Plain, simple and tough. Very good.
I guess maybe part of the usefulness of reading Zen books (as opposed to say, sitting) is to reinforce your commitment to practice and for me, this was a pretty good book for that. No artificial flavours or preservatives, no mystical bullshit, no made-up words, no exhortations for loving-kindness and compassion, no pseudoscientific justifications or the grating "scientists are starting to discover X; Buddhists have known this for thousands of years", just the same messages presented over and over again from slightly different angles, jarring me out of my self-conscious, self-centered loop (maybe if I practice long enough, I'll stop being so anxious). (*)
Books tend to go in one ear out the other, and I'm always anxious (hah!) about not having gotten anything out of them, so...
Useful distinctions: (a) preferences vs demands (b) goals vs obsessions with outcomes (c) things vs attachments to things. Useful practices: labeling your thoughts.
This book seems to be a collection of talks, of which I particularly liked:
- The Talk Nobody Wants to Hear - gives you an idea for the tone of this book.
- Cocoon of Pain pointing out strategies people have for avoiding unpleasantness (one of which is "If we can 'bliss out', if we can be a mindless 'buddha', we don't have to assume any responsibility for the world's unpleasantness".)
- Melting Ice Cubes (needs to turn into an animated cartoon)
- The Six Stages of Practice (not a how-to, just a catalogue of people's tendencies as they practice): [i] awareness of self, desire to control [ii] breaking emotions in physical and mental components [iii] more experiential living [iv] 80-90% experiential living [vi] (theoretical, likely non-existent) buddahood
Fun quotes:
- A guilt trip is a very self-centered activity
- Attachment concerns not what we have, but our opinions about what we have
- That's the problem with "positive thinking" and affirmations: we can't keep them up forever. Such efforts are never the path to freedom. In truth, we already are free
- Feelings are simply thoughts plus bodily sensations
(*) One slightly annoying bit is when she drags out the "oh, what a terrible thing it would be if somebody invented a pill that would let people live forever"... seems like should that come to pass, it would just be another thing that just is.