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Complementos perfectos: Cómo diferencias divinamente diseñadas pueden fortalecer su matrimonio
Ella lee a las personas, él los manuales. Él no pregunta direcciones, ella no aprecia su consejo. Ella es muy misteriosa, él muy práctico. Él no parece escuchar, ella parece muy emocional. La lista sigue y sigue. En un mundo donde a hombres y mujeres se les dice constantemente que no son diferentes, Mente de él, Mente de ella muestra lo que las parejas de forma instintiva que los hombres y las mujeres son diferentes, y estas diferencias diseñadas divinamente, cuando se entiende, hacen a un matrimonio más fuerte y feliz. Combinando lo más reciente en la investigación del cerebro junto con sus experiencias durante más de tres décadas de matrimonio y asesoramiento, el Dr. Walt y Barb Larimore explican cómo el diseño único de cada sexo, en particular el cerebro y hormonas singulares de cada uno, resultan en hábitos, tendencias y matices de pensamiento y acción diferentes.
256 pages, Paperback
First published February 1, 2008
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Walt Larimore
73 books120 followersDr. Larimore is one of America’s best-known family physicians and is listed in the Best Doctors in America, Who’s Who in Medicine and Healthcare, and the International Health Professionals of the Year. His MD degree is from Louisiana State University, with AOA Honors, while his Family Medicine residency, with an emphasis in Sports Medicine was at the Duke University Medical Center, where he was named one of the top twelve Family Medicine residents in the nation. He also completed a Queen’s Teaching Fellowship in Nottingham, England.
After his training, Dr. Larimore practiced 4 years in the Smoky Mountains before moving to Central Florida to practice for 16 years. From 1993-1994 he served as the President of the Florida Academy of Family Physicians. In 1996, he was named America’s Outstanding Family Medicine Educator by the American Academy of Family Physicians. In 2000, Dr. and Mrs. Larimore were named Educators of the Year by the Christian Medical Association.
The Larimores relocated to Colorado Springs in 2001. Besides practicing family medicine, Dr. Larimore is also an author, educator, and medical journalist. He serves on the adjunct family medicine faculty of the In His Image Family Medicine Residency in Tulsa, Oklahoma and the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center in Denver.
As a medical journalist, from 1996 to 2001, Dr. Larimore hosted over 850 episodes of the daily, live Ask the Family Doctor show on Fox’s Health Network, being awarded the prestigious "Gracie" Award by the American Women in Radio and Television. From 2002 to 2004, Dr. Larimore hosted the Focus on Your Family’s Health’s syndicated radio and TV features.
Dr. Larimore is a frequent guest about family health topics on a wide variety of television and radio programs and has appeared on The Today Show, CBS’s Morning Show, several Fox News programs, and CNN’s Anderson Cooper 360. He provides medical commentary for radio stations in Chicago, Orlando, Baltimore, Minneapolis/St. Paul, Tampa, Albuquerque, and Ft. Wayne.
Dr. Larimore has written or edited over twenty books and over 600 articles in a variety of medical journals and lay magazines. His best-selling books include Bryson City Tales, Bryson City Seasons, and Alternative Medicine: The Christian Handbook.
Dr. Larimore co-wrote, with Barb, his childhood sweetheart and wife of over 35 years, His Brain, Her Brain: How divinely designed differences can strengthen your marriage. He also wrote the health chapter for Coach Joe Gibb’s best-selling book Game Plan for Life.
Dr. Larimore’s most recent health book is 10 Essentials of Happy, Healthy People, an undated and revised version of his award winning book 10 Essentials of Highly Healthy People. In 2009 he co-wrote his first novel, Time Scene Investigators: The Gabon Virus, with Paul McCusker. The sequel, Time Scene Investigators: The Influenza Bomb will be released in 2010.
After his training, Dr. Larimore practiced 4 years in the Smoky Mountains before moving to Central Florida to practice for 16 years. From 1993-1994 he served as the President of the Florida Academy of Family Physicians. In 1996, he was named America’s Outstanding Family Medicine Educator by the American Academy of Family Physicians. In 2000, Dr. and Mrs. Larimore were named Educators of the Year by the Christian Medical Association.
The Larimores relocated to Colorado Springs in 2001. Besides practicing family medicine, Dr. Larimore is also an author, educator, and medical journalist. He serves on the adjunct family medicine faculty of the In His Image Family Medicine Residency in Tulsa, Oklahoma and the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center in Denver.
As a medical journalist, from 1996 to 2001, Dr. Larimore hosted over 850 episodes of the daily, live Ask the Family Doctor show on Fox’s Health Network, being awarded the prestigious "Gracie" Award by the American Women in Radio and Television. From 2002 to 2004, Dr. Larimore hosted the Focus on Your Family’s Health’s syndicated radio and TV features.
Dr. Larimore is a frequent guest about family health topics on a wide variety of television and radio programs and has appeared on The Today Show, CBS’s Morning Show, several Fox News programs, and CNN’s Anderson Cooper 360. He provides medical commentary for radio stations in Chicago, Orlando, Baltimore, Minneapolis/St. Paul, Tampa, Albuquerque, and Ft. Wayne.
Dr. Larimore has written or edited over twenty books and over 600 articles in a variety of medical journals and lay magazines. His best-selling books include Bryson City Tales, Bryson City Seasons, and Alternative Medicine: The Christian Handbook.
Dr. Larimore co-wrote, with Barb, his childhood sweetheart and wife of over 35 years, His Brain, Her Brain: How divinely designed differences can strengthen your marriage. He also wrote the health chapter for Coach Joe Gibb’s best-selling book Game Plan for Life.
Dr. Larimore’s most recent health book is 10 Essentials of Happy, Healthy People, an undated and revised version of his award winning book 10 Essentials of Highly Healthy People. In 2009 he co-wrote his first novel, Time Scene Investigators: The Gabon Virus, with Paul McCusker. The sequel, Time Scene Investigators: The Influenza Bomb will be released in 2010.
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October 19, 2020
It's very repetitive but definitely creates awareness for simple differences could cause catastrophic damages or develop/cherish the pomegranate and bunny. Highly recommended to everybody.
September 19, 2018
I recommend this book to all the engaged/married couples, the newly weds or couples that are married for some time and they face a difficulty in their marriage!
This book had absolutely opened my eyes regardless of some verses from the bible that are about marriage and what each genre roles must fulfill the husband and also his wife so that their marriage can be full of happiness.
In our time many people are very devoted to feminism but if you read the bible there are many verses that read superficially can transmit to the reader that woman is subjugated to her man. But that is not the true, if you know Greek the translation and the meaning of the words are much more deep and mean that the woman is a piece of art full of delicate and fragility that after becoming a wife she is meant to be equal with her husband but in the same time is the person that can encourage her husband.
Now through this book you can understand how the two brains are different from the anatomy structure till the different hormones. The point is that I understand why there are many divorces and that is because we have to understand how the other is created and how you can fulfill the needs of the other in order to live a happy marriage. I always thought that the woman's role is not to become her husband or to overthrown her husband. Yes we are equals but in different ways, we complete each other and we are not in a competition. For this we must know how the other function and how we can make him/her happy.
God's plan is brilliant and I wonder why do we try to be something which we are not.
This book had absolutely opened my eyes regardless of some verses from the bible that are about marriage and what each genre roles must fulfill the husband and also his wife so that their marriage can be full of happiness.
In our time many people are very devoted to feminism but if you read the bible there are many verses that read superficially can transmit to the reader that woman is subjugated to her man. But that is not the true, if you know Greek the translation and the meaning of the words are much more deep and mean that the woman is a piece of art full of delicate and fragility that after becoming a wife she is meant to be equal with her husband but in the same time is the person that can encourage her husband.
Now through this book you can understand how the two brains are different from the anatomy structure till the different hormones. The point is that I understand why there are many divorces and that is because we have to understand how the other is created and how you can fulfill the needs of the other in order to live a happy marriage. I always thought that the woman's role is not to become her husband or to overthrown her husband. Yes we are equals but in different ways, we complete each other and we are not in a competition. For this we must know how the other function and how we can make him/her happy.
God's plan is brilliant and I wonder why do we try to be something which we are not.
July 23, 2025
3.8
The differences between the male brain and the female brain are very interesting!
I appreciated the biblical worldview.
I didn't like the fact that some of the "scientific findings" seemed to be an excuse for laziness/selfishness.
The differences between the male brain and the female brain are very interesting!
I appreciated the biblical worldview.
I didn't like the fact that some of the "scientific findings" seemed to be an excuse for laziness/selfishness.
August 9, 2022
O carte foarte bună pe subiectul diferențelor între gândirea masculină și cea feminină. Argumentat atât științific, cât și prin apel la experiențe de viață personale, volumul de față ne arată cum să îmbrățișăm aceste diferențe și cum putem conlucra în acest proiect grandios al vieții, și anume familia.
Puțin repetitivă pe alocuri, dar recomand cu mult drag.
Puțin repetitivă pe alocuri, dar recomand cu mult drag.
July 14, 2024
Szalenie interesująca książka. Nie miałam pojęcia, że mózg kobiety i mężczyzny tak się różni! Bardzo pomocna książka, zwracająca uwagę na niesamowitą mądrość Boga i dająca realnie potrzebne rady co do komunikacji z płcią przeciwną.
October 27, 2020
From my own experience, do whatever is told to you, be sure you've heard and understood every word, and do it instantly..
This book reminds us what we may have forgotten while walking the way..
This book reminds us what we may have forgotten while walking the way..
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July 6, 2021Sporo cennych faktów o mózgu. Może być pomocna, ale na pewno nie jest idealna.
November 4, 2024
Seems to be very outdated information
March 1, 2022
I had to laugh while reading this book because it so accurately describes how my husband's brain works just as much as mine. Men and women are created inherently different, but we complement each other. I had no idea this development begins in the womb before birth, but it only makes sense. Interesting to read how the brain develops differently to better understand what influences men and women to behave the way they do, and I appreciated the explanation of word meanings that gives a better and more accurate understanding of biblical references - sometimes context can get lost in translation.
March 10, 2025
I don't recommend this book overall as a marriage book. It is presented as a book based on scientific research and the husband's extensive experience in studying male and female brains, but it diverts from science pretty quickly to make stereotypical claims of God's Divine design for male and female.
Recommendations call this book a "Practical Manual" and "miracle medication for marriages" and that it will help couples "learn God's plan for marriage and how to identity God's blueprint for each of you."
The authors' stated purpose is to use this data in order to better understand how God designed our spouse and their mental makeup so we can better love, serve, and honor our differences instead of seeing those differences as problems to fix.
Those are great intentions, and I have to say the first half of the book that goes into the scientific research of male and female brains was actually very interesting and insightful and beneficial. I would consider that data a good resource and food for discussion.
However, the second half or so had many sections that parrot the stereotypical Christian marriage jargon that has been mass-produced for the past several decades, that go outside of biblical concepts or science to make large assumptions and prescriptions for men and women and claim that they are God's design. The authors dis occasionally use caveats such as "this won't apply to all men or women so use your own discretion in understanding and applying the data we present," but then they go on to say how God designed these distinct attributes into men and women for a Divine purpose. So the overall impact is that the caveats are pretty useless.
This might not have been such a problem if their book was solely anecdotal and explicitly stated that their statements were based on their own personal experiences and opinions. But they tried to back up their claims first with science and then went to the classic Bible scriptures and biased interpretations to support their stereotypical suggestions, and totally lost the credibility that the first half of the book might have possibly provided.
Here is an example of what undermines their credibility to speak authoritatively on male and female brains:
Chapter 7 Sex in the Brain
These are just a few of the problematic statements in this chapter:
"Men can initiate sex anytime anywhere.
Women initiate sex less frequently.
Men are quick to respond sexually and are difficult to distract during sex.
Women are slower to respond and easier to distract.
For many women, feelings of closeness, warmth, safety, intimacy and affection can be as satisfying as an orgasm."
Gone are the "some men" or "some women" statements, and the citations are simply quotes from other peer-written Christian marriage books, not scientific studies!
They actually made a very shocking statement that had me rewind the audiobook to make sure I had actually heard what I thought I had heard. I was aghast.
Direct quote: "Men need orgasm for sexual satisfaction, women do not."
Excuse me WHAT?????
I had to rewind the audio several times to make sure I had heard properly. Remember this is an MD making this statement after reportedly deeply studying brain science research on male and female brains for many years.
He claims that the act of sex can be just as pleasurable and rewarding for the wife whether she orgasms or not, because she is receiving oxytocin either way, but the man only receives oxytocin during orgasm.
They recycle several sources that are cited in all the mainstream Christian marriage books, who support the idea of gender stereotypes that are God-given designs, such as this one from His Needs, Her Needs:
Dr Willard Holly: "The typical wife doesn't recognize her husband's deep need for sex any more than a husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. Men are like microwaves, women are like crockpots. A man's sex drive can turn on almost immediately. (This is called spontaneous desire.) A woman warms up all over like a crockpot."
They quote Love and Respect, Shaunti Feldhan wrote the forward, and her books are also used as citations. This is just sloppy "research" attempting to back up a theological position. I believe the secular world calls this "junk science."
The section "The Beast Needs a Beauty" is infuriating and offensive in my opinion, and not based on any biblical principles. It states that "having an attractive mate is one of man's most basic needs" and that women who are courageous enough to try lingerie are less likely to have unfaithful husbands than those who prefer white cotton underwear, quoting an anecdote from a book called Why Men Don't Listen.
"A wife's attractiveness is often a vital ingredient to the success of her marriage, and any wife who ignores this notion--for whatever reason -- risks disaster." quoting Dr. Willard again from the book His Needs, Her Needs.
I kid you not. This section made me furious.
Why is this so important? Oh because men are so visual, and God made them that way on purpose, remember. Nowhere do they suggest that husbands keep themselves attractive for their wives as well. Or that this might be equally important for the vitality of the marriage. Because no one thinks women are visual. Sigh*
So despite some good and helpful truths, there is enough garbage here that I would not recommend
wasting your time reading past the first half.
Recommendations call this book a "Practical Manual" and "miracle medication for marriages" and that it will help couples "learn God's plan for marriage and how to identity God's blueprint for each of you."
The authors' stated purpose is to use this data in order to better understand how God designed our spouse and their mental makeup so we can better love, serve, and honor our differences instead of seeing those differences as problems to fix.
Those are great intentions, and I have to say the first half of the book that goes into the scientific research of male and female brains was actually very interesting and insightful and beneficial. I would consider that data a good resource and food for discussion.
However, the second half or so had many sections that parrot the stereotypical Christian marriage jargon that has been mass-produced for the past several decades, that go outside of biblical concepts or science to make large assumptions and prescriptions for men and women and claim that they are God's design. The authors dis occasionally use caveats such as "this won't apply to all men or women so use your own discretion in understanding and applying the data we present," but then they go on to say how God designed these distinct attributes into men and women for a Divine purpose. So the overall impact is that the caveats are pretty useless.
This might not have been such a problem if their book was solely anecdotal and explicitly stated that their statements were based on their own personal experiences and opinions. But they tried to back up their claims first with science and then went to the classic Bible scriptures and biased interpretations to support their stereotypical suggestions, and totally lost the credibility that the first half of the book might have possibly provided.
Here is an example of what undermines their credibility to speak authoritatively on male and female brains:
Chapter 7 Sex in the Brain
These are just a few of the problematic statements in this chapter:
"Men can initiate sex anytime anywhere.
Women initiate sex less frequently.
Men are quick to respond sexually and are difficult to distract during sex.
Women are slower to respond and easier to distract.
For many women, feelings of closeness, warmth, safety, intimacy and affection can be as satisfying as an orgasm."
Gone are the "some men" or "some women" statements, and the citations are simply quotes from other peer-written Christian marriage books, not scientific studies!
They actually made a very shocking statement that had me rewind the audiobook to make sure I had actually heard what I thought I had heard. I was aghast.
Direct quote: "Men need orgasm for sexual satisfaction, women do not."
Excuse me WHAT?????
I had to rewind the audio several times to make sure I had heard properly. Remember this is an MD making this statement after reportedly deeply studying brain science research on male and female brains for many years.
He claims that the act of sex can be just as pleasurable and rewarding for the wife whether she orgasms or not, because she is receiving oxytocin either way, but the man only receives oxytocin during orgasm.
They recycle several sources that are cited in all the mainstream Christian marriage books, who support the idea of gender stereotypes that are God-given designs, such as this one from His Needs, Her Needs:
Dr Willard Holly: "The typical wife doesn't recognize her husband's deep need for sex any more than a husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. Men are like microwaves, women are like crockpots. A man's sex drive can turn on almost immediately. (This is called spontaneous desire.) A woman warms up all over like a crockpot."
They quote Love and Respect, Shaunti Feldhan wrote the forward, and her books are also used as citations. This is just sloppy "research" attempting to back up a theological position. I believe the secular world calls this "junk science."
The section "The Beast Needs a Beauty" is infuriating and offensive in my opinion, and not based on any biblical principles. It states that "having an attractive mate is one of man's most basic needs" and that women who are courageous enough to try lingerie are less likely to have unfaithful husbands than those who prefer white cotton underwear, quoting an anecdote from a book called Why Men Don't Listen.
"A wife's attractiveness is often a vital ingredient to the success of her marriage, and any wife who ignores this notion--for whatever reason -- risks disaster." quoting Dr. Willard again from the book His Needs, Her Needs.
I kid you not. This section made me furious.
Why is this so important? Oh because men are so visual, and God made them that way on purpose, remember. Nowhere do they suggest that husbands keep themselves attractive for their wives as well. Or that this might be equally important for the vitality of the marriage. Because no one thinks women are visual. Sigh*
So despite some good and helpful truths, there is enough garbage here that I would not recommend
wasting your time reading past the first half.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 26, 2020
I needed this book
My head has been in a funk since my husband and I got married. All I've ever learned about marriage in the Bible is very hard to live out when doing it on my own fortitude and rebellion and expectations and perfectionist head. I've had a lot of learning and un-learning to do. It's almost 4 years of seeing marriage with new eyes and this book has calmed my restless heart in ways God divinely knew I needed. It has allowed me to understand another layer of what's actually going on between my husband and I (cognitively speaking) which frees me up for truth and not guesses or misunderstandings to get in the way. Not that they still won't but I have a source to help anchor me when they derail me again! This book is a lot of brain science and application which is my jam (Whole Brain Child has been another good mix of brain science and application in the parenting side of things....well...more the human side of things!). I thought I was going to know a lot of what they were writing about but there was more new or reframed then I was expecting. Thankful for this read!
My head has been in a funk since my husband and I got married. All I've ever learned about marriage in the Bible is very hard to live out when doing it on my own fortitude and rebellion and expectations and perfectionist head. I've had a lot of learning and un-learning to do. It's almost 4 years of seeing marriage with new eyes and this book has calmed my restless heart in ways God divinely knew I needed. It has allowed me to understand another layer of what's actually going on between my husband and I (cognitively speaking) which frees me up for truth and not guesses or misunderstandings to get in the way. Not that they still won't but I have a source to help anchor me when they derail me again! This book is a lot of brain science and application which is my jam (Whole Brain Child has been another good mix of brain science and application in the parenting side of things....well...more the human side of things!). I thought I was going to know a lot of what they were writing about but there was more new or reframed then I was expecting. Thankful for this read!
February 16, 2025
Very interesting insights into the real physical and chemical differences in female and male brains often starting in utero and the effects they have on relationships and personalities and strengths and weaknesses. Also the last chapter or two had interesting insights into more accurate and detailed translations of some of the Greek and Hebrew words from Bible passages instructing in marriage/love/care of spouses.
A pretty quick read and recommend to anyone interested in understanding and improving their relationships with the opposite sex, especially married couples or to be married couples.
A pretty quick read and recommend to anyone interested in understanding and improving their relationships with the opposite sex, especially married couples or to be married couples.
December 3, 2023
This is a fabulous book! It is very insightful with its explanations of the differences in brain chemistry/hormones. I love how they take turns as husband and wife to explain their different points of view on the subjects.
Very educational with great scientific references. They also go into decent detail to explain the ideas behind hormonal differences and what it can look like from both angles. They also give great advice on what to do to ensure your partner is as happy as can be in the relationship.
Very educational with great scientific references. They also go into decent detail to explain the ideas behind hormonal differences and what it can look like from both angles. They also give great advice on what to do to ensure your partner is as happy as can be in the relationship.
January 18, 2024
I will read anything Walt Larimore writes because of his Bryson City memoirs. This was a different genre than I had read from him previously and a new premise in pulling together neuroscience and Scripture. The skeptic in me doesn't feel totally convinced of all of his points since I haven't directly read the studies he cited, and I felt that some of his evidence only pointed towards differences attributable to socialization rather than genetics/biology (on first read, on tired brain). But this was quite interesting, and I did learn.
June 27, 2021
This was pretty good. I really enjoyed the beginning that covered the brain differences between males and females. The second part focused on marriage and the last was based more on what the Bible says about marriage/male/female.
This is a 6 hour audio book. There is both a female and male narrator so it makes it much more interesting.
This is a 6 hour audio book. There is both a female and male narrator so it makes it much more interesting.
February 20, 2022
Finally! Things make sense! My husband and I had for years been trying to explain to each other "that's just how my brain works", but we didn't really understand that there are indeed fundamental differences in the wiring between his brain and her brain. I loved the Christian aspect as that tied it all together first me.
April 19, 2023
4.5/5 ⭐️
It was a really good and useful book, especially when you’re reading it with your partner and discuss all the things that seem interesting or relatable for you. I can’t say I’ve related 100% to everything in the book, but most of the things were accurate and it helped us understand and embrace our differences as man and woman and how the dynamics in a relationship work.
It was a really good and useful book, especially when you’re reading it with your partner and discuss all the things that seem interesting or relatable for you. I can’t say I’ve related 100% to everything in the book, but most of the things were accurate and it helped us understand and embrace our differences as man and woman and how the dynamics in a relationship work.
April 21, 2018
On my goodness.....how I loved this book. Probably one of the best regarding marriage I have ever read. It is so spot on. The psychology girl in me loved how it did refer to the brain and scientific thought.
July 17, 2023
WOW -what an eye opening experience. I got this book for several reasons, help with raising my boys and of course trying to navigate the rough waters of marriage. I just wish someone had given this book to me 20 years ago!! I highly recommend this book.
September 16, 2017
So interesting! Recommend to Christian couples for sure.
November 10, 2018
While I did not agree with every point this book brings up, I found the scientific discussion very interesting.
February 24, 2019
So helpful! A must read for married couples.
February 21, 2020
tons of insights on how the brain works, and how it works differently in men and women. very valuable
June 28, 2023
Must read for all who are married and thinking about getting married.
January 2, 2024
Even though there are few nice general truths that are good to always be reminded of, I find the book very generalising and going over the topic superficially.
September 5, 2024
Helpful for understanding the biological differences between a man's brain and a woman's brain that effects how we think, behave, feel, and communicate with each other.
January 7, 2024
Best non-fiction book I have ever read. Every Christian planning to date or get married should read it. A great balance of science and the Bible.
July 24, 2020
I needed this book. It helped me understand, to a degree, why I am the way I am. The authors do a great job breaking down the brian science into an understandable format. The authors are also very clear in the beginning that they speak in generalities when it comes to differences between men and women. I particularly liked how the author’s wife would weigh in when necessary to further elaborate a point, given an example of truth in action, etc.
Every married couple should read, study, and apply this book together. My only complaint with the book, which is a formatting issue vs. the content itself, is that they don’t explicitly state the scripture reference immediately after quoting a verse. Rather, they place a reference number that you have to look up in the index.
Every married couple should read, study, and apply this book together. My only complaint with the book, which is a formatting issue vs. the content itself, is that they don’t explicitly state the scripture reference immediately after quoting a verse. Rather, they place a reference number that you have to look up in the index.
June 21, 2012
It was easy to read, quick moving, and interesting. The differences in brain chemistry and structure between the sexes was fascinating to read and I found it affirming and useful (in understanding the wife). I will go back to review some of these insights on our differences soon.
I would critique the author's dedication to being balanced in talking about the strength of both sexes; he seemed quick to provide exploration into the areas where women significantly excelled the men (and provided examples for illustration), while the areas where strengths and weaknesses were reversed got almost no attention (other than to say that because of differences in vision and spatial assessment, men are generally going to be better drivers, especially at night). He probably didn't want to be giving himself too many pats on the back or to be upholding men as superior in areas too much (considering equality battles women have faced in the last 100 years - Greek to the Greeks and all), but I, myself, was off-put for the first 50+ pages as I read an implied "Women are better at this and that" over and over again without hearing the complimentary, "however, men's strengths are in different areas (here and here) and look how well they match up." The complimentary nature of our differences is the whole point of the book, so this would have been welcome.
Despite the space given in the review to my one beef with the book, I did enjoy it and have no qualms in recommending it to understand men and women (whether you're application is marriage or life in general).
I would critique the author's dedication to being balanced in talking about the strength of both sexes; he seemed quick to provide exploration into the areas where women significantly excelled the men (and provided examples for illustration), while the areas where strengths and weaknesses were reversed got almost no attention (other than to say that because of differences in vision and spatial assessment, men are generally going to be better drivers, especially at night). He probably didn't want to be giving himself too many pats on the back or to be upholding men as superior in areas too much (considering equality battles women have faced in the last 100 years - Greek to the Greeks and all), but I, myself, was off-put for the first 50+ pages as I read an implied "Women are better at this and that" over and over again without hearing the complimentary, "however, men's strengths are in different areas (here and here) and look how well they match up." The complimentary nature of our differences is the whole point of the book, so this would have been welcome.
Despite the space given in the review to my one beef with the book, I did enjoy it and have no qualms in recommending it to understand men and women (whether you're application is marriage or life in general).
November 25, 2022
As I am about to finish chapter 9 of this book, I want to mention (before I forget) some observations mid-book. This book was 5 stars until chapter 8. Both chapters eight and nine were quite unenjoyable to read because: 1.) The "Bible" versions used (esp. "The Message") were HORRIBLE and the verses which were used were totally off -way off from a correct meaning. It was a slam again what God originally said and letting man have his way to fit his opinion. There were all kinds of crazy things said that are not supportable; and these "facts" were applied to all rather than certain people. It's just disappointing that suddenly the authors get way off.
Update after finishing the book: The book, overall, gets one star from me. The last chapter -and I hate it when this happens- really did it for me. The author is putting-in his own ideas, and I sense that it stems from not being a conservative enough Bible believer. One cannot mold God into an image they imagine. Yes, I learned a few things about the different thinking between men and women, but there were other things, some a bit blasphemous, that really just made this book irritating. I read it all and gave it a chance but this book does not get more than one star from me.
Update after finishing the book: The book, overall, gets one star from me. The last chapter -and I hate it when this happens- really did it for me. The author is putting-in his own ideas, and I sense that it stems from not being a conservative enough Bible believer. One cannot mold God into an image they imagine. Yes, I learned a few things about the different thinking between men and women, but there were other things, some a bit blasphemous, that really just made this book irritating. I read it all and gave it a chance but this book does not get more than one star from me.
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