Love is the main component that binds a marriage together, but it doesn't end there. Sharing affection allows a couple to perceive that love. In Starved for Affection, Dr. Randy Carlson teaches why affection is so important and how to develop that essential, active ingredient in the affection that demonstrates love for each other and makes a marriage the rich experience every couple craves.
I don't want to discourage anyone from reading this book, however, I do want to caution you with this: I really do not think you can get someone that does not desire affection the way you do, to become affectionate the way you are.
So, if you want to read this book to help you with your own feelings on the lack of affection in your relationship, then read it. If you want to read it in the hopes it contains a panacea for the person in your life that isn't meeting your affection needs - I think you'll be disappointed.
But don't give up on your significant other - thru God, all things are possible.
And this statement from my counselor - something to think about. She said she thinks these books are great and helpful for relationships. What she cautions on is that usually, the relationship was great at the beginning and through the years, got a bit off course. These books help to bring it back on course. These books won't help a relationship that has never been good, one that was plagued with problems from the beginning and should never have progressed.
Favorite quote: Expectation minus Reality equals Disappointment.
I really like Starved for Affection because Dr. Randy Carlson gives very practical, realistic, and easy-to-implement advice. He also anticipates the common rebuttals and push back to some of his solutions - like "What if a spouse won't let go of an affair?" and "What if my spouse isn't (x)?" - and explains why he believes his solutions will change you and your marriage for the better.