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Cosmic Coupling: The Sextrology of Relationships
Cosmic Coupling is a fun, fast-paced exploration of every possible relationship between star signs, both straight and gay, from the authors’ unique sextrological perspective. With rich knowledge, expert wordsmithing, and signature wry humor, celebrity cosmic consultants Stella Starsky + Quinn Cox delve into the specific rules of attraction inherent in each bond and the perks and pitfalls particular to each partnership. Whether addressing enduring alliances or fleeting dalliances, Starsky + Cox don’t shy away from the juicier bits in profiling the romantic and sexual nature of each star-sign combination on the astrological block. Smart, sexy, and sophisticated, with a wink, Cosmic Coupling profiles couples in a threefold • Chemistry—describes the sparks, clashes, and underlying motivations of the couple’s mutual attraction • Compatibility—depicts the relationship needs of each sign and explains how the pair best meshes• Carnality—details the sexual dynamics of the bond, right on down to the nitty-grittyWith a profound understanding of astrology and human psychology, original insights drawn from ancient, literary, and pop archetypes, and a frankly intelligent, frequently funny delivery, Cosmic Coupling illuminates the dynamics of one’s (and others’) existing relationships and guides any singles seeking Mr. and/or Ms. Right, while giving the phrase “starry-eyed lovers” a whole, spicy new meaning.
464 pages, Kindle Edition
First published December 9, 2009
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September 28, 2012
You might be wondering why I chose to review Cosmic Coupling if I've reviewed Sextrology, since the the former book contains little information that was not in the latter. The answer is simple: I couldn't resist detailing how Starsky and Cox's perspectives on sex and gender play out in another format. To put this as succinctly as possible, I can say with confidence that those perspectives are still stuck in the 1970s, even with a five-year gap between books. (I can just barely accept that the gender essentialist backlash of the 1990s [think Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus] pervaded the authors' consciousness into 2004. In 2009, however...they really, truly should have known better.)
Seriously. When reading a book, one useful game to play is “If I Were a Martian.” In this game, you imagine that you are a space alien reading a book to learn about typical human behavior. What would you think if you, a Martian, based your expectations of Earthlings on Cosmic Coupling?
Well, you would think that gender dysphoria only went in a single direction, that most humans were open to three-way sex, that bondage and sadomasochism were natural progressions of most sexual relationships, and that sexual orientation synced up more or less perfectly with traditional expectations of gender. You would traipse around the planet thinking that every third lesbian couple sought a young man to use as a dildo. As you oozed through Earth's major metropolises, you would wonder which men planned to beat their male lovers with whips and which ones only wanted to fist them. For that matter, you might as well relinquish any hopes of fitting in with the dominant culture, since Starsky and Cox's definitions of gender are so narrow that no Martian could ever live up to them. (Also, if you, Earthling or Martian, gathered that Starsky and Cox were heterosexuals who believed that they were qualified to make broad statements about gay people, prepare to have your suspicions confirmed by the book's introduction.)
Since this book is about couples rather than individuals, it dwells even more on sex than Sextrology did. Although the authors supply you, the eager reader plumped for esoteric secrets, with plenty of relationship and sexual analysis, the book's spiritual aspects are greatly diminished compared to its predecessor. In fact, your understanding of this book depends to an extent on your knowledge of the information contained within Sextrology, making Cosmic Coupling possibly the first astrology book to be a direct sequel to another astrology book. If you don't know that the Greek goddess that corresponds to Scorpio woman is Persephone and that the Biblical character most similar to Aquarius man is John the Baptist, then the book will remind you occasionally, but most of the time, you're up Semen and Blood Creek without a paddle if you haven't read the authors' previous work. You're left with what amounts to Starsky and Cox's sex therapy notes for the bulk of the pages.
The preceding paragraphs are not to disparage the book, but to inform you of what you're in for should you decide to read it. It goes without saying that if you enjoyed Sextrology, you will enjoy Cosmic Coupling. The corollary to this is that if you disliked Sextrology, you will despise Cosmic Coupling--and, to be honest, Cosmic Coupling deserves a few side-eyes for some of its assertions.
Seriously. When reading a book, one useful game to play is “If I Were a Martian.” In this game, you imagine that you are a space alien reading a book to learn about typical human behavior. What would you think if you, a Martian, based your expectations of Earthlings on Cosmic Coupling?
Well, you would think that gender dysphoria only went in a single direction, that most humans were open to three-way sex, that bondage and sadomasochism were natural progressions of most sexual relationships, and that sexual orientation synced up more or less perfectly with traditional expectations of gender. You would traipse around the planet thinking that every third lesbian couple sought a young man to use as a dildo. As you oozed through Earth's major metropolises, you would wonder which men planned to beat their male lovers with whips and which ones only wanted to fist them. For that matter, you might as well relinquish any hopes of fitting in with the dominant culture, since Starsky and Cox's definitions of gender are so narrow that no Martian could ever live up to them. (Also, if you, Earthling or Martian, gathered that Starsky and Cox were heterosexuals who believed that they were qualified to make broad statements about gay people, prepare to have your suspicions confirmed by the book's introduction.)
Since this book is about couples rather than individuals, it dwells even more on sex than Sextrology did. Although the authors supply you, the eager reader plumped for esoteric secrets, with plenty of relationship and sexual analysis, the book's spiritual aspects are greatly diminished compared to its predecessor. In fact, your understanding of this book depends to an extent on your knowledge of the information contained within Sextrology, making Cosmic Coupling possibly the first astrology book to be a direct sequel to another astrology book. If you don't know that the Greek goddess that corresponds to Scorpio woman is Persephone and that the Biblical character most similar to Aquarius man is John the Baptist, then the book will remind you occasionally, but most of the time, you're up Semen and Blood Creek without a paddle if you haven't read the authors' previous work. You're left with what amounts to Starsky and Cox's sex therapy notes for the bulk of the pages.
The preceding paragraphs are not to disparage the book, but to inform you of what you're in for should you decide to read it. It goes without saying that if you enjoyed Sextrology, you will enjoy Cosmic Coupling. The corollary to this is that if you disliked Sextrology, you will despise Cosmic Coupling--and, to be honest, Cosmic Coupling deserves a few side-eyes for some of its assertions.
November 30, 2012
Everyone that I lend this book to ends up stealing it from me. It is incredibly spot on!
October 3, 2020
It is an enjoyable and funny read, written in the same style as Sextrology - another book written by this author. It is an exploration of the interactions and dynamics between various zodiac signs, who symbolize different archetypes and personalities. By pairing various signs, there are comparisons made with famous pairs from literature or mythology or modern culture. I would have liked for the book to have more lengthy descriptions of various ways in which the signs might get along or might argue.
March 19, 2018
Fantastic astrology reader for couples of any orientation! Written in a fun and fancy way that will have you nodding and laughing as you read, and learning more about your relationship dynamics than you ever imagined.
August 9, 2017
Best yet, astrology book for references and tea parties. Made my friends and I giggle at each other hehe
Most enjoyed part of this book is how queer friendly it is. THANK YOU AUTHORS ❤️
Most enjoyed part of this book is how queer friendly it is. THANK YOU AUTHORS ❤️
March 15, 2019
A saucy compilation you can put on your coffee table as a conversation starter. Though I'm not sure how well it translates when discussing in-depth compatibility.
September 12, 2025
Its a great conversation starter if someone sees it on book shelf. Very detailed in aspects in astrology and how it impacts relationship dynamics.
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June 29, 2013
I love this book SO much because it goes deep into Astrology, And I've always wanted to learn more about Astrology. Considering the fact that I'm already A psychic... I just thought it was only right to have a "desire" to want to dabble in astrology
February 1, 2025
I have too much fun with this, if you love astrology this one is a must have ❤️🔥
5/5 - purchased
5/5 - purchased
March 4, 2013
Crowd pleaser. Everyone wants to look their relationships up and you will too!!
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