Mode One: Let The Women Know What You're Really Thinking

by Alan Roger Currie

If a woman is really “wild,” but made every attempt to present herself as a wholesome, prudish, “good girl,” how would you know the difference? “Mode One: Let The Women Know What You''re REALLY Thinking shows you how. Read it.

Genres: Relationships, Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Womens, Personal Growth

168 pages, Paperback

First published February 10, 2006

About the author

Beginning with May 1999, Alan Roger Currie was the first Red Pill Dating Coach associated with 'The Manosphere' and his nickname is 'The Godfather of Direct Verbal Game Advice & Wisdom' because of the expert-level advice he shares with his clients.

Currie received the highest ratings for all speakers featured at both the Direct Dating Summit UK (November 2010 in London) and the Direct Dating Summit USA (March 2012 in Las Vegas) in surveys conducted by Event Organizer "Sasha Daygame" among the men who attended both events. Currie has acted as a dating coach and interpersonal communication consultant for men from twenty-five different countries, and he has been interviewed on local, regional, and national radio and television.

Currie was the host of the popular internet talk radio podcast show, "Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie," which was the most listened to talk radio show in the category of “Romance” and Dating & Relationships on the BlogTalkRadio Internet Radio Network for six of the nine years the show was active. Currie has also been a freelance writer for The Examiner.com and The NegroManosphere.com.

Currie’s primary specialty is teaching men how to overcome their fear of being rejected by women, how to overcome their fear of receiving adverse reactions and/or harsh, subjective criticisms from women, how to recognize women’s body language signals of interest and disinterest, and how men can train and regulate the tone and overall quality of their voice to use “erotic dirty talk” to arouse and verbally seduce women. Currie’s Mode One teachings have helped thousands of men of all ages, ethnicities and socio-economic backgrounds all across the world get in the habit of expressing their romantic and/or sexual desires to women of interest in a manner that is more highly self-assured, upfront and straightforwardly honest.

Reviews

[Alan Currie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wrote the book!

[Sean Goh · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title may seem like a PUA (Pick up artist) manual, but this short book is actually a manifesto for honest communication, as applied to romantic/sexual relationships. The principles can be applied anywhere.

Effective verbal communication comes from you knowing what you want, and daring to express it confidently and clearly.

Strong behaviour stems from you being true to your values, and makes you virtually impossible to manipulate.

Mode two behaviour (effective but weak) is overly concerned with the HOW of expressing their desire/interest. Too afraid of harsh, subjective criticism. It leaves you in the ambiguous zone, unsure of where you really stand.
Mode two men are honest only when they are sure it will be well received.

Communicating centres around expressing one's interests, desires, intentions and needs.

No tension, no interest.

No attention or companionship is worth your self-respect, honour or dignity.

WP (Wholesome pretenders) and EH (erotic hypocrites) behaviour is caused by the judgmental behaviour of men. Though I find that these two categorisations of manipulative women a bit narrow.

Rejection is necessary. It is God's protection from incompatibility.

Your ego causes you to be obsessed with how people respond to you and your behaviour, too easily swayed by the compliments and criticisms of others.

Anytime you overvalue the attention or companionship of a woman over your own, your behaviour will be WEAK. No one's time, attention or companionship is worth more than your own.

An overabundance of small talk arises from an overabundance of free time. Parkinson's Law, etc.

Platonic relationships are those without sexual chemistry.

Mode one behaviour will always prevent you from being led on. Being honest and straightforward forces reciprocity. Exhibiting totally non-manipulative behaviour forces the same.

[Obi · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is not a book about seduction or attracting women--this is a book about life. The author's suggestion? Be honest. Be real. Be exactly who you are and don't be afraid to express that to women or ANYONE. I love that. Definitely worth the read.

[Zarathustra Goertzel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple and to the point.

Basic sound advice on honesty and not being around the bush, with the needed caveats on not also being a dick.

However, Alan Currie's analysis of Mode Four actually strikes me as the more interesting: what way of acting toward women leads to hatred and anger?

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Rereading, I have moved from Mode Three to Mode Two with dashes of Mode Four.

Quite a good book, and it highlights things in bold to facilitate rereading.

The advice is to value your own time and to be so purely to-the-point others have to as well :).

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Reading 3: it's quite interesting to note how the content speaks to me differently as shifting into Mode One more often. The title is literally a concise summary of the whole book. With my current experience, I can say that Alan Roger Currie is spot-on in how it's super easy to appreciate "rejectors" when expressing interest and invitations early ;- ). And they also seem to appreciate figuring out where we mutually stand early on 😎.

[Divyansh · Rating 2 out of 5]

Okay, so the book started off really well with few examples, the chapters were insightful as well, but there were few such advices which makes no sense at all , the book says be honest that's great but being honest doesn't mean being open about everything, a man need to be a bit mysterious.
The book suggests give your number to the girl in place of taking her number, that's completely bs! You have to make a very masculine approach to her if you are expecting her to call you , the place where i live india the women are brainwashed , i can't find even a single "reciprocator" here. So i have to take things slow!

[Jesus · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book had an impact on my life. It's more than just talking to women. It's about having the balls to speak your truth no matter what.

[Starwhisper · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books ever!

[Alejandro Heracles al-Mu'minin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Forces an intense self assessment as to how we communicate and convey our 'romantic' intent. The process hopes to bring out more authentic and honest sexual communication by men.

IT could easily be applied towards very different lifestyles - with the philosophy of truthful communication.

Very insightful character profiles are given and analysis of the dynamics of a fully-fulfilling, and honest relationship

[Kitchener · Rating 4 out of 5]

In which ARC stresses the momentous priority of honesty and the sheer insignificance of personal rejection. A staggering treatise on the power and peace of mind inherent in a life of truth.....MOOOODE OOOOOOONE!!!1

[Brandon Noel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book. This book opened my eyes and made me realize that much of my behavior as well as others are highly manipulative. In addition, gave me a direct strategy for avoiding wasting my time and beating around the bush. Highly recommended if you want to improve your chances with women.

[Dannie *migraine in 5..4..3..* · Rating 1 out of 5]

The narrator is someone I would be telling to get lost in minutes if he made it past introducing himself. The tone, pacing, and attitude are off putting and sounds like every dirty old man older than my father trying to pick up what they thought was jailbait who didn't understand no meant no.

[Ala · Rating 2 out of 5]

Too much talk for one central idea: "be confident and tell ladies what you're looking for without waisting anyone's time. You'll eventually find your fit". A 5 hours wasted listening and waiting for something enlightening.

[Pete Aceves · Rating 5 out of 5]

Let 'em know

This book is eye opening and changed my whole outlook on women. The rest is on you. This knowledge is great but useless without action.

[ShildGen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Chapter "Mode one" was most helpfull and I really got a new perspective (5 stars!). All the other chapters was a bit of a time waste.

[Bry Corleone · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book.

[Henry · Rating 5 out of 5]

- (Actually a lot more applicable than just for dating life. This book is about effective communication): the main thesis of the book is that oftentimes the non-confidential self wants to not offend other people, thus we often communicate indirectly - what the author called mode 2 or mode 3 - (or being a phony) because we think being direct would offend other people (in reality it's due to the fact that we're not confident in ourselves)

- An example author gave is, during a networking event, sometimes we'll feel the urge to pretend to be friendly to other people. We don't reveal our true intention (such as I want a job from you). Author believe a confident person says what he wants, and is okay to get rejected

- Most people confuse confidence (mode 1) with being an asshole/exposing insecurities (mode 4). Being an asshole means not being able to read social cues, being rude, resentful, can't take a no for an answer

- (This reminds me of a famous incident between President Bush and PM of Japan. In Japanese culture, "no' is a harsh word that people rarely use. So they use "hai" to mean both a firm "yes" as well as "I'm aware" (which means no). When Bush pushed the Japanese PM to purchase American farm goods, the PM didn't want to say direct no, hence he said "hai" (I'm aware). Bush took that as a yes and led to quite a political outrage later on - this would be avoided if the Japanese PM could be more direct, and use mode one)

[Howsikan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mode One is an excellent book by Alan Roger Currie that outlines how men communicate women. Mode One is a mode of communication that is direct, sexual, and honest. As I read through the book, I reminisced on the times I fit the exact profile of Mode 2, 3, and 4 men, that is men who are supplicating, deceptive, and resentful respectively. As I went through Mode One, I saw that the real issue with men who are don't make their intentions direct enough is fear. That fear can come in forms like a fear of rejection and a fear of criticism. But indirect and resentful communication also comes at another cost: personal integrity. When you are afraid to tell your true desires or you hide them, you stop being true to yourself.

Mode One is partly about how to talk to girls. You tell them up front that you want to be physical with them. But it's more about not being a liar, a slimebag, and a weakling. Are you strong in your convictions and desires? Are you afraid? What defines you as a man? How you carry yourself, especially how you carry yourself around the fairer sex is a good test of that.

[Ali Akbar Zaidi · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the second book i have read from Alan Roger and gave this book 30 pages to spark my interest. His direct and honest tone is commendable and so is his idea of being direct, confident and straight forward in relationships. Its a short book with a mentality approach that will improve any man who read it. It is strange that Alan chalks out different contexts from the same idea, what he calls, Mode One and then draws out explanations from the idea that gell in with the original thought.
These days, men and women manipulate each other alot. Naïve players of the game are the worst losers. Through, books like these, men can learn and unlearn. Alan is a strong proponent of direct and strong approach and that is what men should be like. In an era of sensitivity and feminism, manhood is being undermined. One could balance, the meekness, niceness and hypocrisy with Alan's direct and confident approach to relationships. After reading this book, you would love to give it a try and play the game like how it is meant to be played without being manipulated again and again.

[Ietrio · Rating 3 out of 5]

18-02-2024:
I have observed the same traits / aspects, so maybe things happened like that, but the writing is forced the way beginner erotica writers are. I do not like that.

Also the schoolboy attempt at ”scientific” classification also marks a fail. First, because he wants to say to the reader: ”I did it”, and the scholastic style is precisely to mark ”the writer is an intellectual masturbator who thinks they understand life without any contact with it”. Second, women I know tend to be human. And humans, unlike Ikea furniture, fluctuate from one state to another in relation with mood and perceived context. And even the author notices the reactions will change a lot, defeating the whole purpose of the academic classification.

Another minus: the salesy, fluff infused structure, that might as well be a lack of structure. For example, it takes some 17% of the book for Currie to explain what Mode One means.

[Nahid · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book on interpersonal communications between men and women. And should be a required reading for every man out there. The book focuses on four modes of behavior which revolve around men's interaction with women. Author did a great job by providing detail overview of each mode along with manipulative natures women usually display because of them. The book emphasizes on straightforward attitudes that many men lack due to their upbringing and principles to overcome them. I particularly like the explanation on Wholesome Pretenders (WPs) and Erotic Hypocrites (EHs) and how men's behavior motivates this attitude in women. Of course, there are many WPs and EHs out there who have naturally become in this way. This was eye-opener for me. Men should get out from the "people pleasing" attitude and embrace the manhood.

[James Konrad Barden]

This is Not a Game

Everyone, both men and women, are saying this is the new, 'The Game.' The Game is a textbook on how social engineer girls into bed with you. This about direct, open, honest communication, without the manipulative detours. When I think about the 100℅ most successful approaches I've made in my life, I did exactly what this book suggests, without incentiving women or bullsh*tting around the bush. It's no wonder women are thanking Alan Roger Curry for writing the Holy Bible of direct game. The only game you need, just like the only pick-up book you need, is Not A Game. A+, and I've read dozens of seduction books with varying mileage, only to discard the unethical portions, and cherry pick the rest. Fortune favors not only the bold, but the patient and ethical as well, apparently!

[T. Laane · Rating 4 out of 5]

Well well well, what can I said. I wanted to stop this book, the quality was bad and the author was so boastful and full of ego… BUT, i did continue, and I did like good things about this book too. The biggest thing - if you are not asking for what you want in life, then you start to become resentful in time. So you MUST ask for everything that you want, otherwise the poison will start spread in your mind…Don’t beat around the bush! When you need directions in a foreign town, you do NOT stop for 40 minute chit-chat and compliments - no, You ask what You need as the first thing. The same with all in life, don’t hide, be honest what you want and need.

[Daniel Hirsch · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is one of the most repetitive books I've ever read. The author recommends to not indulge in "fluff talk" with women, yet keeps on iterating on his concepts, which could have easily been reduced to 10 pages.

Also, I expected this book to be about "Mode One" communications and how to apply it. Yet, the largest part of the book is about types of women, types of men, and only the last chapter deals with the "Mode One" communication style.

Also, the author describes just two occasions where his communication style actually worked. How about more real world examples?

I give this book 2 stars because I like the concept. But the composition of the book is really poor.

[Mark Daniels · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to be honest

Roger has really done a great service to men by writing this book. He teaches men how to be honest about their desires instead of being deceitful and manipulative. So actually he has done a great service for men and women by writing this book. I have used the direct approach and it works very well as opposed to using the indirect approach although I have never been put in the friend zone because I had always been direct. This book really helped me to refine my direct approach skills

[David Nunez · Rating 3 out of 5]

I'm very interested in these type of books regarding how to deal with women. This book covers on how to deal with different types of women. I wish that this book would cover more scenarios, or situational areas. However, I feel all males should at least read this book, as this book is a good starting point when pursuing women.

It just comes down to the individual having to go out there, be direct and practice. This book is a quick read and can help the male start their journey to Mode One!

[Josh Dzarir · Rating 4 out of 5]

Delves deep into the realm of interpersonal communication, challenging conventional courting norms and emphasizing the value of directness in romantic and sexual intentions. Currie's candid and no-nonsense approach, combined with real-life anecdotes, provides a compelling case for the benefits of unapologetic honesty. While some may find his methods brash, there's no denying the power of authentic communication in forging genuine connections. This book is a thought-provoking read for anyone looking to reassess their communication strategies in relationships.

[Jatin · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you aren't annoyed due to having been rejected, this book is a waste of your time. (or more probably, something of similar effect)

That's, incidentally, true. Though it's a rather interesting and short book, it doesn't really serve any research purposes much - as the author said, it's strictly a self-help book.

I'd have prefferred it better (even if I decided to abandon it) if that was said in the beginning rather than near the end. Except that, the book seems legit enough.

[Sudip Paul · Rating 2 out of 5]

It was good if I hadn't watched too many videos about charisma, women and game in youtube. I already got the idea two years ago.
But someone who is novice in the matter's of women, this book gives them a thorough explanation about being totally honest with women. Be calm and share your true desire with the women ,who is attracted to you. You got to do the work. It reminds you, how you can maintain calmness and focus on real intimacy rather than just beating around the bush.

[Andres · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent. No, wait, brilliant.
The author breaks it down to simple concepts, which, at times hurt because they are so true. The psychology of sex is so much more appreciated when you grasp the basics of it. The things that are more intuitive for some are eluding to others. Whether you are an expert in this field or a novice, I would whole heartedly recommend reading this book.

[Corwin L Guilliams · Rating 5 out of 5]

For the fatherless and brotherless

This book is for the man who grew up without a father, was ostracized by his brothers(think Joseph from the Bible)- yet, always know he was that guy(chosen to do great things). This book will help restore the boldness, honesty and confidence you once had in yourself as a young boy. This time, you will be better than ever before!