes just uncharitable of her descriptions of little girls.
I also think this book suffers from underdeveloped theology. She attempts throughout to point to Biblical reasoning for how we should live, but then structures sentences as if God’s plan in centered on us rather than us needing to make Him our center.

I would however read an updated/modern version of this just to see if the author has grown into a “Big girl legacy” at all in the last 20 years.

[Jo · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an interesting read about being a 'big girl' and having a mature attitude to life. It was easy and engaging to read, and I read the whole book in a day (though I did skip out the 2/3 chapters (e.g. on being a mother) which aren't relevant to me currently). I personally didn't find it revolutionary, but then I have given a fair amount of thought to the subject already, but it was an enjoyable and worthwhile read nonetheless.

[Noemi Barrios · Rating 5 out of 5]

An amazing book, loved it, it talks everything a woman needs to know and you to handle crisis, how to act as a mature woman, also it has some questions that makes you analize yourself and take little steps to be better,

[Yoshiko · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books I’ve read about personal growth and spiritual walk with God. This book is meaty but well explained. Jan Silvious writes her message with grace in a way that makes me want to accept the responsibility (and privilege!) of a Big Girl and grow, without a hint of feeling intimidated or “holier-than-thou.” Practical life applications and great portrayal of the realities of a Big Girl and Little Girl’s lives.

[Dot · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book! It has discussion questions at the back for a deeper study. Lots of great "reality checks, Biblical truths and encouraging "Big Girl Truth to Live By" boxes through out. My favorite and probably toughest one to digest was, on page 13, "Until you take responsibility for yourself, you cannot become all God hopes you will be."

[Leslie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I felt this had a good amount of basic information for acting like an adult and letting go of childish behavior. What I did not like as much was the choice of using paraphrases for the Biblical quotes instead of translations: almost all from The Message and The Amplified Bible.

[Bri]

What HAVEN'T I learned from this book? I keep rereading it, in hopes that I will keep getting closer to maturity and being a real "big girl!" Because, let's face it, I still whine . . . quite often . . .

[Meaghan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Fun book to read with a group. Not sure if I would stick to it on my own though. I finished this book and it is very much worth reading. Still doing group meet ups on it,so I am excited to talk it over with my group.

[Lisa]

Life

[Cindy Lofgren · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some chapters very relevant. A good read and made for good discussions in my moms group.

[Marla Madden · Rating 2 out of 5]

OK

[T · Rating 4 out of 5]

There was a lot of information to digest in this book. Surely every Christian woman would benefit from reading it.

[Shannon Maddox · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read my review here:

http://iron-diva.blogspot.com/2015/02...

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rec by Caroline Johnson