Sanday does a good job looking at how American society has interpreted and comprehended rape victims which ties in to how we interpret sex and romance: the idea of man/woman as aggressive hunter/coy prey who secretly wants to be caught led to assumptions a woman's "no" means yes and a focus on whether the victim was chaste enough or careful enough to avoid it being "her fault." Writing in the 1990s, Sanday shows how late 20th century feminists pushed to change that, despite the backlash that argued to criminalize date rape and acquaintance rape was anti-sex.
An excellent book, though 30 years later the presence of so many rapists and alleged rapists in the White House and the even louder right-wing support for letting rapists be rapists makes a sad contrast to Sanday's hope we were getting our shit together.