I would recommend that anyone read this book, but it is an absolute must-read for any woman who is a mother, wants to be a mother, or is pregnant and in the process of becoming a mother. I feel really fortunate that a family friend gave me this book when she learned I was pregnant, and I finished it in my ninth month, just when my pregnancy had reached full term and I was ready for my little bundle to arrive. When I started the book, I was planning on having a natural, intervention- and drug-free, out-of-hospital birth, but I was nervous. The idea of going through labor was scary (just the name we've given it -- "labor" -- says something of the process!), and I had heard so many horror stories from women who gave birth in hospitals with pain medication about how painful it was despite the meds they were on that I wasn't sure I wouldn't just fall to pieces, that I could push through to the end (no pun intended). This book totally allayed my fears, and gave me the confidence I needed in my own body's ability to give birth the way women have been since the dawn of time (with the insurance of modern medicine in case of emergency).
Now, with my due date just around the corner, I don't have a single fear about the labor. I feel as if Ina May has given me and my husband a toolkit to utilize throughout the labor process that will help to make it as painless and stress-free as possible. The more of the book I read, the more I actually looked forward to labor, in spite of the nail-biting anxiety I'd had for months about the big day!
The book itself is a very informative look at the ideal scene for labor and maternity care, maternity care that treats every woman and infant as an individual. It looks at the bleak history of maternity care in America and the state of it in the many countries to which Mrs. Gaskin has traveled, and she gives a very clear-cut path towards repairing women's confidence in their body's ability to give birth naturally and changing the way medical practitioners are taught about and how to handle pregnancy and birth. She also very clearly explains, in a way laypeople to the medical industry can understand, why natural birth and proper maternity care is so crucial. Some reviewers have said that her approach is imbalanced and a tirade against modern medicine, but I would totally disagree. Instead, Gaskin is reducing our cultural fear of birth and replacing it with factual information. She describes what she and other midwives and medical practitioners have experienced in the realm of intervention-free birth (like startlingly low rates of C-sections and maternal and infant deaths compared to national averages), and how this compares to what she and others have seen and experienced in hospitals. Interspersed among these facts and observations are birth stories from women who strove to have the births they wanted, including from one woman who had to be induced at a hospital but who refused pain medication. Prior to reading Birth Matters, I was pretty squeamish about reading birth stories and didn't see the point of sharing them, but I am really happy that they were included in this book and that I read them, because they really reinforced that budding confidence I was developing thanks to Ina May in my ability to survive and actually enjoy my labor experience.
My own baby's arrival is imminent, and I know I would still be approaching it with fear, trepidation, and doubt in my ability to survive the experience if not for this book.