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101 Success Secrets for Gifted Kids, The Ultimate Handbook

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Pssst! Want to know a secret? 101 Success Secrets for Gifted The Ultimate Handbook is a must-read for gifted kids ages 8 to 12 who want to find success in school and life. If you know gifted kids, they will love the 101 awesome secrets, tips, and tricks included in this book! 
Chock full of fun suggestions and practical strategies, 101 Success Secrets for Gifted Kids covers topics including bullying, school performance, perfectionism, friendships, and sibling rivalries. Fun quizzes, tip sheets, and practical Q & A sections from other gifted kids and preteens make this book fun to read and give gifted kids insight into everything they've ever wanted to know about being gifted. Proven strategies for dealing with stress management, parents' and teachers' expectations, anxiety, cyber-bullying, friendship troubles, and more make this the must-have guide for every gifted kid!

175 pages

First published March 15, 2011

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Christine Fonseca

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Christine Fonseca is a bestselling author, licensed educational psychologist, and mentor for deep-feeling creatives. For more than three decades, she has guided artists, writers, and visionaries to embrace their emotional intensity, reclaim their creative fire, and cultivate a practice that is both sustainable and soulful.

Renowned for her pioneering work in emotional intensity, creative empowerment, and somatic writing, Christine dismantles the myth that sensitivity is weakness. Instead, she reveals it as a source of artistry, leadership, and transformation. Her voice is equal parts poetic and practical, timeless and magnetic — inviting readers into a deeper relationship with their art, their body, and themselves.

Christine’s books and teachings have touched audiences across the globe and been featured in Psychology Today, Parents.com, The Neurodiversity Podcast, and on international stages. She is the author of multiple bestselling works, including Nevertheless, Create: Art, Intensity, and the Practice of Showing Up; Write Through: Feeling Your Way to the Page; and Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope with Explosive Feelings

For more information, visit her website - www.christinefonseca.com

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4 reviews41 followers
June 5, 2011
This won’t be a normal review. It is a record of Ms. Fonesca’s book in a trial situation with three of my gifted children. A girl age 11, a boy age 13, and a girl age 14.
On first impression each child was impressed with the layout of the book and the easy way they found sections turning the book sidewise and thumbing the pages. I asked them to take the book in their backpack to school and to see if it helped when there was a problem or a situation that made them feel frustrated.
Each child had been having problems either with peers or with teachers. There’s always something, right? The 11 year-old seemed quickest to grasp the concepts and more accepting that the answers would help. Maybe because of her age, her ideas and the way she sees the world is less set in stone. She found the secrets of test taking and went to town, bringing her test scores up from C’s and B’s to mostly A’s. What I discovered is that as a parent, I can tell them to study for tests until I’m blue in the face and they won’t. But if they read it in this book then of course they need to study.
The 13 year-old boy found the secrets about getting along with your peers to be the most helpful. They brought him out of his own head long enough to focus on others and to see them as individuals. He made the friend cards suggested. It made him more agreeable to others and I’ve noticed that his social circle has grown considerably. He also utilized the suggestions on how to deal with bullying and made a huge difference not only in his own experience, but in that of several classmates.
The 14 year old girl found the most help in the sections that pertained to emotion. She was able to deal with her own intensity in a calmer way and learned more tolerance. By understanding that others did not think in the leaps of the gifted, she learned to explain herself better to peers. This was a huge help working with others in group projects.
All in all, this book was a success with all three children and the results a definite improvement in their interactions with others.

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Author 4 books60 followers
June 11, 2017
I started reading this with my son about a year ago (age 9 to 10) and have so much enjoyed the one-on-one time discussing it with him. There are exercises at the end of each chapter, and plenty of opportunities to share personal experiences with each other that apply to each success secret. I would read this again with my other gifted kids. I love how it's helped my oldest son settle down in the perfectionism department, find healthy outlets for anxiety, and feel good about his place in our family and in the world.
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Author 11 books26 followers
August 27, 2011
This handbook for the gifted child - and parents of gifted children - is like having a terrific guidebook while visiting Paris. Sure you could get through Paris without it – and obviously have a really great time although randomly. With it, however, you have the ability to make great choices, get the most out of the visit – as well as understand those down moments like knowing when you've gotten 'lost' and finding – more easily – your way back to where it is you want to go. It lessens the burden about having to know by guessing what really you couldn't have guessed because you'd never been there before; and, although lost moments are inevitable, there's less panic - less worry - because your guidebook mentioned this would happen. You know you're okay - or in danger (time to ask for help) - when you can read about what's typical – leading to an even more incredible journey.

I wish I'd known much of the information in this book - as the parent of a gifted child, now in high school. I feel a little sadness in my soul that we went without this 'guidebook' for so much of my child's school years. It is like being given an 'okay to be this way' for my child which, I think, the gifted label does, yet leaves so many lost without a thorough definition.

Even though this book is geared toward younger kids and their school experience, with many quotes from children ages 9 to 14, I plan to read some parts of this book with my high school age gifted child as sort of a pat on the back that he made it through the 'lost' parts, alone, on his own, having grown from his achievements, nonetheless. If you are a gifted child, or the parent of a gifted child, buy this book and read it for the emotionally supportive information, at least. It would not be ridiculous to have read this book as early as a child's sixth month in age, even though most parents are not aware their child is gifted until the educational system 'labels' the child through academics. I guess its impossible to have exactly the 'right' guidebook at all times, and the lost moments in life are sometimes necessary. Sometimes 'lost' moments can even be fun in which we find those truly 'all our own' spots – maybe even our favorite – to return to someday or remember all our lives. However, with gifted children all our own isn't alienating when we become aware that others – also labeled gifted - experience similar traits as part of our 'gift'edness.

The drawbacks to this book are that some of the tips – as they are called in the book – might be too intimidating for younger children to carry out. To get the most out of this handbook, both parent and child should read it and discuss the child's opinions about which tips they like and those they just would not do at school; AND, the parent should listen. Accept that this is where parents can help out; or, accept that its just not who your child is to respond in such a grown up manner, yet.

Overall, this book gives a gifted child an entire set of useful, relevant tools to help with the not-so-easy aspects of being gifted. After reading this book, the child, the child's parents, and even a close friend or two, can incorporate even just a few of these tools to make school, home life, and social life more enjoyable and less stressful - at both its cause and its effect on the child and on the group dynamic. The author, Christine Fonseca, has written this book in easy-to-read chapters. Each topic is a numbered 'Success Secret' with tips for reaching the topic's goal, quizzes to encourage introspection, and sections for writing out thoughts about the topics. I know with my high school-er there will be groans about having to 'do all this', yet the value in receiving these messages: 'I'm not crazy, I'm just smart', 'Gifted and intense go hand in hand', and 'If I were gifted this wouldn't be so hard' is worth the effort - sort of a spa day for the soul with returning visits. This guidebook would be best received by the children asked to read it (probably as an add-on to a list of other reading and chores) as soon as the 'gifted' label is determined at the doctor or at school. This book feels like a relief - just like a trusty guidebook right before you both might have gotten 'lost' on an otherwise terrific journey either way.
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Author 24 books112 followers
May 13, 2011
101 Success Secrets
Christine Fonseca
189 pages
giftedness/nonfiction
Review copy from publisher

Okay. How to put into words the awesomeness that is this book.

First off, while the target audience is kids that have been identified as gifted, this book is applicable to so many more people--both kids and adults.

The format is fun and highly interactive. There are words of wisdom from gifted kids sprinkled through out, and the sections are short and snappy. At the end of every chapter is a Parents Sound Off section that gives parents the opportunity to show kids where they're coming from. There are also What Do You Think? sections following the Parents Sounding Off where the reader can crystalize what they've learned. This section contains questions the readers can ask themselves for even better understanding of the section and themselves. There are also tip sheets, quizzes, and questions and answers.

So why do I love this book? Because I'm a highly intense person with highly intense, children who are incredibly smart. This books speaks to the kids--to, not down--on how to manage the traits that come with being gifted, high intensity being a hallmark trait. The book points out that their brains are wired differently, so while some of the traits can be hard to manage at times, there's nothing wrong with this.

As the book says, it's filled with 101 secrets to succeeding, and one of the first steps is understanding what it means to be gifted and embracing it. And that's really what the success secrets all boil down to: understanding yourself, accepting yourself, and embracing yourself.

Kids need more books like this. :)

But 101SS isn't simply a feel good book. Many of the sections give ideas and suggestions on how the reader can change their perceptions and actions so the intensity and giftedness works for them, not against them. And doing this takes work. 101SS deals with the reader on a personal level, as well as hitting topics dealing with school life, friends, and family.

101SS is geared toward gifted kids, but I believe it can benefit adults and highly intense people as well. I would definitely recommend this to anyone regardless of age.
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June 21, 2012
Fonseca, C. (2011). 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook. Woodway, TX: Prufrock Press.
Reviewed By: Allison Lupton
Reference Type: Handbook
Reading Level: 5th- 8th
Call Number: 155.45
Cost: $12.76
Description: This handbook is a great resource for any student labled “gifted” as it offers information in a way that is easy to read and understand. It also offers advice and tips for students that are always pushing themselves to do better.
Relevance/Relationship: Our school collection currently does not have a single resource like this one that is especially for students. Many times I have heard some of the gifted students say that they wish they had a better program outside of their regular courses.
Purpose: The purpose of this handbook would be to provide those students with something they can relate to, and something that continues to motivate them.
Validity: This book has received positive reviews from School Library Journal and was written by Fonseca, who focuses on writing fiction and nonfiction titles for late adolescence.
Format: Print
Arrangement/Presentation: Dialogue bubbles and text boxes help the visuals. One source noted there was no index, but that it does have web and print resources.
Diversity: Often times, the gifted students at our school are overlooked in attempts to bring the lower students up to speed. This book would be a great resource for those students wanting to challenge themselves.
Review Citation: O’Malley, R. (2011, September 1). Grades 5 and up [Review of the book 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook]. School Library Journal. Reviewed from http://www.libraryjournal.com/slj/rev...
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916 reviews8 followers
August 28, 2011
I entered the draw for this book although my children - both gifted are older than the 8 - 12 year old recommended age.

As I read parts about the ups and downs, the pressure, the anger, the "I'm not really smart, I can't be I don't get this!" I was so glad that my daughters are older. However, so much still applies and can be used for my 17 year old who still struggles sometimes; don't we all?

This book is laid out in a very straight forward manner, easy to find things.

I will probably be donating this book to a local elementary once I've read it again, and hope that other parents will get as much out of it as I have, and that their kids do too!
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November 2, 2011
Being gifted is special and I found a lot of great advice in Christine's book. Working with children on this level is new to me and I just got my CNA license and was assigned to a in home health care center with children who are gifted. I am very lucky I won the book and am using it and sharing it with my co workers who are teaching me things that should be easy. But they aren't. Christine puts a great overview on the subjects from 1 to 101 in each category. I haven't read it all but have read most of them and it helps me to understand. Thanks!
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Author 19 books458 followers
June 15, 2025
Christine Fonseca does it again in her second book about giftedness. This book is full of advice and tips for gifted students on how to deal with stress, get along with others, and avoid the trap of perfectionism. It seems like no stone is left unturned as the author covers every facet of a gifted child’s life. The book is easy to read and is organized into sections regarding school, friends, and family. Also, there are quizzes and tip sheets that are beneficial to young readers.
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21 reviews5 followers
August 9, 2016
I picked this book up for my son. We are having the discussion about intensity within our household, and I am trying to find some strategies to help him understand himself and how to succeed in life. It is a quick read (for me), and actually, I picked up quite a few strategies that I will try within my own life. Fingers crossed that my son agrees.
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395 reviews
May 13, 2011
This book is amazing! These success secrets aren't just for gifted kids, though especially for them, they can be life-changing for adults and children alike. I highly recommend this book.
151 reviews9 followers
June 4, 2011
I thought this was a very good book. I am going to school to get my elementary ed degree and will be holding on to this for the future.
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Author 1 book6 followers
January 5, 2013
It has good suggestions but is geared toward a middle school student. We're not there yet.
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September 27, 2013
This seems like it has good tips for all kids. Also, from this book, it seems the difference between gifted and Asperger's is having imagination :) Good ideas to store away for raising any child!
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943 reviews72 followers
March 8, 2019
“101 Success Secrets For Gifted Kids” deserves a 4 star rating. It’s not very original in its advice as all books on the subject tend to be, however it could help some people out. “101 Success Secrets for Gifted Kids” is definitely a useful book to read, but I found the information pretty redundant in application to myself. This book covers stress management, dealing with expectations, anxiety, bullying, and friendship troubles, with advice from gifted children themselves and it’s just what it says on the package. I would recommend this book as advertised on the back cover, to gifted kids 8-12 years old.
Review by Masha K, 13, Boston Mensa
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93 reviews1 follower
October 27, 2023
Insightful for Parents, But Misses the Mark for Kids

Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ (3 out of 5)

This book claims to be a guide for gifted kids, but I found it more relevant for parents. My 9-year-old son, recently declared “gifted,” would likely find it dull. However, I did gain valuable insights into his world, recognizing many traits and behaviors the book describes.

My main gripe is the “parent quotes” at the end of each chapter. They felt random and disconnected from the chapter’s focus—almost like filler content. While the book offers some valuable nuggets, it misses its intended audience. Parents may find it enlightening, but it’s not the engaging read it promises for kids.
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106 reviews2 followers
March 16, 2017
Written for gifted kids, this book analyzes the non-academic aspects of what it means to be gifted: anxiety, relationships, stress, finding balance, perfectionism, asynchrony, and general social-emotional health. It's terrifically accessible with interactive exercises, success strategies from other gifted kids, and voices of parents and teachers. While my middle schoolers may find it a bit basic, it's perfect for upper elementary students and even sixth graders.
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14 reviews
June 7, 2017
This book is helping me to make my life better. It sounds just like the title. Inside there is 101 success secrets for kids. It talks about being a gifted kid. How hard it is to be one. And it helped support me with my life. At the end of each chapter, there is some questions to answer. It was a great experience for me to read this book. There is a reason that I rated this book five stars. It is because it was awsome!
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January 20, 2019
Good book! Lent to me by my son’s gifted teacher. I had planned to read it myself but have now been sharing some of it with my gifted son as there as good coping strategies and little quizzes in there that draw attention to the things that make him unique (& show him how to work on things like emotions, not taking blame or responsibility, etc.). It’s really helpful as a parent bc I didn’t know some of these things were gifted traits!
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1,314 reviews2 followers
December 20, 2019
I LOVED this book for trying to understand and help my children with some of their GT issues. I thought some things were just personal struggles, and this book helped me realize they were actually things that lots of GT kids deal with. I am going to read it again with the kids and have them do the exercises with me.
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431 reviews
August 15, 2021
Oops I didn’t realize this book is for kids to read. It was pretty good and honestly seemed like it would be good for any kid. Talks a lot about how to handle your emotions and have good relationships. How to take care of yourself and speak up for yourself.
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100 reviews
May 6, 2017
Written by a school psychologist, this book is geared towards school kids and not homeschoolers, but the little tidbits of advice are spot-on and to the point. Very helpful resource.
30 reviews
June 24, 2017
Not what I expected

This book was not really secrets but general hints for kids. It had some basic ideas but not too helpful.
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49 reviews49 followers
January 19, 2019
My gifted class read this last year, and we all hated it. Nothing was realistic or pertained to us as gifted individuals. If you're looking for a book about gifted kids, find a better one than this!
1,276 reviews3 followers
March 7, 2022
Accessible with some good ideas.
15 reviews
November 20, 2016
Fonseca, C. (2011). 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook. Waco, TX: Prufrock Press.

Citation by: Amy Reesor

Type of Reference: Handbook

Call Number: Ref 155.455 Fon

Content/Scope: A handbook targeting students in grades 4-8 who are labeled as gifted learners. Tips are provided using firsthand accounts and advice on a wide range of topics such as bullying, stress, mutual respect, homework, self-esteem, and social interactions with peers and family.

Accuracy/Authority/Bias: Prufrock Press was created by a teacher in the late 1980’s to publish resources for gifted, advanced, and special needs students based on research. The have published over 500 titles on the topic, and their website says they are “the nation’s leading publisher supporting the education of gifted and advanced learners.”

Arrangement/Presentation: The 191 page handbook is written in an informal, casual format using speech bubbles, quizzes, and other features such as text boxes. Students labeled gifted and their parents provide advice from their own experiences.

Relation to other works: Gifted students are the topic of fiction books, but this was the only reference book with a target audience of young gifted learners I was able to locate on the Children’s Core Collection database. Demonstrating the importance of the handbook for gifted learners.

Accessibility/ Diversity: The handbook targets an audience which is often overshadowed by the needs of struggling learners. The handbook provides a resource to meet the diverse needs of gifted students, but could benefit every students.

Cost: $16.95

Professional Review: O'Malley, R. (2011). [Review of 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook by Christine Fonseca]. School Library Journal, 57(9), 182.
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April 25, 2015
Fonseca, C. (2011). 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook. Woodway, TX: Prufrock Press.

Citation by: Katheryn Campbell

Reference Type: Handbook

Content/Scope: This is a handbook specifically targeting students who are labeled, "Gifted and Talented" in schools or high performing students. It offers secrets, tips, tricks and advice on how to find success in school and life.

Accuracy/Authority/Bias: I have seen nothing by positive reviews about the author of this book, Christine Fonesca. This is not the first book she has written with the intended audience of young adolescents. All reviews were positive and many teachers were raving about including the title in their personal collection of education resource books.

Relation to similar works: I have not personally seen anything like this book in my library. While there are many reference books for teachers about how to meet the needs to gifted and talented students, I have never seen a book FOR the gifted and talented students.

Accessibility/Diversty: While this book is geared towards GT student populations, it offers great information about how to succeed and perservere in life through topics including bullying, school performance, perfectionism, friendships, and sibling rivalries.

Cost: $12.80

Professional Review: O’Malley, R. (2011, September 1). Grades 5 and up [Review of the book 101 success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook]. School Library Journal.
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April 27, 2015
Fonseca, C. (2011). 101 Success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook. Waco, TX: Prufrock Press.

Citation by: Traci Barger

Type of Reference: Handbook

Call Number: 155.45

ISBN: 9781593635442

Brief Description: The handbook offers gifted children 101 strategies to help them succeed in school and deal with some of the challenges they might face.

Content/Scope: The purpose of this book is to provide secrets, tips and tricks for gifted students to tackle challenges in school and learning. The targeted audience is ages 8 through 12.

Accuracy/Authority/Bias: The book is published by Prufrock Press, a company dedicated to providing the best teaching practices and curriculum by authors around the world that supports the education of advanced learners.

Arrangement/Presentation: The information is presented in a “friendly, conversational manner from advice from gifted kids and their parents.” The book includes web and print resources.

Relation to similar works: The current reference collection does not include any handbooks.

Accessibility/Diversity: The book provides strategies to help the large number of gifted and talented students of the school. The book provides resources and tips to use to deal with stress or to even deal with bullies.

Cost: $12.76

Professional Review: O’Malley, R. (2011). 101 Success secrets for gifted kids: The ultimate handbook. School Library Journal, 57(9), 182.
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August 10, 2014
I found this book redundant and at times, generic. The first couple of chapters are good for opening a dialogue with your child about what it means to be gifted, but the last several chapters are pretty much general life advice which could be given to any kid of any age, and there is nothing in it that pertains directly to gifted kids versus all kids. I was disappointed.
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