I liked this book, but wish there had been a few more pieces of commentary to fill in the gaps, particularly during the times John and Abigail were together and not writing. John and Abigail had a sweet relationship. They were good writers. They expressed affection often. They relied on each other and were a support to each other even when they were far away.
I loved the reminder of the importance of communication. Letters are special. I thought it was funny when they mentioned a few times to be sure certain letters were burned. Obviously, they've survived and tell a story. ;) I have to admit that I'm grateful for the faster communication we enjoy today, but it does help to put things in perspective. John and Abigail lived in a simpler, but also more complex time. I enjoyed learning of momentous events of that time through their eyes, and to be reminded of the importance of communicating about the everyday things as well.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes:
"They happened to be living through the most tumultuous and consequential chapter in America's birth as a nation, when the core values were declared and the abiding institutions created. They happened to be centrally involved in these declarations and creations. They happened to preserve about 1,160 letters between them them, recording their thoughts and feelings with uncommon candor... And both of them happened to be, each in their own distinctive ways, prose stylists of equally uncommon felicity. If you want to understand how the American republic was improvised on the run, this is a seminal source. If you want to understand how a husband and wife can sustain their love over a lifetime of struggle and tragedy, this is a splendid story of an emotional and intellectual partnership that endured to the end. It is an epic tale about the making of American history and a great love story all rolled into one (p. vii)."
"Abigail and John Adams's correspondence spanning the years of 1762 to 1801, covers the most important forty years in American history. The monumental topics of revolution, independence, and nation building, with comments on many of the major personalities of the age, are woven into the fabric of these letters (p. xiii)."
"Abigail and John formed the best-known husband and wife partnership in American history. In 2006, a television dramatization of their relationship aptly promoted them as 'America's first power couple.' But when the minister's 14-year-old middle daughter met the farmer's 23-year-old eldest son in 1759, no one could have guessed that they would be so immortalized. While much of that fame stems from their important role in American history, some also arises from the survival of nearly twelve hundred of their letters--a remarkable window into their world and a testament to the importance of written correspondence played in the lives of people before the modern era of rapid travel and communication (p. xii)."
"'Now Letter-Writing is, to me, the most agreeable Amusement: and Writing to you the most entertaining an Agreeable of all Letter-Writing (John Adams, p. 1).'"
"John Adams to Abigail Smith,
Octr 4th. 1762,
'Miss Adorable... (p. 4).'"
"'I am, and till then, and forever after will be your Admirer and Friend, and Lover (John Adams, p. 12).'"
"'My Friend, I think I write to you every Day. Shall not I make my Letters very cheep; don't you light your pipe with them? I care not if you do, tis a pleasure to me to write (Abigail, p. 16).'"
"'On my dear Girl, I thank Heaven that another Fortnight will restore you to me--after so long a separation (John, p. 24).'"
"Abigail and John kept up a remarkably steady correspondence despite the hazards of war and British attempts to intercept their letters (p. 37)."
"'The great distance between us, makes the time appear very long to me.... The great anxiety I feel for my country for you and for our family renders the day tedious, and the Night unpleasant (Abigail, p. 38).'"
"'I am anxious for our perplexed, distressed Province--hope they will be directed into the right Path.... Resignation to the Will of Heaven is our only Resource in such dangerous Times. Prudence and Caution should be our Guides. I have the strongest Hopes, that We shall yet see, a clearer Sky, and better Times (John, p. 40).'"
"'The education of our Children is never out of my Mind. Train them to Virtue habituate them to industry, activity, and Spirit (John, p. 40).'"
"'Phyladelphia, Octr. 9. 1774, My Dear, I am wearied to Death with the Life I lead. The Business of the Congress is tedious, beyond Expression. This Assembly is like no other that ever existed. Every Man is a great Man--an orator, a Critick, a statesman and therefor every Many upon every Question must shew his oratory, his Criticism and his Political abilities (John, p. 48).'"
"'Our Prospect of a Union of the Colonies, is promising indeed. Never was there such a Spirit. Yet I feel anxious, because, there is always more Smoke than Fire--more Noise than Musick (John, p. 54).'"
"Phyladelphia June 17 1775, I can now inform you that the Congress have made Choice of the modest and virtuous, the amiable, generous and brave George Washington Esqr, to be the General of the American Army, and that he is to repair as soon as possible to the Camp before Boston. This appointment will have a great Effect, in cementing and securing the Union of these Colonies (John, p. 59).'"
"'Sunday June 18 1775, Dearest Friend, The Day, perhaps the decisive Day is come on which the fate of America depends.... The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong--but the God of Israel is he that giveth strength and power unto his people. Trust in him at all times ye people pour out your hearts before him. God is a refuge for us (Abigail, p. 63).'"
"'My pen is always freer than my tongue. I have wrote many things to you that I suppose I never could have talk'd (Abigail, p. 86).'"
"'My Opinion of the Duties of Religion and Morality, comprehends a very extensive Connection with society at large, and the great Interest of the public. Does not natural Morality, and much more Christian Benevolence, make it our indispensible Duty to lay ourselves out, to serve our fellow Creatures to the Utmost of our Power, in promoting and supporting those great Political systems, and general Regulations upon which the Happiness of Multitudes depends. The Benevolence, Charity, Capacity and Industry which exerted in private Life, would make a family a Parish or a Town Happy, employed upon a larger Scale, in Support of the great Principles of Virtue and freedom of political Regulations might seure whole Nations and Generations from Misery, Want and Contempt. Public Virtues, and political Qualities therefore should be incessantly cherished in our children (John, p. 88).'"
"'Friendship I have for others is far unequal to that which warms my Heart for you (John, p. 91).'"
"'The Events of War are uncertain: We cannot insure Success, but We can deserve it (John, p. 97).'"
"'I am Charmed with the Sentiments of Common Sense; and wonder how an honest Heart, one who wishes the welfare of their country, and the happiness of posterity can hesitate one moment at adopting them; I want to know how those sentiments are received in Congress? I dare say there would be no difficulty in procuring a vote and instructions from all the Assemblies in New England for independancy. I most sincerely wish that now in the Lucky Minuet it might be done (Abigail, p. 99).'"
"'May 14 1776, I set down to write you a Letter wholy Domestick with out one work of politcks or an thing of the Kind, and tho you may have matters of infinately more importance before you, yet let it come as a relaxation to you (Abigail, p. 117).'"
"'I have some Thoughts of petitioning the General Court for Leave to bring my Family, here. I am a lonely, forlorn, Creature here.... Among all the Disappointments, and Perplexities, which have fallen to my share in Life, nothing has contributed so much to support my Mind, as the choice Blessing of a Wife, whose Capacity, enabled her to comprehend, and whose pure Virtue obliged her to approve the Views of her Husband. This has been the cheering Consolation of my Heart, in my most solitary gloomy and disconsolate Hours (John, p. 119).'"
"'Philadelphia July 3, 1776, Yesterday the greatest Question was decided, which ever was debated in America, and a greater perhaps, never was or will be decided among Men. A Resolution was passed without one dissenting Colony 'that these united Colonies, are, and of Right ought to be free and independent States, and as such, they have, and of Right ought to have full Power to make War, conclude Peace, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things, which other States may rightfully do.' You will see in a few days a Declaration setting forth the Causes, which have impell'd Us to this mighty Revolution, and the Reasons which will justify it, in the Sight of God and Man (John, p. 122).'"
"'The Second Day of July 1776, will be the most memorable Epocha, in the History of America. I am apt to believe that it will be celebrated, by succeeding Generations, as the great anniversary Festival. It ought to be commemorated, as the Day of Deliverance by solemn Acts and Devotion to God Almighty. It ought to be solemnized with Pomp and Parade with shews, Games, Sports, Guns, Bells, Bonfires and Illuminations from one End of the Continent to the other from this Time forward forever more (John, p. 125).'"
"'your Letters never fail to give me pleasure, be the subject what it will, yet it was greatly heightened by the prospect of the future happiness and glory of our Country; nor am I a little Gratified when I reflect that a person so nearly connected with me has has the Honour of Being a principal actor, in laying a foundation for its future Greatness. May the foundation of our New constitution, be justice Truth and Righteousness. Like the wise Mans house may it be founded upon those Rocks and then neither storms or temptests will overthrow it (Abigail, p. 129).'"
"'This Country knows not, and never can know the Torments, I have endured for its sake (John, p. 142).'"
"'Your Sentiments of the Importance of Education in Women, are exactly agreeable to my own (John, p. 145).'"
"'I never was more desirous of hearing from Home, and never before heard so seldom (John, p. 167).'"
"'I really think this Letter would make a curious figure if it should fall into the Hands of any person but yourself--an pray if it comes safe to you, burn it (Abigail, p. 170).'"
"'Tis ten days I believe since I wrote you a Line, yet not ten minutes passes without thinking of you (Abigail, p. 172).'"
"'no Temporary absence can ever wean or abate the ardor of my affection (Abigail, p. 181).'"
"'Adieu dearest of Friends adieu--yours most affectionately (Abigail, p. 189).'"
"'Philadelphia July 28 1777, My dearest Friend, Never in my whole Life, was my Heart affected with such Emotions and Sensations, as were this Day occasioned by your Letters of the 9. 10. 11. and 16 of July. Devoutly do I return Thanks to God, whose kind Providence has preserved to me a Life that is dearer to me than all other Blessings in this World. Most fervently do I pray, for a Continuance of his Goodness in the compleat Restoration of my, best Friend to perfect Health (John, p. 190).'"
"'It seems to be the Intention of Heaven, that We should be taught the full Value of our Liberty by the dearness of the Purchase, and the Importance of public Virtue by the Necessity of it (John Adams, p. 201).'"
"'Truth must be attended to (John, p. 213).'"
"'By your Letter, and another, I suspect that Parties are forming among you (John, p. 219).'"
"'May Heaven permit you and me to enjoy the cool Evening of Life, in Tranquility, undisturbed by the Cares of Politicks or War--and above all with the sweetest of all Reflections that neither Ambition nor Vanity, nor Avarice, nor Malice nor Envy nor Revenge, nor Fear nor any base Motive, or sordid Passion through the whole course of this mighty Revolution, and the rapid impetuous Course of great and terrible Events that have attended it, have drawn Us aside from the Line of our Duty and the Dictates of our Consciences! Let Us have Ambition enough to keep our Simplicity, or Frugality and our Integrity and transmit these Virtues as the fairest of Inheritances to our Children (John, p. 237).'"
"'If God should please to restore me once more to your fireside, I will never again leave it without your Ladyship Company (John, p. 254).'"
"'Should we at this day possess those invaluable Blessings transmitted us by our venerable Ancestors, if they had not informed by their example, what they taught by their precepts (Abigail, p. 256)?'"
"'I never know how to close, because I can never express the Tenderness I feel (John, p. 266).'"
"'And may you my dearest Friend, return to your loved solitude with the pleasing reflextion of having contributed to the happiness of Millions (Abigail, p. 280).'"
"'You know your Man. He will never....accommodate his Principles, sentiments or Systems, to keep a Place, or to get a Place, no nor o please his Daughter, or his Wife. He will never depart from his Honour, his Duty, no nor his honest Pride for Coaches, Tables, God Power or Glory (John, p. 291).'"
"'If Congress would determine to continue me in Europe, I must intreat you to come to me, for I assure you, my Happiness depends so much upon it, that I am determined, if you decline coming to me, to come to you (John, p. 300).'"
"'The Presidents Behaviour was in Character, and consequently charming to all I write no Particulars, because the News papers will give you the details. His Reception has been cordial and Splendid. His Journey will do much public good (John, p. 331).'"
"There is a three-year break in the correspondence at this point. After John completed his two-month trip to Massachusetts in late 1789, he and Abigail were not separated again until John left Abigail in Braintree upon his return to Philadelphia in late 17982. Other than the years in Europe, this is the longest period they spent together since John left for the First Continental Congress in 1774 (p. 332).”
“‘I would not entertain you with this political Title tattle, if I had any thing of more importance to say. One Thing of more importance to me, but no News to you is that I am yours with unabated Esteem and affection forever (John, p. 333).’”
“‘Present me affectionatly to all my Friends particularly to Mrs Washington whom I both Love and respect (Abigail, p. 342).’”
“‘You know my mind is much occupied with the affairs of our Country. If as a Female I may be calld Idle, I never can be an uninterested Spectator of what is transacting upon the great Theater, when the welfare and happiness of my Children and the rising generation is involved in the present counsels and conduct of the Principal Actors who are now exhibiting upon the stage (Abigail, p. 346).’”
“John’s frustration with his life in Philadelphia during these years filled his letters. The emergence of political parties, increasing sectional disputes, and the growing influence of Revolutionary France upon Americans, especially the Democratic-Republican opposition, troubled him (p. 353).”
“‘I can never be sufficiently thankful to you for your constant unwearied Attention and tender care of my Mother. I hope that you will be very careful of your own Health and not suffer your Solicitude and Exertions to go beyond your Strength (Abigail, p. 363).’”
“‘Thanks to the Father of the Rain, and the Bountifull dispencer of the dews of Heaven, who has plentifully waterd the dry and thirsty Earth (Abigail, p. 3710.’”
“‘It is proper that I should apprize you, that the President has it in contemplating to Send your son to Holland, that you may recollect yourself and prepare for the Event (John, p. 373).’”
“In January 1796, word began to circulate in Philadelphia that George Washington intended to retire, making John the heir apparent. This development changed the temper of Abigail and John’s correspondence and caused them to weight the consequences for both of them of his possible election (p. 397).”
“‘I have this day however heard News that is of some Importance. It must be kept a Secret wholly to yourself. One of the Ministry told me to day that the President was solemnly determined to serve no longer than the End of his present Period (John, p. 398).’”
“‘This is one of my red Letter Days. It is the Anniversary of the Signature of the Declaration of an Armistice between The U.S. and G. Britian, in 1783. There are Several of these Days in my Calandar, which I recollect as they pass in review, but which nobody else remembers. And indeed it is no otherwise worth my while to remember them than to render an Ejaculation of Gratitude to Providence for the Blessing (John, p. 399).’”
“‘Quincy Febry 8 1797, ‘The Sun is drest in Brighest Beams To give thy Honours to the Day.’ And may it prove an auspicious prelude to each ensuing Season. You have this day to declare yourself Head of A Nation. And now O Lord my God thou hast made they servant ruler over the people, give unto him an understanding Heart, that he may know how to go out, and come in before this great people, that he may discern between good and bad, for who is able to judge this, thy so great people (Abigail, p. 436)?’”
“‘I never write nor Talk upon Divinity…. Benevolence and Beneficence, Industry, Equity and Humanity Resignation and submission, Repentance and Reformation are the Essence of my Religion (John, p. 467).’”
“‘Before I end my Letter I pray Heaven to bestow the best of Blessings on this House and all that shall hereafter inhabit it. May none but honest and wise Men ever rule over this roof (John, p. 473).’”
“‘Washington 2. November 1818. My ever dear and revered Father, By a Letter from my Son John, I have this day been apprized, of that afflictive dispensation of Providence, which has bereft you of the partner of your life; me of the tenderest and most affectionate of Mothers, and our species, of one whose existence was Virtue, and whose life was a perpetual demonstration of the moral excellence of which human nature is susceptible. How shall I offer you consolation for your loss, when I feel that my own is irreparable (John Quincy Adams, p. 478)?’”