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Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy
Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues, explains psychotherapist David Richo. Whether it’s fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust—both in ourselves and in our partner.
Daring to Trust offers key insights and practical exercises for exploring and addressing our trust issues in relationships. Topics
• How we learn early in life to trust others (or not to trust them)
• Why we fear trusting
• Developing greater trust in ourselves as the basis for trusting others
• How to know if someone is trustworthy
• Naïve trust vs. healthy, adult trust
• What to do when trust is broken
Ultimately, Richo explains, we must develop trust in four toward ourselves, toward others, toward life as it is, and toward a higher power or spiritual path. These four types of trust are not only the basis of healthy relationships, they are also the foundation of emotional well-being and freedom from fear.
Daring to Trust offers key insights and practical exercises for exploring and addressing our trust issues in relationships. Topics
• How we learn early in life to trust others (or not to trust them)
• Why we fear trusting
• Developing greater trust in ourselves as the basis for trusting others
• How to know if someone is trustworthy
• Naïve trust vs. healthy, adult trust
• What to do when trust is broken
Ultimately, Richo explains, we must develop trust in four toward ourselves, toward others, toward life as it is, and toward a higher power or spiritual path. These four types of trust are not only the basis of healthy relationships, they are also the foundation of emotional well-being and freedom from fear.
192 pages, Hardcover
First published December 9, 2010
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About the author
David Richo
88 books535 followersDavid Richo, PhD, is a therapist and author who leads popular workshops on personal and spiritual growth.
He received his BA in psychology from Saint John's Seminary in Brighton, Massachusetts, in 1962, his MA in counseling psychology from Fairfield University in 1969, and his PhD in clinical psychology from Sierra University in 1984. Since 1976, Richo has been a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor in California. In addition to practicing psychotherapy, Richo teaches courses at Santa Barbara City College and the University of California Berkeley at Berkeley, and has taught at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, Pacifica Graduate Institute, and Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. He is a clinical supervisor for the Community Counseling Center in Santa Barbara, California.
Known for drawing on Buddhism, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work, Richo is the author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Lovingand The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find in Embracing Them. He has also written When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships, Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know, and Being True to Life: Poetic Paths to Personal Growth.
Richo lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco.
He received his BA in psychology from Saint John's Seminary in Brighton, Massachusetts, in 1962, his MA in counseling psychology from Fairfield University in 1969, and his PhD in clinical psychology from Sierra University in 1984. Since 1976, Richo has been a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor in California. In addition to practicing psychotherapy, Richo teaches courses at Santa Barbara City College and the University of California Berkeley at Berkeley, and has taught at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, Pacifica Graduate Institute, and Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. He is a clinical supervisor for the Community Counseling Center in Santa Barbara, California.
Known for drawing on Buddhism, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work, Richo is the author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Lovingand The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find in Embracing Them. He has also written When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships, Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know, and Being True to Life: Poetic Paths to Personal Growth.
Richo lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco.
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January 11, 2013
This book helped me to realize that after a "failed" relationship, it's not that we've lost trust in other people as much as we've lost trust in ourselves. As we make adult decisions going forward and feel our feelings as they come, we realize that we can trust ourselves to handle anything, and we become open to love again and again and again.
December 16, 2010
As many may know, I shy away from nonfiction - especially that of the self-help variety. There are multiple self-help books for every possible conundrum and each offers different advice. How helpful could the advice be if the "experts" can't agree on a proper course of action? I chose to read David Richo's Daring to Trust for two reasons: I haven't seen many books on the subject of trusting others before and I believe it's a common problem that many have trouble with.
Richo's theory that most interpersonal problems stem from a lack of trust seems solid. He looks in depth at the past and its impact on how people respond to situations in the present. A lot of positive ideas in the book such as trusting oneself, being trustworthy towards others and not expecting those who have proven untrustworthy to change provide a healthy perspective on the idea of trust and life in general.
While Daring to Trust's psychology resonated with me, some other aspects of the book did not. Actions such as writing poems that express what you learn about yourself aren't exactly my cup of tea. The book relies heavily on references to Shakespeare (especially Hamlet). I failed to see the correlation between trust and Hamlet. There are also many references to Buddhism and its practices. While I appreciate the advocacy of ones higher power not necessarily having to be God and the absence of advice steeped in organized religion, there was enough Buddhist practices in Daring to Trust to alienate those who like their self-help completely free of religion. Much of what Shambhala, Daring to Trust's publisher, publishes focuses on Buddhism, feng-shui, yoga and other spiritually based themes. It most likely will not distract from the advice in the book for those who expect it, but I would have liked if the new age flavor would have been made known somewhere in the synopsis of the book and hadn't been surprised by it.
I applaud David Richo's tackling of a topic such as trust. Generally, people are either trusting or they are not and remain that way their entire lives. The psychology in Daring to Trust gives me hope that people can actually change this aspect of their personalities.
Richo's theory that most interpersonal problems stem from a lack of trust seems solid. He looks in depth at the past and its impact on how people respond to situations in the present. A lot of positive ideas in the book such as trusting oneself, being trustworthy towards others and not expecting those who have proven untrustworthy to change provide a healthy perspective on the idea of trust and life in general.
While Daring to Trust's psychology resonated with me, some other aspects of the book did not. Actions such as writing poems that express what you learn about yourself aren't exactly my cup of tea. The book relies heavily on references to Shakespeare (especially Hamlet). I failed to see the correlation between trust and Hamlet. There are also many references to Buddhism and its practices. While I appreciate the advocacy of ones higher power not necessarily having to be God and the absence of advice steeped in organized religion, there was enough Buddhist practices in Daring to Trust to alienate those who like their self-help completely free of religion. Much of what Shambhala, Daring to Trust's publisher, publishes focuses on Buddhism, feng-shui, yoga and other spiritually based themes. It most likely will not distract from the advice in the book for those who expect it, but I would have liked if the new age flavor would have been made known somewhere in the synopsis of the book and hadn't been surprised by it.
I applaud David Richo's tackling of a topic such as trust. Generally, people are either trusting or they are not and remain that way their entire lives. The psychology in Daring to Trust gives me hope that people can actually change this aspect of their personalities.
October 2, 2024
First, I disclose my bias, being that I've become somewhat of a Richo fan over the course of having read three or so of his books now.
This book came across my path by way of synchronicity really, a gift from my parents who knew I liked Richo as an author. Yet the context of my life has been that I've been trying to figure out how to navigate and mend a relationship in which trust has been severely broken.
What I found in Richo in this book was as expected, a lot of validation of my own intuitive sense as well as crisp definitions which make personal contemplation much easier. For instance, I liked how he defined safety and security early on. Safety being able to trust that you can express yourself and be received in your feelings etc. (I'm paraphrasing). And security being able to trust that someone will be there for you (which evokes Bowlby for me, which he references later).
What reading this did for me was help guide and validate my needs for trust and the delicate process of building it, losing it and seeking to rebuild it. One of the primary insights of the book is that trust is not just found or not found in our individual relationships to others, trust is also an individual capacity we have to varying degrees based on whether we've learned that trust is safe or not (e.g. Erikson's trust vs mistrust/doubt as a stage of development). So not only are we wise to appropriately discern our felt level of trust in someone else, we also must examine our own personal history with trust itself.
On the more critical side, as I've read more Richo books, he does re-explain content and many concepts from previous books. So I found myself a little underwhelmed in parts which I felt like I had digested the principles of from the prior books I'd read of his. That being said, you'll get more out of Richo I feel the most initially.
In the ways his ideas repeated from prior books, I read it more as poetry, a kind of more koan-like meditative reading on the principles and words, to further digest them. And I feel his approach, of Jungian style psychology and Buddhist principles, is very intuitive and similar to my own, which perhaps made this style of reading (more towards the end of the book) possible.
Bottom line, if you are new to Richo and interested in particular in this topic then I think you could benefit a lot from it. Those already familiar with Richo may take away less from reading.
This book came across my path by way of synchronicity really, a gift from my parents who knew I liked Richo as an author. Yet the context of my life has been that I've been trying to figure out how to navigate and mend a relationship in which trust has been severely broken.
What I found in Richo in this book was as expected, a lot of validation of my own intuitive sense as well as crisp definitions which make personal contemplation much easier. For instance, I liked how he defined safety and security early on. Safety being able to trust that you can express yourself and be received in your feelings etc. (I'm paraphrasing). And security being able to trust that someone will be there for you (which evokes Bowlby for me, which he references later).
What reading this did for me was help guide and validate my needs for trust and the delicate process of building it, losing it and seeking to rebuild it. One of the primary insights of the book is that trust is not just found or not found in our individual relationships to others, trust is also an individual capacity we have to varying degrees based on whether we've learned that trust is safe or not (e.g. Erikson's trust vs mistrust/doubt as a stage of development). So not only are we wise to appropriately discern our felt level of trust in someone else, we also must examine our own personal history with trust itself.
On the more critical side, as I've read more Richo books, he does re-explain content and many concepts from previous books. So I found myself a little underwhelmed in parts which I felt like I had digested the principles of from the prior books I'd read of his. That being said, you'll get more out of Richo I feel the most initially.
In the ways his ideas repeated from prior books, I read it more as poetry, a kind of more koan-like meditative reading on the principles and words, to further digest them. And I feel his approach, of Jungian style psychology and Buddhist principles, is very intuitive and similar to my own, which perhaps made this style of reading (more towards the end of the book) possible.
Bottom line, if you are new to Richo and interested in particular in this topic then I think you could benefit a lot from it. Those already familiar with Richo may take away less from reading.
February 15, 2025
I resonated with some of the concepts of this book, however I didn’t find it particularly enjoyable to read.
It focuses on loving kindness and how self trust is of the upmost importance.
It also touches on the concept that putting our trust into people and expecting them never to disappoint us or hurt us is counterproductive and instead we should trust ourselves to navigate this and to evolve from these difficult and painful situations.
It discusses accepting the reality of a situation rather than agonising over how we think things should be.
I have taken some helpful and important messages from the book but felt the author jumped about a lot from different theories, religion and quotes and it felt a bit disjointed which made it difficult to connect.
It focuses on loving kindness and how self trust is of the upmost importance.
It also touches on the concept that putting our trust into people and expecting them never to disappoint us or hurt us is counterproductive and instead we should trust ourselves to navigate this and to evolve from these difficult and painful situations.
It discusses accepting the reality of a situation rather than agonising over how we think things should be.
I have taken some helpful and important messages from the book but felt the author jumped about a lot from different theories, religion and quotes and it felt a bit disjointed which made it difficult to connect.
December 9, 2024
I recommend! “The foundation of adult trust is not “You will never hurt me.” It is “I trust myself with whatever you do”
October 8, 2023
Everyone should read this book. Very insightful 👏
March 31, 2019
Pretty sure I just got a download from the Matrix.
Best book I've read by this author so far, and a new favorite. It's rare for me to find a book that I resonate with at near 100%, but here it is. This guy really knows what he's talking about.
One of the things I love about this book is that he breaks away from contemporary, traditional western thought in the realm of counseling in favor of a more realistic, less socially-acceptable view. Not all relationships or marriages are salvageable. He goes on list some of the reasons that suggest when a union is, and when it isn't. If reasons for staying together include having children together, religious views, social contracts/family pressure, finances ... we are not likely to succeed in our quest to make the relationship mutually satisfying. If reasons include the seemingly selfish "we're really into each other," or "we still love each other intensely," then the relationship may be saved because there is possibly enough motivation to make the necessary changes for both people to be happy. WOW.
Talk about a liberating view. This is a somewhat bittersweet truth that I've struggled with for years. To hear him validate what I all long suspected releases me from a burden of guilt.
Additionally, I also deeply respect his view (once again, breaking away from cookie-cutter Western psychology) that chemistry is not the Devil, and we don't have to base our primary relationship on compatibility alone, but rather, should aim for both compatibility and chemistry. While compatibility is not only desirable, but necessary, chemistry also plays an important role. It shows us where our personality work is to be done (internally), and also, what we may be missing from our current relationship. This is not a bad thing. For one, we can use the information we are receiving to help us along our path to wholeness; to help us grow - a valuable blessing in a relationship. Furthermore, if we are already in a (mostly) happy relationship, we may use the information as a way to improve our current primary relationship by including what we are missing (the "Five A's" -- appreciation, acceptance, allowing, affection, and attention). Of course, this can only work if we have a partner who is willing and able to make such changes - but it is a wonderful encouragement to the idea that long-term fidelity is a real possibility. We do not have to act on every attraction we feel, but rather, may simply use these experiences as information for improvement of our primary relationship.
This is a good book.
Best book I've read by this author so far, and a new favorite. It's rare for me to find a book that I resonate with at near 100%, but here it is. This guy really knows what he's talking about.
One of the things I love about this book is that he breaks away from contemporary, traditional western thought in the realm of counseling in favor of a more realistic, less socially-acceptable view. Not all relationships or marriages are salvageable. He goes on list some of the reasons that suggest when a union is, and when it isn't. If reasons for staying together include having children together, religious views, social contracts/family pressure, finances ... we are not likely to succeed in our quest to make the relationship mutually satisfying. If reasons include the seemingly selfish "we're really into each other," or "we still love each other intensely," then the relationship may be saved because there is possibly enough motivation to make the necessary changes for both people to be happy. WOW.
Talk about a liberating view. This is a somewhat bittersweet truth that I've struggled with for years. To hear him validate what I all long suspected releases me from a burden of guilt.
Additionally, I also deeply respect his view (once again, breaking away from cookie-cutter Western psychology) that chemistry is not the Devil, and we don't have to base our primary relationship on compatibility alone, but rather, should aim for both compatibility and chemistry. While compatibility is not only desirable, but necessary, chemistry also plays an important role. It shows us where our personality work is to be done (internally), and also, what we may be missing from our current relationship. This is not a bad thing. For one, we can use the information we are receiving to help us along our path to wholeness; to help us grow - a valuable blessing in a relationship. Furthermore, if we are already in a (mostly) happy relationship, we may use the information as a way to improve our current primary relationship by including what we are missing (the "Five A's" -- appreciation, acceptance, allowing, affection, and attention). Of course, this can only work if we have a partner who is willing and able to make such changes - but it is a wonderful encouragement to the idea that long-term fidelity is a real possibility. We do not have to act on every attraction we feel, but rather, may simply use these experiences as information for improvement of our primary relationship.
This is a good book.
May 14, 2017
This is a practical and meaningful book on how to trust ourselves and others in relationships and in life in general. Richo's thesis is basic and powerful - that trust in others is ultimately trusting ourselves with whatever happens, not demanding (or feeling entitled) to unwavering trust. I left with many tools for taking responsibility and evaluating my trust in myself and others.
The last third of the book steered away from trust in others and ourselves and more into Buddhist philosophy. Richo is not a promulgator: He presents secular Buddhism as an option, which I am biased toward, but he also leaves room for other interpretations.
The last third of the book steered away from trust in others and ourselves and more into Buddhist philosophy. Richo is not a promulgator: He presents secular Buddhism as an option, which I am biased toward, but he also leaves room for other interpretations.
February 14, 2022
i didn’t like this book because it called me out. also wasn’t a fan of the consistent heteronormative language......
October 8, 2020
TL;DR Trusting yourself will lead to an ability to trust others more easily.
A big book that covers many aspects of healthy adult trust. Naive trust is when you expect other people to not disappoint you. Healthy adult trust is when you trust yourself to be able to handle violations of trust, not feeling entitled to or demanding the other person's unwavering loyalty and fulfilment of your expectations. If you no longer wish to continue giving the other person your trust, sever the relationship.
People start at different "trust points" based on their childhood and what they have experienced thus far in relationships. You shouldn't let that affect how you treat other people. It is never a good idea to keep score or to retaliate against another person out of spite because they are untrusting of you. You have no control over others. If you choose to engage with someone, give them the benefit of doubt, trust that you can handle the outcome, and behave in a kind loving manner.
Some good Richo nuggets:
1. Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues - "Whether it’s fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust—both in ourselves and in our partner."
2. We cannot demand or feel entitled to unwavering loyalty from other people. Trusting others requires a leap of faith with the safety of knowing that whatever happens, we can handle it.
3. When trust is broken, not all relationships are salvageable. If staying together is tied to obligation - marriage, religion, family pressure, finances - it is unlikely to work out. If staying together is a choice because both parties acknowledge that they still love each other, there is a better chance - as this allows necessary impetus for change.
The writing style is long winded and difficult to get through. A lot of Buddhist renunciation of the self stuff toward the end. Some good ideas nevertheless.
A big book that covers many aspects of healthy adult trust. Naive trust is when you expect other people to not disappoint you. Healthy adult trust is when you trust yourself to be able to handle violations of trust, not feeling entitled to or demanding the other person's unwavering loyalty and fulfilment of your expectations. If you no longer wish to continue giving the other person your trust, sever the relationship.
People start at different "trust points" based on their childhood and what they have experienced thus far in relationships. You shouldn't let that affect how you treat other people. It is never a good idea to keep score or to retaliate against another person out of spite because they are untrusting of you. You have no control over others. If you choose to engage with someone, give them the benefit of doubt, trust that you can handle the outcome, and behave in a kind loving manner.
Some good Richo nuggets:
1. Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues - "Whether it’s fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust—both in ourselves and in our partner."
2. We cannot demand or feel entitled to unwavering loyalty from other people. Trusting others requires a leap of faith with the safety of knowing that whatever happens, we can handle it.
3. When trust is broken, not all relationships are salvageable. If staying together is tied to obligation - marriage, religion, family pressure, finances - it is unlikely to work out. If staying together is a choice because both parties acknowledge that they still love each other, there is a better chance - as this allows necessary impetus for change.
The writing style is long winded and difficult to get through. A lot of Buddhist renunciation of the self stuff toward the end. Some good ideas nevertheless.
November 10, 2022
Knížka byla místy hodně táhlá a možná až moc se autor zaobíral akceptováním smrtelnosti. Což asi nevadí, jen to nebylo to, co jsem čekala a co jsem potřebovala. A někdy to bylo takové dost spirituální. Nicméně pár důležitých poznatků jsem si ze čtení odnesla: Nemůžeme všechnu naši důvěru vkládat v jednoho člověka. Věřit musíme především ve své schopnosti, ve své hodnoty, v to, že jsme udělali maximum pro to, aby nám ostatní mohli věřit, a také tak nějak musíme věřit, že ostatní se snaží o totéž, ale zároveň musíme i počítat s tím, že to tak být nemusí, ale že s tím nic neuděláme. Netrápit se kvůli tomu, že ostatní nejsou takoví, jaké si je představujeme, je něco, co mě provází docela dlouho a občas mě to fakt trápí, ale číst si tenhle typ knížek mi dost pomáhá. Třeba jen uvědomit si, jak daleko jsme došli, jak dobré některé aspekty našeho vztahu jsou, a kde je naopak třeba trochu zapracovat.
December 14, 2022
I wholeheartedly enjoyed this book! The book does focus mostly on romantic relationships however, the principles apply to any relationship that relies on trust, which is all of them. ;) Whether or not you personally have issues trusting, or know someone who does this was a book full of great practices to strengthen your capacity to connect with others, especially during duress. This book really helped me understand myself and others' needs around trust in a relationship. I think sometimes it's easy to speak differently than we act, and not realize how we are coming across to others, especially those we are closest to. I have found it important to reexamine if we are in alignment what the principles we claim to believe in. David Richo certainly did that in this book, and I am extremely grateful to him for deepening my understanding and practicing trustworthiness in my relationships!
February 20, 2022
This is a definitely life/mind changing material. Really useful for me to review the past and experiences, find out what the problem was/is and the way to solve. Full of content with wide range of knowledges including psychology, science, literature and spirituality.
It’s never easy to change/correct the mind setting into the right/healthier way, so we need to practice and practice. I even wrote my own notes/summaries for review. I knew I’ve been better after reading this book, but it’s really not enough because mind/behavior is so easily to go back to the old way. So I would continue practice and reread when I need. Wish all of you could let go the fear from the bottom of hearts/memory and hurts.
It’s never easy to change/correct the mind setting into the right/healthier way, so we need to practice and practice. I even wrote my own notes/summaries for review. I knew I’ve been better after reading this book, but it’s really not enough because mind/behavior is so easily to go back to the old way. So I would continue practice and reread when I need. Wish all of you could let go the fear from the bottom of hearts/memory and hurts.
November 28, 2021
A must read that changed and illuminated my ideas on trust. It also helped me understand how far I've come personally with the work I've done in my relationships as he has checklists for childlike and adult trust for example. I also appreciate so much the personal anecdotes he shares about how things come together, that a high power, whatever that means to you, will reveal and help you understand you life better and trust you with answers when the time is right. I worried it would be overtly religious and it is not; he is very open and accommodating for any and all belief systems. A game changer. I will read more from him.
January 19, 2022
As someone who just started a self-work journey because I realized my lack of trust in others was significantly impacting my personal relationships, I can’t express enough how this book has completely shifted my perspective on trust. The author gives the reader tools to look at trust as something that is internal and that we must seek within ourselves, not an external force derived from other people or situations. Would highly recommend!
February 14, 2024
This book is a fundamental read that offers profound insights into the essence of trust in shaping our relationships with others, the infinite and ourselves. Its blend of psychological depth and practical advice makes it an invaluable guide for cultivating deeper connections and personal growth. This book is a transformative journey that promises to influence how we love, trust, and navigate the complexities of intimacy and the unknown.
August 12, 2024
I enjoy self help books and often glean something from them. This one started fairly slow for me and felt like a review of concepts I’d read. It wasn’t long until I began underlining and my reading pace slowed and I contemplated concepts. The book does dabble in and finishes with spiritual (mostly Buddhist) teachings which will turn away many, but does so in a non traditional way that I found more useful than dogmatic. Overall very useful text on relationships and trust.
June 19, 2020
Random thoughts about trust by someone who obviously hasn’t a clue about paranoia or serious issues of inability to trust.
One of the latter sections has a heading: ‘do you trust yourself?’ Sounds like he was trying to meet his page number requirement for his publisher.
More money wasted on an online trap of a book.
One of the latter sections has a heading: ‘do you trust yourself?’ Sounds like he was trying to meet his page number requirement for his publisher.
More money wasted on an online trap of a book.
April 12, 2021
I was far from prepared for this book. My mind is still soaking in the endless stream of insight and powerful thoughts presented. Richo did a great job at breaking down what trust truly is, for we can identify where we are with trust, and how to move forward. I also love how he ended on such an uplifting note. Great book!
February 5, 2023
This book is great in all phases of life as it covers trust in self, relationships, life as it is, and in a higher power. It has so many good quotes and memorable paragraphs, as well as interactive questions to help you personally apply each chapter to your life. I love it and I turn back to specific chapters occasionally as needed.
April 13, 2018
Richo's writing includes such a wide range of superb sources to support his ideas and I'm thoroughly intrigued by his topics and how he builds up his work. I just really enjoy the journey he takes you and the suggestions he asks you to consider. Really solid, helpful, and meaty read.
September 4, 2018
There are some great points and take aways in this book. However, I found it extremely dull, repetitive, and some sections seemed to drag on. The writing style lost me and I almost gave up on reading this.
November 24, 2019
Well , this book definitely has something to say , and I have definitely learned from it , but it is also pretty hard to read , sometimes it is actually feels like a textbook , which is not exactly what I have expected from it :/
July 8, 2021
I love reading something that feels familiar on a cellular level, but i never put the pieces as clearly and succinctly and now it feels like my brain is running a mile a minute by all the connections it's making and strengthening.
August 11, 2021
Im in the midst of understanding, why in my near 43 years of life have not had a successful romantic relationship. Childhood trauma is something else I tell ya. This book has been so helpful. I will reread it to take notes.
January 31, 2022
This books covers so many aspects of trust. I recommend reading it all once then coming back to chapters to digest & work through specific concepts. I liked listening to it on Audible to clip sections that I wanted to listen to again & jot down notes.
April 12, 2022
You never know what you're going to get from a self-help book but this was a pleasant surprise. Complex needs boiled down to a handful of rememberable, actionable ideas. I appreciated that he universalized notions of a god/higher power.
May 8, 2023
I would give it 5 stars and his voice is so soothing (listening to it) I started to lose track occasionally and needed to go back and listen again. Such wonderful and enlightening information. I will go back and listen or read again for sure.
April 12, 2024
Interesting bits of information on childhood trauma healing. However, I feel this book has more suited to a relationship where infidelity occurred, which was just not my case. Also, the inclusion of religion made me not enjoy it as much as I think I would have otherwise.
October 17, 2024
I really felt deeply connected with this book, especially because I could relate to many of the examples the author spoke about. I feel like it helped me further see and understand myself/reactions on a deeper level.
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