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Brave New Family: G.K. Chesterton on Men and Women, Children, Sex, Divorce, Marriage and the Family

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A collection of G. K. Chesterton s provocative writings on a subject close to his heart--the family, and the corresponding themes of men and women, children, sex, marriage and divorce. The family was a central element in Chesterton s vision, a unifying theme of his literary work. His eloquent defense of the sacredness of the home is even more applicable in our times because of the tremendous moral problems in our society that threaten the modern family. Chesterton s insights will be a deep inspiration to married couples, those preparing for marriage, priests, teachers, and anyone else interested in marriage and the family. An ideal gift book. G.K. Chesterton Paperback, 279 pages Ignatius Press 9780898703146

279 pages, Paperback

First published October 1, 1990

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G.K. Chesterton

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Gilbert Keith Chesterton was an English writer, philosopher, lay theologian, and literary and art critic.

He was educated at St. Paul’s, and went to art school at University College London. In 1900, he was asked to contribute a few magazine articles on art criticism, and went on to become one of the most prolific writers of all time. He wrote a hundred books, contributions to 200 more, hundreds of poems, including the epic Ballad of the White Horse, five plays, five novels, and some two hundred short stories, including a popular series featuring the priest-detective, Father Brown. In spite of his literary accomplishments, he considered himself primarily a journalist. He wrote over 4000 newspaper essays, including 30 years worth of weekly columns for the Illustrated London News, and 13 years of weekly columns for the Daily News. He also edited his own newspaper, G.K.’s Weekly.

Chesterton was equally at ease with literary and social criticism, history, politics, economics, philosophy, and theology.

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Profile Image for Derric.
75 reviews2 followers
May 30, 2024
“The human house is a paradox, for it is larger inside than out.”

The truth of that statement becomes clearer the more you read through these selected writings. Chesterton sees clearly and for that reason he also sees simply. He’s got that “Well of course!” kind of philosophy rather than the “Ummm… What?” kind of philosophy. Very worth the read!
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Author 1 book169 followers
March 22, 2019
Bold, brilliant, convicting, and encouraging. This is a St. Crispin's Day speech to rouse the troops on one of the most critical battlefields of our day: that of family. Chesterton defends the grand risk of marriage vows, the romance of hearth and home, the high calling that is motherhood, the adventure or raising children. I had no idea that he was fighting 100 years ago the same evils we do today: divorce, women abandoning the home, men and women alike shunning children, our culture's obsession with rambunctious badass heroines. So this book has never been more relevant. "Shall we begin to fight," he says, "only when the battle is over?"

Any Chesterton book is full of quotable quotes, but here are some gems:

"The supreme adventure is being born...When we step into the family we step into a fairytale."

"All the most dramatic things happen at home."

"A Trimmer...means a highly chivalrous person who always goes over to the weaker side; like one who trims a boat by sitting where there are few people seated. Woman is a Trimmer; and it is a generous, dangerous, and romantic trade."

"The man is the head of the house, while the woman is the heart of the house."

"In dealing with the one man you would really have a far huger and harder job than in dealing with your throng of thousands. And that is the job that people run away from when they wish to escape from domesticity to public work."

"The creation of a new creature...is an immeasurably more grand and godlike act even than a love affair."

"Some people...do prefer working in a factory to working in a family; for there are always some people who prefer slavery to freedom, and who especially prefer being governed to governing someone else."

Profile Image for Sharon.
139 reviews15 followers
August 10, 2008
Chesterton dismantles the 'freedoms' and 'fun' of free love brick by brick while at the same time irreverently thrashing Victorian squeamishness at what a home really is.
But he doesn't stop at picking fights, he proceeds to talk about the many things that a home is - a place of anarchy and experimentation, freedom to eat on the floor and wear your pajamas til noon, and most importantly, the place where the people are grown and presented with the world and all that it contains.
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1,179 reviews206 followers
January 27, 2019
A collection of essays centered around the family, birth control. marriage, divorce, etc. These essays and articles included make this a very rich collection by topic. If only we had listened to Chesterton then, since we are still seeing the fallouts from not understanding the family.
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109 reviews
September 24, 2021
Publicación original

Decía P.G.Wodehouse en uno de sus libros («Guapo, rico y distinguido») por boca de uno de sus personajes que: «La experiencia me ha enseñado que nunca se sabe con quién va a casarse uno en este mundo». Es muy probable que esta sentencia me aplique – el tiempo lo dirá -, pero lo que no tengo tan claro es que aplique a mi prometida cuando me regaló por mi cumpleaños, allá por marzo, El amor o la fuerza del sino, de mi tan querido G.K.Chesterton.

Si por algún casual eres lector asiduo de este blog, el autor inglés será ya para ti como mínimo como aquel sesentón bien vestido que te encuentras en el bus todos los días para ir al trabajo o a la universidad. Sin embargo, si caíste por aquí como un paracaidista, lo mínimo que has de saber de G.K.Chesterton es lo que dicen de él hasta sus enemigos: «Un apóstol del sentido común». «El príncipe de las paradojas». «El trovador de la familia». «El hombre montaña». Con las primeras frases puedes imaginarte su talla intelectual. Con la última puedes imaginarte su talla física (medía 1.93m y pesaba 130kg).


La obra que nos ocupa en esta ocasión no es una novela ni un ensayo en sí mismo, como lo son Herejes, El hombre eterno o Ortodoxia, sino una antología, una colección de ensayos y poesía sobre el matrimonio, el amor, la familia, los niños, el divorcio y la Navidad. Con semejante declaración de intenciones es difícil resistirse, pues estos temas son universales. Y leyendo estos ensayos, como comenta Álvaro Silva en el prólogo: «El lector imagina a Chesterton enarbolando su bandera y presto al combate».

"Luchamos por el gremio y la cita de dos amantes; por memorias que nunca mueren y por el posible encuentro entre los seres humanos; por todo aquello que hace de la vida todo menos una pesadilla incontrolable. Luchamos por el brazo largo del honor y del recuerdo; por todo lo que puede levantar a un ser humano por encima de las arenas movedizas de sus propios estados emotivos, y darle el dominio sobre el tiempo pasajero."
G.K.CHESTERTON, «EL AMOR O LA FUERZA DEL SINO»

En pocas ocasiones he leído algo tan genuinamente romántico como en esta antología. El verdadero romanticismo no aparece como un «enamoramiento» o un producto de consumo de bodas.net, sino como una construcción del amor basado en la entrega mutua, por encima de emociones y sentimientos que suelen ser más bien pasajeros. Y esto, si se conoce un poco la vida de Chesterton, refuerza todo lo que escribió sobre estos temas, pues además de una salud delicada y problemas con su espalda, existía en su mujer una dificultad fisiológica que le impedía el placer físico de la unión sexual. No pudieron tener ni un hijo.

Descubrir este detalle de su vida tuvo en mí un efecto casi catártico. Ya que has llegado hasta aquí, puedo incluso confesarte que muchas de las reflexiones de este libro tuvieron mucha influencia en mi salto de fe. Y si esto no es suficiente elogio para él, baste decir que lo considero ya uno de mis libros de cabecera a la hora de colocar en su sitio cualquiera de estos temas universales.

Por poner un ejemplo concreto: «De todas las ideas modernas engendradas por la mera abundancia material, la peor de todas es la idea de que la vida familiar es aburrida y sosa. […] La verdad es que, el hogar es el único sitio donde hay libertad, […] el único sitio en la tierra en que un hombre puede alterar de repente cualquier plan, puede hacer un experimento o permitirse un capricho». Con una frase tan sencilla como esta cogida casi al azar se espantan mil y un demonios que aparecen en la mente de un chaval de mi generación cuando se imagina una vida casado.


¿Buscas libertad? Átate, pues: «Ser fiel a una mujer es un precio pequeño por algo tan grande como ver a una mujer». ¿Buscas el amor? Tómalo en serio y cásate: «Muchos hombres han tenido la suerte de casarse con la mujer que aman. Pero tiene mucha más suerte el hombre que ama a la mujer con la que se ha casado». ¿Buscas paz? Prepárate para la guerra y quema tus naves.

"Hay una emoción que sólo es conocida por el soldado que lucha por su propia bandera, por el asceta que se muere de hambre por su propio alumbramiento espiritual, por el amante que finalmente toma su propia decisión. Y esta disciplina de transfiguración de uno mismo es la que hace del voto o promesa algo verdaderamente inteligente. […] Se alzará desde el puerto la llama dominante anunciando que se ha acabado el reino de los cobardes y un hombre está quemando sus naves."
G.K.CHESTERTON, «EL AMOR O LA FUERZA DEL SINO». TEXTO ORIGINAL PUBLICADO EN THE SPEAKER, 1901.

Tú ya lo sabías desde el principio. Gracias, Gilbert.
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139 reviews2 followers
July 6, 2022
Reconozco aquí que por Chesterton siento, más que debilidad, reverencia, y que esto no es bueno para juzgar un libro de manera independiente, por su valor intrínseco más que por su autor. Sin embargo, en mi defensa diré que esto no es un libro, no fue concebido y escrito como tal, tan solo un puñado de artículos sobre un par de temas, escritos por el autor durante varios años, y que el editor ha decidido reunir y poner a la venta. La justificación oficial, imagino, es que la editorial pone a disposición del lector una visión completa de la opinión de un autor consagrado sobre diversos temas. Una aproximación sistemática a la forma que Chesterton tenía de ver el mundo. La realidad, sospecho, es más prosaica: la editorial está exprimiendo a lectores fanáticos que leerían hasta la lista de la compra de sus autores favoritos. Con esto quiero decir que le doy cinco estrellas a este volumen en concreto no por su valor individual, sino por lo que ya he leído del autor.

Analizados uno por uno, no todos los artículos merecen cinco estrellas. Alguno de estos artículos, si los leyera en el periódico del día, los pasaría por alto. Son piezas menores, que se entienden solo en su contexto, y que no creo que fueran escritos con la intención de acabar en un libro impreso (en un soporte potencialmente "eterno"). Dudo que tuvieran una vocación de permanencia. Además, y esto lo reconozco en voz baja, no estoy de acuerdo con todo lo que dicen. A veces, me digo con sonrojo, Chesterton está equivocado.

Sin embargo, quizá por que realmente siempre me acerco a Chesterton con el sombrero entre las manos y actitud reverente, o quizá porque he leído lo suficiente de él para entenderlo (o eso quiero pensar) más allá de un artículo breve y descontextualizado, considero que estos artículos no le hacen justicia. Pueden llevar a una opinión equivocada de su autor. Algunas de las ideas, que sí desarrolla con más precisión y más sutileza en diversos libros, están expresadas aquí con cierta ligereza. O eso creo identificar.

La realidad es que, aunque no estés de acuerdo con nada de lo que Chesterton dice, con ninguna de sus ideas, sí creo que hay que reconocerle la libertad con la que piensa. La originalidad de su forma de razonar. Solo por eso, leerlo es siempre novedoso y siempre positivo. Y eso a pesar de que no creo que el uso constante de la paradoja y de otras técnicas que usa sean la forma más correcta de transmitir su mensaje. Aunque siempre afirma que su mensaje es sencillo, de puro sentido común, la realidad es que tienes que sacar su mensaje de un zarzal. Tienes que desenredarlo. Pero una vez que lo haces, entonces sí. Su mensaje parece tan evidente que te sorprendes que alguien pueda verlo de alguna otra manera después de leerlo, que dudas si tú mismo no lo habías pensado así antes de leerlo en Chesterton.

Me ha gustado especialmente la idea de que antes de atacar una tradición, una institución tradicional, la que sea, primero hay que comprender su utilidad, qué necesidad querían cubrir cuando nació esa tradición. Solo entonces puedes plantearte si aún es útil, si sigue cumpliendo su función, o si merece la pena eliminarla.

En este volumen, además, defiende la familia como verdadero reducto de la libertad humana, como único lugar donde un individuo puede formarse en plenitud como un hombre libre, tanto de las ideologías políticas como de las modas intelectuales. Defiende el valor de las labores domésticas, la mentira del trabajo capitalista como instrumento liberador y como medida del éxito. Ataca la persecución de las apetencias individuales como el camino de alcanzar la verdadera libertad. Nada que no hayan defendido antes, nada novedoso, pero defendido de forma novedosa. Puro sentido común.
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21 reviews
June 1, 2025
Me temo que aún me queda mucho de Chesterton por leer para digerirlo como es debido. Muy tradicionalista incluso para mi gusto, salvando no pocos puntos de rotunda brillantez. Destaco los tres primeros compendios de ensayos sobre el amor y la familia, siempre hablando con lucidez. Le pongo una estrella adicional en honor a mi muy querido y viejo maestro por ser él quien me recomendó esta antología.
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1,500 reviews158 followers
December 24, 2016
I love anthologies of Chesterton because someone else has done the work of combing through the more difficult passages and bringing out the more understandable gems. This book is no exception. It was the perfect accompaniment to a book I was reading about feminism that was heavy and depressing. G.K. managed to take the same topics and shed light on them with a humor and clarity that was encouraging and uplifting. He is the king of paradox, so naturally he paints the "humdrum" nature of marital fidelity, child-rearing, and daily faithfulness as one of life's greatest adventures. There's so much more I could say, but this was worth every hour I poured into it. Not an easy read, but definitely worthwhile.
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45 reviews3 followers
May 20, 2020
Con su estilo tan característico de Chesterton, tenemos una gran recopilación de escritos referentes a la familia y al matrimonio. En estos momentos de crisis en la familia, hay que indagar en por qué existe la familia y qué es lo que uno puede encontrar en ella. Las familias no son perfectas (así como la sociedad tampoco lo es). Sin embargo, no podemos querer tener todo a la medida.

En la vida no siempre se la pasa uno bien. No obstante, si todo fuera diversión y juego, ¿dónde está la aventura en ello?

La aventura está en moverse entre la selva que es la vida familiar y lo que hay a su alrededor, buscar la alegría en ella y saber que tendremos que caminar por caminos no tan placenteros. Lo bueno, es tener a otros que te acompañen en él (con todo y sus defectos).

Todo es para bien y tanto nos hace bien a nosotros, como a los demás y a la misma familia.
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7 reviews
April 27, 2025
This may be the most important collection I have ever read. Chesterton’s brilliance on matters of family, sex, manhood, work, womanhood, domesticity, marriage, children, and the home are timeless and sound and may be summarized in this one line: “But the traditions of humanity support humanity; and the central one is marriage. And the essential of it is that a free man and a free woman choose to found on earth the voluntary state; the only state which creates and which loves its citizens” (36).

If only the world could work as it did in Chesterton’s brain, we might not be off so badly. But alas, it is a fallen world.
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December 9, 2021
Best book to come back to time and again to remind yourself what's important about the family. It was written over 100 years ago and its perfectly applicable to today. His logic is so refreshing compared to the illogical arguments that make up our entire cultural approach about these essential topics
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23 reviews4 followers
April 27, 2025
Regular. Libro muy denso de leer, con algunas ideas buenas que dan para reflexionar mucho, pero demasiado metafórico. De hecho, no he llegado a leerlo entero. El autor es un poco tajante a veces y muy irónico casi siempre, pero aun así me quedo con ideas muy buenas, con varias reflexiones y con alguna que otra cita guay.
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May 17, 2018
Anything by Chesterton is a fascinating read. It is a glimpse into the past with truth that is fit for any age.

I've enjoyed reading his works and realizing that his mind was incredible. With all his publications, I'm not sure I'll be able to read as quickly as he wrote.
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16 reviews
June 1, 2023
Chesterton is masterful as always. Everyone in our present day should read as much of Chesterton as they are able. Maybe then we would find some more sanity.
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1,262 reviews19 followers
September 27, 2013
In this collection of poems, quotes, essays, excerpts, and one fictional story, Alvaro de Silva gives the reader an overview of Chesterton's thoughts on family and home life in his own words. The texts are entertaining and thought-provoking. Chesterton has a gift for paradox. For example, much has been made of the freedom of women in the workplace rather than the enslavement at home. Home is seen as a prison where mothers are slaves to their husbands and children. Chesterton laughs off this charge by showing the freedom of home makers, who can indeed make their own rules and manage things as they want without outside interference. At the office, there's always a boss to satisfy, a schedule to stick to. Holidays are infrequent--nice weather doesn't mean everyone can work outdoors or go to the park instead of staying at their tasks. The home life is true freedom--the home maker can set the dress code, the meal time, the menu itself.

The home is more important than the office as well, since the product, new people, is much more important and much more complicated than any widget imaginable. Human beings come in a great variety, even in when found in small groups of three or four or six or eight. Dealing with them as people with their own ideas and dignity is a tough but vital skill learned by living in close quarters day by day. It's one thing to accept someone as "different" for a few hours each day at work, but to live with them is a richer and more meaningful (and more difficult and challenging) experience.

Chesterton also comments about the roles of men, women, and children with regard to each other. The final section of the book presents a few writings on Christmas and the joyful paradox of celebrating the model family, who was in fact homeless on this occasion, in our homes. We are called to be like that family, to stay together under trying conditions, because we are bound together by a love and commitment more profound and lasting than any workplace or government can command.

The book provides a nice sampling on Chesterton's thoughts and style. Highly recommended!

Sample Quote:

The modern writers who have suggested, in a more or less open manner, that the family is a bad institution, have generally confined themselves to suggesting, with much sharpness, bitterness, or pathos, that perhaps the family is not always very congenial. Of course the family is a good institution because it is uncongenial. It is wholesome precisely because it contains so many divergencies and varieties. It is, as the sentimentalists, say, like a little kingdom, and, like most other little kingdoms, is generally in a state of something resembling anarchy. [pp. 42-43]
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10 reviews13 followers
November 4, 2011
A collection of Chesterton's works on Men, Women, Children, Sex, Divorce, Marriage and the Family... with a few on Christmas thrown in for good measure. If you've read much by Chesterton, no doubt you will have run across a few of the chapters from other collections. Still, as always, they are worth reading and thinking through all that has been handed down to us by this Post-Modern culture.
34 reviews9 followers
December 11, 2013
Skip the distasteful introduction by a reactionary trying to hitch his cart to Chesterton's horse, and go straight to the essays. G.K. is one of the finest thinkers and writers to grace the English language with his thoughts. Regardless of the consonance of your opinions with his, every sentence is a pleasure to read, a jewel of craft and nicety.
164 reviews6 followers
December 30, 2013
A great collection of essays by G.K. Chesterton. As always Chesterton cuts through to the real heart of the matter, in this case, that Families are the bedrock of civilization. Chesterton takes apart the assaults of the world and shows why we must again focus on the family or the western world will continue to decay and be lost to history.
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76 reviews7 followers
November 24, 2008
I was disappointed to see that this was a collection of a lot of things he wrote taken from various sources, but since it's all Chesterton I couldn't be too put-out. The letter to his wife is hilarious.
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36 reviews7 followers
June 26, 2009
With all the flash-in-the-pan books out on family, marriage, etc., it was refreshing reading something of substance on the topic. Although at times dated, the principles amazingly remain the same for today. Chesterton is wonderful at making you smile and then immediately making you think.
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July 10, 2010
Whether you agree with him or not, Chesterton is always a great read. He had a gift for the English language that few can match. These essays are very interesting pieces from "the Apostle of Common Sense."
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387 reviews26 followers
December 28, 2015
Chesterton, in my opinion, is at his best when defending the family. He has a marvelous knack for defending marriage and inspiring all who read his defense of marriage and family with a sense of the grand design of God and the sacredness of an institution ordained by Him.
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Author 6 books18 followers
March 15, 2015
I can understand why C.S Lewis adored him, he is witty and wise. I couldn't help but laugh at several of his similes and examples. How funny but true they were! I am looking forward to being further enlightened and entertained by Mr. Chesterton's wit in the future.
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Author 19 books70 followers
May 5, 2008
fantastic. A few places where I got lost in the joy of it all.
113 reviews
July 20, 2012
Fun to read and fantastic. Earmarked lots of pages to re-read outloud to my husband!
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55 reviews16 followers
January 13, 2017
Prophetic. Just as relevant today as it was nearly a century ago. The only kind of apologetics I really enjoy. One of my very few 5 star books.
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