Why Should I Be the First to Change?: The Key to a Loving Marriage

by Chuck Missler, Nancy Missler

This is the remarkable story of the turnaround of a 20 year Christian marriage. It reveals the dynamic secret which releases the power of God's love that is resident in every believer. This discovery has healed relationships all over the world.

119 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2004

About the author

Charles "Chuck" Missler was an author, evangelical Christian, and Bible teacher, and former businessman and Air Force officer. He is the founder of the Koinonia House ministry based in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. Chuck Missler, an honors graduate of the United States Naval Academy, earned his Master of Science in Engineering from UCLA.[1] In 1999, Missler received a Ph.D. in biblical studies from the unaccredited Louisiana Baptist University in Shreveport,[2] an institution founded by the late minister Jimmy G. Tharpe.

Reviews

[Mandi · Rating 5 out of 5]

This little book is powerful and has saved many a marriage! I just sent it to some Christian friends in the process of divorce and pray it has the same effect on them. This is especially recommended for couple having struggles in their marriage, but I also highly recommend it for any and all married couples, in fact, the principles are for all Christians (married or not) and can also be found in the study 'The Way of Agape' by the same husband and wife authors.

[Joshua Cannon · Rating 5 out of 5]

This little book packs a mighty punch and contains tremendous wisdom…Chuck is a blessed man to have such a tenacious and godly fighter! I so enjoyed the authenticity and sincerity that Nancy showed in pouring out their story. This is a must-read for all married couples.

[Danica · Rating 2 out of 5]

The first 3/4s of the book is her life story, and the "solution" is just to turn your problems over to God. While it's a good message, I still feel uncertain about how to actually follow the principle. I think the book could have been condensed to get to the point much quicker.

[Jannalyn Speedy · Rating 5 out of 5]

a challenging but beautiful look at loving others more than ourselves

I read this along with “The Key” and have been incredibly challenged by it. Sometimes, I found myself arguing with Nancy about some of her points, then realizing through God’s voice and His Word the truth in the knowledge she offered

I do recommend!

[Nicole C. · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is great for any marriage or those looking for Gods reconciliation in any relationship! Nancy Missler’s testimony of what God did in her life and marriage is a great reminder of God’s love. I think everyone, young or old, married or single should read this book!

[John · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was given to me by a friend who found it very powerful. To me, it seemed primarily directed at women, so I didn't relate to it as much. It makes some good points, and I found it a worthwhile read, but the writing and editing quality is poor at best.

[Francine Shrewsbury · Rating 5 out of 5]

The heart of the matter

Must read. I wasn't exactly prepared for God to speak so loudly thru this book to my heart. But He did. Through this book He was able to hold up a mirror to my soul and I have been blind. I hope it blesses you in the same way.

[Sherrese Holder · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nice Book

I enjoy reading it. I enjoyed her transparency. Very easy book to read. If you hope your spouse will change you are in for a shocker.

[Symonne Reid · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good Read

Very practical and relatable easy read. One I have and will continue to recommend to wives who are experiencing difficulties in their marriages