This is not the definitive history of the post-WWII sexual "revolution" in American culture, but it is certainly a good read and has led me in positive directions.
While in general agreement with libertarian political and legal attitudes about sex, I'm personally rather conservative in behavior and pretty much inexperienced so far as anything beyond conventional heterosexual monogamy. Living in Illinois, the state which, thanks to the Playboy Foundation, first liberalized laws governing sex between consenting adults, I've probably never even broken the law. For me, the idea of sex without love is an uncomfortable one. I have it well, and plausibly, rationalized in terms of the common emotional importance of sex, possible pregnancies and disease transmission, but, honestly, I'm prejudiced by very questionable romantic ideals and the painful consequences to my family of maternal infidelities.
Of course, I lived through the revolution he speaks of and it certainly influenced me--more, in fact, than I knew before reading the book. Womens' Liberation was simply a given, like anti-imperialism, and so were gay rights and the like. Indeed, I belonged to a Mens' Group in college which was dominated by gays and tried, quite unsuccessfully, to overcome my heterosexualism. The pill was commonplace by the time I entered college. Indeed, I met one of its originators at my girlfriend's home, her family being friends with his. The clitoral orgasm was well-established. Indeed, until reading Freud, I had been unaware that it had ever been controversial. Pornography was readily available, even to children willing to make just a little effort. Sex was commonly discussed--even by me, but only after losing my virginity in college.
But the business of free love, despite the virtual absence of any really serious STD during the seventies, the free and easy love-making chronicled in the book, was, to me and to most, but not all, of my friends, more a matter of theory than of practice. Indeed, most of my male friends lost their virginity in college or later and effectively practiced serial monogamy. Infidelity was a matter of shame and guilt. Yet we, the radicals and the freaks, were rather more openly loving and kind than our parents. It was not uncommon for men to hold one another affectionately--despite the prevailing homophobia. Hugs at greetings and partings were often heartfelt and much more than perfunctory.
I had expected, even hoped for, some titillation upon picking this volume up at the local used bookstore, Armadillo's Pillow. That expectation was disappointed, but more than made up for by the text.
Part of What Wild Ecstasy is about the relevant sciences, part about the laws, part about the politics and part about the business of sex. All are interwoven along with a few primary figures who come up again and again, some well-known, some unknown to me prior to reading. This interweaving technique makes for an engrossing experience as one is never bored by too much at once about a single topic and is often inspired to continue on to find out what happens next when he returns to a discarded thread of the discussion.
Ecstasy includes a lot of laughs. Some of it is simply funny or absurd. Other parts, however, are darkly amusing--particularly the repeated instances of members of the Christian Right being caught out a hypocrites, if not criminals. But the book can also be quite serious.
For me the high point was in reading the account of a transexual in the fifties, a female embodied as a male. I've really known a transexual, been exposed to that subculture or even thought about it much, but Heidenry got me into her story, the pathos of it, so much that I wept for her. Any book than can get me into another's head like he appeared to do in that account, particularly when the other is so initially alien, even off-putting, deserves much praise.
Finally...the spoiler. If the book has a point, it is the repeated discovery (often referenced to sexual athletes) that affectionately open physical contact between people, not sex per se, is what is most important.