Aikido in Everyday Life: Giving in to Get Your Way

by Terry Dobson, Victor Miller

Conflict is an unavoidable aspect of living. The late renowned aikido master Terry Dobson, together with Victor Miller, present aikido as a basis for conflict resolution. "Attack-tics" is a system of conflict resolution based on the principles of aikido, the non-violent martial art Morihei Ueshiba created after World War II. Not all conflicts are contests, say Dobson and Miller, and not all conflicts are equally threatening.

Genres: Martial Arts, Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Growth, Communication

256 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1993

Reviews

[Daniel · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this is an excellent read. I especially liked what Dobson said about " zero/sum games". He's absolutely right when we says that most people treat life like it's a game where there must be a winner and there must be a loser. It's an indictment of our culture. The ability to see conflict as it is and not "imagine it" is crucial to navigating through life. I can't recommend this book more.

[Blindzider · Rating 4 out of 5]

For anyone on the fence about reading this because "Aikido" is in the title, do not fear. While much of the principle behind the techniques in this book come from the philosophy of Aikido, this isn't a book about "moves", filled with pictures of how to redirect and counter a physical attack.

This is a book about conflict resolution, primarily verbal, but at its core is a mental technique to remain calm and centered, then use the methods in the book to respond and take control of situations. It's probably the most frank and down-to-earth book I've read about this. Despite being written decades ago, all of it is still relevant.

An outstanding book, and one that I plan to use and revisit frequently.

[R · Rating 5 out of 5]

Will need to read again before I post a review, really let the information settle in, it’s a great change of perspective.

[Lao Tsku · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent for those who want to succeed dealing with confrontation.

[Kmilo Garcia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Alguno es tan amable y me. Envía este libro? Si lo tiene traducido al español mucho mejor. Se los agradecería

[Deepak · Rating 5 out of 5]

Martial Arts for the mind.

Be the water, not the rock.
This book teaches you how.

[Roxanne Friedenfels · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing book. It has completely changed how I deal with conflict. Psychological akido takes practice, but when followed get good results.

[Nathaniel Raymond]

Fun read. Some interesting and potentially valuable insight, although most of has been, to some degree, distilled by my own experience.

[Alexander · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Conflict simply is"

Slightly disappointing. An interesting way of putting principals from Aikido into everyday life. I kind of disagree with some points. All in all, not a bad book if you're into Aikido.

[Phileo Truth · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book marries a passive-aggressive mentality to the practice of Aikido. If you want to develop a lifestyle of passive-aggression in all that you do, then this book is for you.

For the rest of us, AVOID at all costs.

[Katherine · Rating 4 out of 5]

excellent conflict resolution book.

[Semi-Academic Eric]

Recommended by Sean Hannon of Castle Rock Aikido.

[Jason · Rating 3 out of 5]

Yes, it is a bit of a self-help book, but it was helpful at the time. I will more than likely pick it up and re-read it sooner than later. It is one of those to hold on to.

[Chris Friesen · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this book was quite interesting. The geometric diagrams of conflict were creative and helpful. A great read for anyone dealing with conflict.

[Spike · Rating 4 out of 5]

I've read this book a couple times. The strategies for handling conflict are concise and valuable. Common sense articulated nicely.

[Kate]

Recommend by Susan Jeffers feel the fear and do it anyway