The late comedian Patrice O'Neal once said, "Men want to be alone, but we don't want to be by ourselves." There is a big difference between being lonely and being alone. We all know that alone time can be much needed, but how do we confront the epidemic of loneliness in modern society? After all, if you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.
In 2022, Pew Research Centre found 30% of US adults are neither married, living with a partner nor engaged in a committed relationship. In 2017, the term "honjuk" (tribe of one) emerged as a counter-culture buzzword in South Korea due to the growing trend of individualism in a country that has historically placed community at the top of its hierarchical values.
In Francie Healy's (@franciehealey) new book, she explains that loneliness, in general, comes from a lack of social support. Whereas alone time can be quite the opposite, creating much-needed space in a world that's 'all-go.' But you need not be alone to feel lonely. Loneliness is about the absence of connection, rather than the absence of people.
So how does one "get connected?"
By seeking and developing social connections, while also learning to better connect with yourself. When you devote sufficient time to being alone, you are better able to tune into your own thoughts, and feelings and hone your listening abilities. What's more, the more awareness you have about who are and what you want from life, the better you become at knowing who feels most aligned to you.
Honjoks are linked by a commonality in their desire to take time for themselves and live a life where solitude is sought-after and celebrated rather than fought against and rejected. As Thoreau, the O.G. of alone-time once wrote, "I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude."
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