We Do Remember You

by Steve Butler, Grace Mayfield (Illustrator)

The title of this book is We Do Remember You because, even though our memories of loved ones live in our hearts, those memories often need ways of expression that require DOING. With this book, the illustrator and I attempt to help you to envision some possible ways of DOING your grief through simple actions that could be called rituals. Rituals are usually thought of as formal activities that need a trained leader and public place, but I tend to think of rituals as being any thing that we do with intentionality in order to honor someone else. They can be simple or elaborate; personal or cooperative; carefully planned or virtually impromptu but they are always enacted with love and care. And I truly do believe that in these rituals of remembrance, as well as the rituals you create to remember your own loved one, our spirits touch the spirit of the one we love, but see no longer.

48 pages, Paperback

Published December 10, 2009

About the author

Steve Butler is Bereavement Coordinator at Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care in Lenoir, North Carolina. Steve is a native of Chicago and has also served as a college chaplain in Wisconsin and Ohio. Steve is an Associate Chaplain through the Association of Professional Chaplains and is an ordained minister in the United Church of Christ. He and his wife have 3 grown children and 6 living grandchildren. Steve has also written, "We Are Known As Christ's Disciples", a Christian Education resource for children in grades 1-3, published through the curriculum series, "Discipleship Alive!" and also a family history.

Reviews

[Paul · Rating 5 out of 5]

A touching book that shows the perspectives of those who have lost children and the children who have gone to Heaven! It also shows some rituals (activities that anyone can do to demonstrate remembrance and show love for those who have passed), giving both ideas of some things that can be done and also demonstrating some of the activities - including for surviving children - that can get everyone involved. A great book!

Full disclosure: I received an advance copy as part of Goodreads.com's
"FirstReads" program.

[Paddy O'callaghan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is absolutely brilliant, touching, magnificently illustrated, and it would provide an excellent tool for those who are going through, or helping others, to go through the grieve process for a young child.

[Jamie Raupp · Rating 3 out of 5]

i understand the need for such books but its still a bit much for my nephew to understand.

[Laureen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was very much not for me, but I wanted it as a gift for my sister-in-law. It helped her and her family a lot after my niece passed away,

[Terry]

Read. not reviewed.