Spare and sweet, 'Crazy As Chocolate' is an enchanting, involving novel of the acceptance and rememberance of familial madness set against an idyllic and wild childhood.
Elisabeth Hyde is the author, most recently, of GO ASK FANNIE, winner of the 2019 Colorado Book Award in General Fiction. She has also written five other critically acclaimed novels, including IN THE HEART OF THE CANYON, a NY Times Editor’s Choice and a People Magazine Great Read. Her fourth novel, THE ABORTIONIST'S DAUGHTER, became a best seller in Great Britain after being selected as a Summer Read by The Richard and Judy Show (Britain’s Oprah, at the time). Trained as a lawyer, she tried cases for the U.S. Department of Justice in Washington, D.C., for several years, a day-job that still gives her stomachaches just to think about it. Realizing that she preferred written conflict over face-to-face argument, she eventually left the law to write fiction, and never looked back. She lives in Boulder with her husband and the best dog in the whole world.
It took me a while to get into this novel which rather surprised me as the blurb sounded interesting. Izzy is approaching her 41st birthday, which is the same age her mother was when she suicided. As I got further into the story which flits backwards at times, I started to become more interested. Izzy and her older sister Ellie for the early years of their life had a mother they adored but never understood. As they grew older that changed. This is a story that explores family relationships and lingering guilt over words spoken in the heat of the moment as well as calculated slights and cruelties. Dealing with the topic of mental illness, this was never going to be a fun read, although there are a few light moments. It did get me in. I wanted to see how it was resolved. Was it? You will have to read it and see. At one stage Izzy and Ellie’s father says to his eldest daughter. “You’re forty-three,” he says with marked disgust. “You could learn to keep a few thoughts to yourself in present company.” There were times this reader felt much the same about some of the scenes the author chose to disclose. Some things are private and not every detail of everyday life needs to be given word space. That said, I did find it an interesting read, mostly. The characters I liked most out of all of them were Gabe, Izzy’s husband and Izzy and Ellie’s father. I did feel empathy for Izzy. I'm not reading the second story in this book at this time.
Crazy as Chocolate was a very inspiring book, special and a little unusual. It is the first book I have read by Elisabeth Hyde. I did really enjoy the book, even though it was sometimes sad and sometimes loaded with fun.
I am wondering how a book like this could be written with out first hand knowledge. I am wondering if Elisabeth Hyde put this under a "fiction" heading because she didn't want it under a "biography" heading.
At first i didn't like the bouncing back and forth between the present and the past,because the past fluctuated between the distant past and the recent past. But I got over it.
I was so into this book that I didn't hear people talking to me until they tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention. The book captured me. Maybe because it sounds a little familiar.
Just as it is my opinion that this is not really a fiction book, it is also my opinion that the other reviewers who didn't like it and quit reading, don't find it familiar. I was not surprised for the reasons the mother and Ellie, the sister, give for their actions. It was familiar.
I wanted to like this book more than I did. Mental health and suicide need to be written about and in its attempt not to blame the people with the illness I felt the book was on the right track. In some places it also portrayed the way women relate and reach out and need and give emotional support but it did it into a way that played into binary gender, was overly mollycoddling of men's discomfort of this and blamed women for being too "irrational".
I tried to overlook the firmly heterosexual world-view of the book and also the extremely wealthy middle-class setting (where the couple who are a paragliding teacher and a lawyer with no kids are the "poor" ones. I tried to see past that as simply setting and local colour, but it wasn't just that it carried ideologies of individualism and being "value free" (or amoral) with it which meant it failed to notice the ways that the shallowness and limitedness of the world-view and gendered subject positions were a factor in this inexplicably "feminine" mental illness in the family. Also the description of what a good husband is on pp80-81 (a provider of money - the more the better -and other consumer goods) was a pretty stark ideological declaration
The girls' father, Hugh, who is portrayed as too-good-to-be-true throughout the novel (as husbands of suicides in literature nearly always are- consider for e.g. The Hours) suddenly unfairly snaps at Izzie toward the end (p211) just when she is most beset with Ellie's rubbish, Wilson's unfair bombshell (delivered on her birthday) and her own husband's emotional unavailability layered over her childhood stress from her mum's suicide. The fact that this happens is realistic, the fact that within the worldview of the book he is right and innocent and she is somehow to blame for his "bad feelings" and "bad experience" of the birthday party she never wanted and he forced on her is pretty sickening. But men in the book seem to have zero responsibility for anything and at the end (I hope this is not a spoiler) what we are meant to take from it all is that lies and denial are good- which in some senses I could agree with except the way in the book consistently people use their dishonesty to hurt and abuse other less powerful people and to make demands of them.
This abuse of power and free reign for the individual is perhaps summed up in the choice Izzy faces toward the end to adopt a child from somewhere else- she can choose a child from Russia, China, Romania, Korea, Thailand, Ecuador, a Christian or Jew...etc (p237). No mention of the "other" communities and parents that are constructed as simply part of this wealthy white lawyer's consumer choice. And children get so badly treated in the book- neglected, spoilt and prhaps even used as pawns in adult issues.
I tried very hard not to dislike every character in the book and I did enjoy snatches of it. I thought the point was well made on p200 that noone woul actually understand what was in Mimi's head and the continuation of the scene on p201 where Izzy asserts that Gabe does not understand that sisters do and must constantly reach out to each other and be each other's rock and keeper I thought was heading somewhere good. Anyway I bookmarked it because I liked the "one had in our pocket, but always the other hand outstretched, fingertips touching, always."
But then there is the convenient black-and-white hyperindividualist answer on p 233 that blame always rests with the "grown woman" who "makes choices" not in any way with anyone around her (while I agree that Ellie is very self-indulgent and Izzy in no way to blame for her I think there is often more going on than "choice" in a mental illness and it is crucial as a society that we begin to face that better and offer better supports (or fewer stressors).
All in all 2 stars because we need to tell stories of emotional turmoil and terrible childhoods and even suicide. But no more than 2 because I feel the book fell very short of adding much to the discussion and I found it unrelatable. I feel sure some readers will disagree with me...
(This probably be a spoiler) I did't really like that the mother was a lair and that Ellie tells her to shut up most the time. Instead of telling her mother that she needs to change her dis-honest ways, Lizzy literally insults her mother, then I'd thought to myself 'the blurb says the daughters adored their mother, it didn't say not that they liked to insult her.'
I was loving this book – and then lost it before i finished it. It’s like chick lit with a brain. Or maybe if it was less intelligent it would be chick lit. Yes, that’s probably fairer. Woman literature about real woman. Not a lot of candy floss and pink glitter – just a very readable, very real story.
The story is about a woman, Izzy, reaching her 42nd birthday. The relevance of this to her and her family is that is the birthday upon which her crazy mother had committed suicide. The narrative moves very smoothly between the birthday weekend and Izzy and her sister Ellie’s childhood. Their father, Izzy’s husband Gabe and Ellie’s daughter Rachel are the only other characters present for the birthday celebrations. Ellie’s husband and the late mother are present in conversation and recollection only.
Yet this book is fully populated. The characters are real and complete. They are often both likeable and not all at the same time. Izzy and Ellie’s relationship is as complicated as a sister relationship can be, made even more so by their shared but not always similarly remembered childhood, and their separate issues regarding children.
This book is about family and how everyone is on some ways screwed up. But it is also about hard decisions and learning from your past – or not. It’s about love and the restrictions that can put on a person or a relationship. Sometimes love is not only not enough but exactly the opposite of what is needed. But we cannot escape those we love. And those we love never leave us even when they do escape.
As i said – I was loving this book. I was getting to the last ten pages of this book when i accidentally released it on Saturday. I do hope whoever picked it up reads it and enjoys it as much as i was. If anyone has read it, please space me. There is something i need to know.
With my mind unable to focus on anything much, I have resorted to a hand me down collection of chick lit that I've picked up over the years and this book was in that pile based on its cover and title. The cover has a photograph of two feet dangling out over a pond. This image has abosolutely no relevance to the story. And the tile of the book has even less relevance to the story. And this most certainly shouldn't have been in the easy to read pile.
A story about two sisters and their father dealing with their lives in the aftermath of their manic depressive mother's suicide at the age of 41. Set in Colorado, my hometown, I loved the way this story was told. The nature of motherhood and the impact of our parents was deftly handled and the conflict between the sisters was palpable. I would have enjoyed a bit more of a story but maybe I just didn't want it to end.
Not the type of book I would have bought or picked out at the library, but I suppose that's the idea of a reading group, to introduce us to books we would have otherwise passed on.
It's a story of a troubled childhood and living with a mother who is mentally unstable.
I find it hard to give an outline of the story without giving it all away, to me about half way through it stopped reading like a story and started to read like an autobiography. It certainly reads like the author has had experience of this type of behavior.
I struggled with the star rating and finally decided to give it three, as a story I don't think Izzy solved any of her issues really, but a really good account of living with someone who is unstable.
This is largely a tale of the relationship between a mother and her two daughters. As Izzy approaches her 41st birthday (an age her mother did not get beyond), she again begins to question whether she was to blame for her mother's early death. Her and Ellie's childhood was punctuated with their mother's manic episodes and Ellie (two years older than Izzy) appears to exhibit similar tendencies at times. As her father and elder sister travel to join her to celebrate her birthday, Izzy begins to re-live episodes from her past, seeking answers to her feelings of guilt. Pretty good read although I preferred 'The Abortionist's Daughter' - 7/10.
As I read this book and looked into the past of the main character, Izzy, I felt really sorry for her having to deal with a crazy mom. It just made me sad to see how she was confused by her mother's actions and haunted by her suicide as she got older. Her older sister, Ellie, I wanted to slap (in her older years, not while she was being raised by a crazy mother). It was just all-around sad what happened to these girls growing up, and reading how it affected them later on. A quick read, one that won't really leave you feeling happy but not miserable either.
I cannot bear to finish this book. It is just TOO BORING.
It doesn't have any interesting characters. The protagonist seems pressed out of a cookie-cutter. The only thing to distinguish her in any way is the fact that she can't have children which is a pretty boring distinguishing feature.
It has an almost hilariously one-dimensional impression of mental illness. It doesn't actually seem to have any plot at all. I got to 4/5 of the way through and apparently this is where the plot starts, 4/5 of the way through. The first hint of something that might be conflict. Urgh.
This is the second book I've read concerning sisters dealing with sisters coming to terms with childhood traumas involving their mothers. In this one Izzy is approaching her forty-first birthday. Usually forty-one isn't a big trauma, but Izzy's mother committed suicide on her forty-first birthday so it brings a lot of the past back for her. And much to Izzy's dismay her father and sister are coming to spend the birthday with her. Izzy's sister, Ellie, doesn't seem too emotionally stable either.
This one was given to me to read without comment. Ellie and Isabel adored their mother who was quite batty but colourful and unpredictable. But their mother commits suicide at the age of forty one. The girls both marry and live very different lives but for both the legacy of the past casts along shadow. A tale of maternal love and psychiatric illness; family bonds that triumph inspite of as much as because of what mothers do.
A complex novel about suicide and its effect on those left behind as well as mental health. Izzy and Ellie together with their Father spend the weekend together during Izzy's 41st birthday. A momentous memory of the day their Mother committed suicide. There are flashbacks which takes us into the complex relationship as well as give us an insight into their Mother's instability. I would have liked more character depth including the Mother/Father relationship and I thought the ending a bit too quick and tidy.
I flew through this book. A very easy read. Izzy is about to turn 41 the same age her mother was when her mother committed suicide by sitting in a car in a locked garage with the engine running. Izzy is having her sister and father to her house for her birthday weekend. Izzy has a sister named Ellie who is much like their mother and it worries Izzy. Ellie takes medication and some of her actions worry Izzy. Izzy is dreading this birthday feeling that she may not make it past her 41 st birthday and be dealt the same fate as their mother did.
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This is the story of a mother with mental health problems who eventually dies at age 41. What is it like to love with that kind of legacy? We see Izzy and Ellie growing up with their mother who is obviously different to the mothers, we see them go through her death. Fast forward to Izzy turning 41 herself, and we revisit the family to see how they are faring. Well written, but rather depressing.
Expertly written. I felt as if I was beside the main character as she dealt with her mother's mental illness from childhood to adulthood. Highly recommend for reading. I will be looking for more books by Ms. Hyde.
OK, I wasn’t crazy about it. The characters are not very well rounded and I wasn’t attached to any of them even by the end. A rather depressing read with suicide, marriage breakups, infertility, child neglect, ill health, miscommunication and emotional problems as the themes.
In 'Crazy as Chocolate', Elizabeth Hyde gives us an interesting glimpse into the impact of bipolar disorder on family life across generations.
The book is written in the first person from the perspective of Izzy. As it unfolds, the story encompasses the lives of Izzy and her sister Ellie and their parents in particular, and touches on the lives of the sisters' spouses, children and grandparents.
The story hinges on the their mother's suicide on her 41st birthday and the effects of this tragedy on her family, particularly her daughters, even decades into the future. Although Izzy's memory carries us into the past, the book begins on the day before her 41st birthday and lasts a weekend. The epilogue allows us to see how the events of that weekend have settled into each life one year on.
Hyde manages to capture the conflicting emotions of most of the characters and offers different perspectives on key events in their lives. It is a sympathetic view of life with mental illness and may offer some understanding to people who haven't lived through it.
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1st read by this author which I really enjoyed and will look for others by her. While this one bounces around quite a bit, between Izzy and Elly's childhood and adult lives and their struggles to finally come to grips with the world they all grew up with in dealing and coming to understand their mom's struggles with her mental illness.
Izzy will soon be 41...and realizes with sadness that she will now be older than her mother ever was. She and her husband are struggling with their own sadness of not being able to have a child, which dealing with the erratic and manic behavior of her sister, her sisters troubled marriage, and her widowed dad. Her rock is her husband Gabe...and she learns he's always there for her.
The title, incidentally, comes from Anne Sexton’s poem “Live”: “Even crazy, I’m as nice as a chocolate bar.”
This was my second book by Elisabeth Hyde, and while it cemented the fact that I definitely enjoy her as an author, it wasn't even close to as incredible as the first. Which I suppose I should have known, seeing as how that book was immediately added to my all time favorites shelf.
For such a sad story with such heart breaking details, I found I couldn't really connect with any of the characters. None of them struck a chord of sympathy with me at all. Honestly, I found the whole lot of them mostly unbearable, especially the main character's husband. Everyone came across very self centered and whiney. Just not that enjoyable. Thankfully the book was short enough that it didn't grate on my nerves too much.
I will definitely continue reading the author's novels but this one goes in the "mostly forgettable" pile for me.
I really liked this book despite the fact that in essence is mostly about mental illness. It's a story told by the viewpoint of one of the daughters Isabel (Izzy) who is about to turn 41 (the age her mother turned the day she committed suicide). It shows how the 2 daughters grew up with a unstable mother (both her lighted hearted fun loving side and her dark side) and how they cope with her suicide and how it shapes their futures. Most people would think that this would be a totally dark (and depressing) novel but the author manages to show us that there can be good memories formed with someone suffering from mental illness while still reinforcing the fact that it does exist and we as a society need to acknowledge it and make sure these people get the help they need,
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I was given this book by someone I met on holiday, she had just finished reading it. I must admit, it was a harder read than I was expecting, and not really ideal sun-lounger material ;-)
Mental illness is a sensitive subject to me and so I found the story quite hard to read, in fact I almost gave up a few times. However, I was determined to finish it the day I started it (it isn't a long book) and I managed it. It got better as it went on but I can't say I liked it, I appreciated it put some things in perspective but on the whole it was a "low mood" feel for me. I hope that makes some sort of sense! There were some lighter moments but I was glad when it was over!