Why is he so mean to me?

by Cindy Burrell

Are you, living in a relationship characterized by anxiety, fear and confusion? Is your spouse unpredictable? Does he seem to attract or create chaos? Do you find yourself trying “extra hard” to earn his affection and approval? If there are issues or problems, does he make it seem as though they are always your fault? Do you have difficulty communicating or find yourself rehearsing what you want to say so that you are not misunderstood, and because you hope to avoid his anger? You are not alone. It may be that you are living in an abusive relationship – and just because he’s not hitting you does not mean you are not being abused. The abuse will not simply end. You have to be willing to take action to protect yourself and your family. If it feels as though the world revolves around the abuser, one of the things you need to grasp is that, in his mind, it does. Love should make you feel safe and cherished, not fearful and inadequate. If you agree, perhaps it’s time you rediscovered your value and reclaimed your life. An abuser will do anything to keep you, but nothing to take care of you.

240 pages, Kindle Edition

First published November 2, 2009

Reviews

[ellen · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a quick read and quite a reveal. There were characteristics I recognized that really opened my eyes to what I was missing. When the abuse is not physical it is hard to recognize it for what it is. Fact is, a relationship should make you feel good, not bad about yourself and this book walks you through the warning signs.

[Joy Harris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommend for women living in an abusive marriage. And everybody else, to educate themselves in the unique dynamics of domestic violence. You cannot understand it otherwise. Very encouraging book.

[Lady Makaveli · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the best I can do for a review of this book...

This book helped me realize I was in an abusive relationship; I wasn't crazy after all... But most importantly, this book opened the eyes of the woman whom took me in and cared for me all of my life. Though it was obvious she was abused, the mental tricks and games take their toll. Giving her this book was the best gift I ever gave her, because for the first time I saw her stand up for herself. Even though he didn't change, she became a lot stronger of a woman because of this book. I wish I could personally thank Cindy for being brave enough to write it.

[Terry · Rating 2 out of 5]

Maybe it's because of my background, but I found this book to be more like a bitch fest. She had several valid points, don't get me wrong. We also find out throughout the book what an ass her first husband was, with example after example of what he did, and how it was abusive. What disturbed me most was the fact that whe was remarried within a few years to another man.

[Maegan Daugherty · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommended!

Great heartfelt book with tons of information. Highly recommended for anyone in an abusive relationship, or currently trying to remove themselves from an unhealthy relationship. I am not a big reader, and usually read about half of a book. This book I read half in one day and completed the book within a week. Highly recommended!