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After the Breakup: A Self-Love Workbook: A Compassionate Roadmap to Getting Over Your Ex
Find comfort and hope after a breakup with guided exercises in self-love
Picking up the pieces after a breakup can be difficult—but moving on is possible with a little self-love! This write-in workbook will help you process your feelings, develop healthier habits and patterns, and make yourself a priority as you move forward with confidence.
Build a better relationship with yourself with this uplifting breakup book.
Picking up the pieces after a breakup can be difficult—but moving on is possible with a little self-love! This write-in workbook will help you process your feelings, develop healthier habits and patterns, and make yourself a priority as you move forward with confidence.
Build a better relationship with yourself with this uplifting breakup book.
178 pages, Paperback
Published January 10, 2023
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February 4, 2023
The first part of this workbook is mainly informational, with the author sharing guidance about common feelings that people experience during break-ups, varied paths to healing, and how healthy self-love can contribute to the healing process. The remainder of the book involves fill-in-the-blank activities, meditation practices, journaling prompts, and other reflection activities that people may find helpful.
The material is well-balanced overall, with an understanding that the person using this book may have been dumped or may have chosen to end their last relationship. Similarly, the book includes insights for injured parties and people whose bad decisions led to their relationship falling apart. Although the author majorly emphasizes self-love throughout the book, this perspective doesn't justify harmful behavior. The author makes it clear that self-love isn't a way to avoid accountability or refuse to acknowledge your mistakes, but is a path to dealing with your "shadow self" in a constructive and healing way.
A lot of books about self-love and self-care end up sounding like self-worship, but this book gets serious about the inner work involved with self-love instead of making it sound like endless adoration and a constant stamp of approval of everything you think, feel, and do. I still didn't agree with everything the author said about self-love, but this was way more balanced than many resources on the subject. I also liked how the author included activities for readers to reflect on ways that they can show themselves love, like by considering their love language and what kind of care they would find meaningful from themselves.
I was impressed with this book overall, but thought that some sections would have benefited from more nuance. For example, when suggesting boundary scripts, the author indicates that you should lay out your boundaries and then tell someone that if they don't respect this boundary, then you won't feel comfortable reaching out to them anymore. The way she framed this could come across as manipulative and threatening in some contexts. You shouldn't give an ultimatum like that unless someone isn't respecting your already stated boundaries or has created an relationship dynamic where you feel generally unsafe. If someone doesn't realize that what they're doing is bothering you, it could damage the relationship for you to include a threat of future consequences with your initial request for them to do something differently.
I would recommend this book to teens and adults who are dealing with break-ups. It's geared towards an adult audience, but there is nothing inappropriate that would prevent a high schooler from benefiting from this as well. This book can also be helpful for people who are dealing with a friend break-up or the end of an important family relationship. All of the examples and exercises refer to the loss of a romantic partner, but the vast majority of the life advice and personal prompts can be adapted to other relationship contexts.
I received a free copy from the publisher through Amazon Vine in exchange for an honest review.
The material is well-balanced overall, with an understanding that the person using this book may have been dumped or may have chosen to end their last relationship. Similarly, the book includes insights for injured parties and people whose bad decisions led to their relationship falling apart. Although the author majorly emphasizes self-love throughout the book, this perspective doesn't justify harmful behavior. The author makes it clear that self-love isn't a way to avoid accountability or refuse to acknowledge your mistakes, but is a path to dealing with your "shadow self" in a constructive and healing way.
A lot of books about self-love and self-care end up sounding like self-worship, but this book gets serious about the inner work involved with self-love instead of making it sound like endless adoration and a constant stamp of approval of everything you think, feel, and do. I still didn't agree with everything the author said about self-love, but this was way more balanced than many resources on the subject. I also liked how the author included activities for readers to reflect on ways that they can show themselves love, like by considering their love language and what kind of care they would find meaningful from themselves.
I was impressed with this book overall, but thought that some sections would have benefited from more nuance. For example, when suggesting boundary scripts, the author indicates that you should lay out your boundaries and then tell someone that if they don't respect this boundary, then you won't feel comfortable reaching out to them anymore. The way she framed this could come across as manipulative and threatening in some contexts. You shouldn't give an ultimatum like that unless someone isn't respecting your already stated boundaries or has created an relationship dynamic where you feel generally unsafe. If someone doesn't realize that what they're doing is bothering you, it could damage the relationship for you to include a threat of future consequences with your initial request for them to do something differently.
I would recommend this book to teens and adults who are dealing with break-ups. It's geared towards an adult audience, but there is nothing inappropriate that would prevent a high schooler from benefiting from this as well. This book can also be helpful for people who are dealing with a friend break-up or the end of an important family relationship. All of the examples and exercises refer to the loss of a romantic partner, but the vast majority of the life advice and personal prompts can be adapted to other relationship contexts.
I received a free copy from the publisher through Amazon Vine in exchange for an honest review.
August 16, 2023
Great help immediately following my breakup. I am not in therapy and didn't know where to turn. This workbook helped me slow down, understand my feelings, and start focusing on taking care of myself. I was able to process some things about myself and my old relationship dynamic. I learned my attachment style and self-love love language and did some exercises that helped me let go of the past. I am looking for a therapist, but in the meantime, I really love this workbook, it has helped A LOT!
January 12, 2024
Read through this as a way to find workbooks helpful for clients. Helps to give different ways of processing a break up and moving past. Ultimately it will take more than a workbook, but this can help start the process
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