This is a portion of the larger work, The Approximate Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager. This edition contains the book’s introduction, the entirety of Chapter 7, endnotes for the chapter, index, permissions, and the “about the author” sections.
Chapter 7 (“Protecting the Wish to Learn”) presents some of the barriers to learning that arise for adolescents in the United States. While the chapter explores some of the problems associated with private and public schools—violence, poverty, racism, mental health disorders, learning disabilities, bullying, harassment, and aggression—it also looks at the barriers caused by a failure to understand the difference between learning and going to school. As more educators, policymakers, parents, and students recognize the problems of “teaching to the test,” and “racing to the top,” we need to refocus our attention on providing the experiences of engagement, curiosity, and perseverance that are parts of real learning. What are we learning from our students—about their will and wish to learn, in a world of digital media, where status easily overwhelms the formation of identity?
Michael Y. Simon, LMFT is the author of The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Oakland, California. Michael is a sought-after local and national speaker on the subjects of teens and families and has worked with thousands of children, youth and families since 1990. He served for many years as a high school counselor, ran or developed programs that directly served children from birth to 18 and taught psychology, philosophy and religious studies at several American universities.
Michael is also the founder of Practical Help for Parents —a support organization for parents, educators and mental health professionals who work daily in support of adolescents. Most importantly, he’s the proud parent of a sweet, kind, 26 year-old man who, as a teenager, couldn’t be bribed to write a paragraph, and as an adult, would like nothing more than to write for a living. How’s that for neural plasticity?