It's (Mostly) His Fault: For Women Who Are Fed Up and the Men Who Love Them

by Robert Mark Alter

In the bestselling tradition of The Rules and The Surrendered Wife comes a controversial, empowering guide that says what women know already--that men are primarily responsible for marital problems.

Genres: Psychology

384 pages, Hardcover

First published March 20, 2006

Reviews

[Eli Parker · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm relatively sure that a bunch of this advice was good, but I didn't end up getting married, so I haven't tested it out yet.

[Sharyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Bought this used library book for a buck. It's a marriage counseling book. My husband says it is the best self help book he has ever read. He took everything to heart and we bought used copies for our married children. Basically, the book is "how to take care of your woman"--and it primarily revolves around how women think and communicate. Lots of good tips for men. Very entertaining--in fact, hilarious. The author talks to you in everyday language, using real-life stories. And he makes no bones about telling men what they are doing wrong. But the advice comes across constructively.

[Crystal Hunter · Rating 3 out of 5]

Timely reading in light of current revelations of inappropriate behavior by so many men. Worthwhile for any couple.

[J. Ewbank · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was not particularly what I wanted to hear about men, but unfortunately I had to agree with a lot of it.

If found the book to be very good, very readable, full of information and one that should be read more than once.

He reminds us that it takes work to form a good relationship. Relationships do not just happen and stay happening on their own, effort must be taken to make sure that they are good.

One good chapter is entitled "How to Know When You're Being a Man aAs Opposed to When You're Being an Asshole" that is well worth reading over and over again.

This book should be read by men, but also by women because there is a lot of good material in it for both sexes.

J. Robert Ewbank "John Weseley, Natural Man, and the 'Isms'"

[Tiffiny · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a marriage self-help book written by a male marriage counselor for men, but with the expectation that women will be reading it. I was one of these women readers and I really loved this book. It's written with men in mind, in a man's language so to speak, straight forward and to the point, but with a woman's best interest in mind, if that makes sense. Everything I read in this book rang true for me, what I want as a wife, how I want to be treated and spoken to and touched. He redefines what it is to "be a man" paralleling the feminist movement with his end goal of changing the world one man, one marriage, one family at a time. Not only was it helpful, but inspiring too.

[P. · Rating 1 out of 5]

A charming report from the Mars/Venus wars where, according to Alter, Mars is like totally wrong and at fault. I selected this book based on the piquant title. The title is a little off on emphasis. It should be "It's ALL his fault".
Generally, men must listen, tremble and obey the Ukases issued by hysterical, XX estrogen addicts. This book has a future on the farm, now that they don't make the Monkey Ward catalog anymore.

[Kerry · Rating 4 out of 5]

While I am not an avid reader of self-help books, this one was good. (Although I do prefer the title of the paperback: "Good Husband, Great Marriage.") This book should be read by every male who is or who may ever consider being in a relationship. It explains things in terms that we can understand. It gives practical suggestions. And I have it on good authority that it makes sense to our better halves.

[S. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thoroughly hilarious and so often true, a must-read for any couple in, or contemplating getting into, a deeper relationship. Tongue-in-cheek but oh, so serious. Who knows, it could save your relationship. Or save you from a relationship of heartache.

[Zack · Rating 3 out of 5]

Bought this book for my wife because of the title and I ended up reading it. Turns out it was for men too. Had some interesting things to say; some I can agree with and some other thoughts I couldn't, but an okay read. It did have some good suggestions for relationships.

[Joann Davis · Rating 4 out of 5]

empowers women and enlightens men

[Sabrina · Rating 3 out of 5]

If only husbands would read this. Say they can't change? This is practical by each issue and realistic and doesn't make a woman play mind games so that a man will show his love.