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Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power, and Passion of Biblical Intimacy
Sexy Christians. The phrase sounds like an oxymoron, but God never intended it to be. Sexual fulfillment is, in fact, God's idea. Yet many Christians seem to think the more spiritual they are, the less sexual they will be, and the more sexual they are, the less spiritual they will be. Dr. Ted and Diane Roberts want to turn this thinking on its head.Readers will learn why men and women see sex differently, what the greatest aphrodisiac is, and how to avoid the most lethal killer to a great sex life. The authors also explore what men's and women's sexual needs are and why they are so different, what sex is all about from God's perspective, and what the differences are between male and female sexual response cycles. End-of-chapter questions encourage couples to apply the book's principles at home.Readers and groups can go a step further with the Sexy Christians Workbook. Loaded with additional content, this workbook is designed to challenge couples to explore the rewardin
266 pages, Kindle Edition
First published March 1, 2010
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August 13, 2012
FINALLY! A book shattering false piety in women in the church, I can't stand it, I can't stand it, I CAN'T STAND it, finally finally finally a REAL book about sex and folks who believe in the Bible. Thank you, God. My FAVORITE line ever, suggests "Its a LIE FROM HELL" that women are not supposed to enjoy a hot, active, rich sex life. About time.
All these women who feel they must be prim and proper in the bedroom with their husbands is total hogwash and ridiculous, there is nothing sexy about that!! God did not create women to close down sexually just because they are believer's.
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All these women who feel they must be prim and proper in the bedroom with their husbands is total hogwash and ridiculous, there is nothing sexy about that!! God did not create women to close down sexually just because they are believer's.
My .02
May 16, 2019
The only real problem I had with this book is that I often heard myself asking, "What do you mean by that?" I don't think the author elaborated on some points as much as he could/should have. The book was a pretty quick overview of Biblical intimacy. The voice wasn't as smooth as I would have preferred.
Having said that, I greatly appreciate Ted and Dianne's ministry calling. It is so refreshing to see ministry workers approaching topics often considered taboo in the Church with enthusiasm.
Ted sounds like a cool person. He's very real, having grown up with a shocking amount of stepfathers, some of which were flat-out abusive, and an alcoholic mother. Add to that his military career and it's no surprise that he's so blunt. The real surprise is how much Jesus has shaped him into a spiritual leader, one that even a nationally-recognized pastor would call for help. I am just so excited when I hear of a person being real in their faith instead of being pressured by church culture into a facade of holiness.
I really enjoyed his stories. They were my favorite parts of this book.
Overall, I did a little underlining here and there. I wasn't absolutely captivated by the book but I learned a handful of really helpful things. I could see this book being a launch pad for someone who is struggling in their marriage. (The sister workbook they mentioned is probably the next step, or maybe attending one of their Sexy Christians seminars.)
Funny thing is, at one point I forgot I was reading a book about marriage. Ted and Dianne did a great job of focusing on the heart of the matter. They know where to dig deeper and they certainly have a tool belt of Scripture to back it up.
In a nutshell: didn't care much for the writing style but can't ignore the wisdom.
Having said that, I greatly appreciate Ted and Dianne's ministry calling. It is so refreshing to see ministry workers approaching topics often considered taboo in the Church with enthusiasm.
Ted sounds like a cool person. He's very real, having grown up with a shocking amount of stepfathers, some of which were flat-out abusive, and an alcoholic mother. Add to that his military career and it's no surprise that he's so blunt. The real surprise is how much Jesus has shaped him into a spiritual leader, one that even a nationally-recognized pastor would call for help. I am just so excited when I hear of a person being real in their faith instead of being pressured by church culture into a facade of holiness.
I really enjoyed his stories. They were my favorite parts of this book.
Overall, I did a little underlining here and there. I wasn't absolutely captivated by the book but I learned a handful of really helpful things. I could see this book being a launch pad for someone who is struggling in their marriage. (The sister workbook they mentioned is probably the next step, or maybe attending one of their Sexy Christians seminars.)
Funny thing is, at one point I forgot I was reading a book about marriage. Ted and Dianne did a great job of focusing on the heart of the matter. They know where to dig deeper and they certainly have a tool belt of Scripture to back it up.
In a nutshell: didn't care much for the writing style but can't ignore the wisdom.
March 19, 2020
It is an excellent read for married couples seeking a more intimate relationship - physically, emotionally and spiritually. The authors deal with our own brokenness and personal hang ups and how to seek God in restoring ourselves and our marriages to His ideal. The discussion questions were often hokey and sometimes confusing, but most of them were thought provoking and initiated interesting conversations between my wife and I and within the group we read the book. Mostly an excellent resource and I recommend it to any married couple at any stage of their relationships.
September 27, 2023
Ted & Diane Roberts are a powerhouse couple for the Lord who have penned an amazing book that all married couples should read. My wife and I are going through it together—sort of, I finished it and she’s still only halfway through!—and it’s been amazing for us. Ted Roberts’ book “Pure Desire” is one of the best books I’ve ever read, which dives into sexual addiction and healing through the wounds within us. But this book is such a great read for men who are working towards a healthy, God-honoring marriage. Love it!
Rating: 9/10, five stars.
Rating: 9/10, five stars.
July 5, 2022
Required reading for a college class.
August 28, 2011
A friend gave this to me about a week and a half before I got married, and I'm chalking that up solely to providence. It calmed my jitters, reminded me that the most important part of the marriage is the Lord, and helped me think through how to treat the young lady in our *ahem* intimate times. I'm not sure Dr Roberts and I see eye to eye in exegisis (his reading of the Song and Ruth, for instance, are both questionable) but his illustrations are excellent, his get-to-the-heart questions are profound, and his use of scientific research to back up his points ought to make this book convincing for a large range of people. Really a wonderful book.
September 22, 2010
This book talks about the importance of intimacy in a relationship and looking at sex in the way that God intended it to be, as a beautiful, fulfiling, bonding experience. The importance of building intimacy in a relationship was stressed as well as discussing things that get in the way of true intimacy.
November 19, 2015
There are few books written with such authority, honesty, openess and love as this one. No matter what season of life your marriage is in, this book is for you. With easy language (mostly), Biblical basis, and a honest, practical viewpoint, this one hits the mark. I would encourage all married couples to read this book and prepare for your relationship with God and your spouse, to grow.
September 8, 2014
This book was designed as a journal for two people to work through together. The topics were good but you really need to talk through each chapter with your partner to get the full benefit of the book.
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