A Girl's Life: Horses and Boys and Weddings and Luck

by Marianne Gingher

In pleasant contrast to the recent flood of haunted childhood memoirs, A Girl’s Life is about growing up in a functional family, about nurture, serenity, wonderment, and the stabilizing contributions an unencumbered heart makes in the life of an observant child. Marianne Gingher makes the events of a “normal” girlhood not only engaging but distinctly illuminating and explores rites of passage that are as persuasive in shaping an artist’s sensibilities as are privations.

A meditation on the comforts of homeplace and family, A Girl’s Life celebrates the last era in America, the 1950s and 1960s, when it was still possible to enjoy a cynicism-free girlhood―when “it was still safe for children to take gifts from strangers and not yet unwise for them to leave the doors of their hearts unlocked.” As Eudora Welty wrote in her autobiographical memoir One Writer’s Beginnings, “A sheltered life can be a daring life as well. For all serious daring starts from within.” The seventeen personal narratives collected here corroborate Welty’s conviction.

Arranged in a loose chronology, the tales document a southern white girl’s middle-class initiation into the adult world. The first section, “Sanctuary,” recalls Gingher’s earliest impressions of family dynamics and shelter, a child’s yearnings and resourcefulness. “Truths and Grit,” the second section, deals with the tempering of bliss, a young girl’s first encounters with corruption and mortality. In the final group of essays, “Metaphors and Pies,” Gingher explores the contributions her recollections of childhood make in her ongoing trials as a parent and a writer. That her own childhood still permeates and inspires her present life is perhaps its greatest legacy.

Did the way Marianne Gingher grow up compel her toward the writing life? Certainly the impact of that distant time, specific people and events, sensory-steeped moments, and the privilege of being allowed to dream as well as do enriched and fostered the writer’s imagination. By turns funny, provocative, jubilant, and tender, A Girl’s Life is perhaps most notable for both exalting and justifying the place of happiness in a writer’s development.

224 pages, Hardcover

First published June 1, 2001

Reviews

[Rachel · Rating 2 out of 5]

The title was interesting and some of the chapters pull you in but the writing itself is very piecemeal. The author skips around throughout her lifetime telling stories and then goes back again to her childhood. Towards the end of the book she skips from being a teenager in the south to being a forty something woman looking for a job. Honestly, it was a little confusing. Also, she skips from being somewhat sweet to being incredibly cynical. She now looking back at her marriage (she's divorced) realizes it was a mistake all along (hindsight is 20/20). Personally, if I were her kid I wouldn't want my mom writing like that about my dad and his new bride. Overall not a great book. I had to push myself to finish it. The cover was a lot more interesting than the content itself.

[Lisa Mcbroom · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wonderful Memoir tells of Gingher's teen years in Greensboro NC during the 1960's. As a child my family visited realtives that lived there. A very plesant trip down memory lane!