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Finding the Right One After Divorce: Avoiding the 13 Common Mistakes People Make in Remarriage
There are 23 million divorced people in the United States today. More than 80 percent of these people will remarry, and many of those marriages will fail. Divorce recovery experts Edward Tauber and Jim Smoke draw on their 30 years of experience as divorce counselors and a survey of more than 600 individuals to explore why people end up divorced again and what they can do to successfully remarry. To help readers avoid making the mistakes others have made, the authors present 13 wrong reasons to remarry, Tauber and Smoke provide practical guidelines based on biblical principles to help people find partners who share values, have compatible personalities, agree on child-raising principles, and more. Includes helpful "Ready2Remarry" self test.
256 pages, Paperback
First published April 1, 2007
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December 25, 2023
Incredibly odd book to read on Christmas, but it called to me, so I went with it.
I purchased and read this book after my divorce a long time ago and it was helpful. I didn’t have a second marriage immediately following my divorce and I’m still not married, so it helped me to avoid a second divorce if nothing else.
I don’t think this book alone will help someone going through a divorce, but it’s a good resource. I also went to therapy and had a strong support network, so was very lucky. I highly recommend therapy. Divorce messes one up mentally and emotionally and you need to get your head on straight and be strong in yourself before making any major life altering decisions. Wish I had gone to therapy BEFORE my first marriage, might have avoided it if I had, but who thinks of failure when one has heart-eyes? Heck, who thinks at ALL at the point?
I digress. I am actively trying to purge books, saw this on my shelf and decided to read it to see if it was a good one to gift to a friend going through their own personal troubles and after the re-read, I think it will be a good fit. At the very least, I’m hoping it will be accepted with politeness and not chucked at my head.
Definitely a good book, to be accompanied by therapy, plenty of time to process and work on self-awareness and forgiveness, of the offender and of the self. You can’t move on if the person who hurt you is living rent-free in your head. Don’t rush into anything. Take your time and think things through.
5, I hope you all are in the best place possible in whatever relationships you choose and there is hope if you are hurting, stars.
I purchased and read this book after my divorce a long time ago and it was helpful. I didn’t have a second marriage immediately following my divorce and I’m still not married, so it helped me to avoid a second divorce if nothing else.
I don’t think this book alone will help someone going through a divorce, but it’s a good resource. I also went to therapy and had a strong support network, so was very lucky. I highly recommend therapy. Divorce messes one up mentally and emotionally and you need to get your head on straight and be strong in yourself before making any major life altering decisions. Wish I had gone to therapy BEFORE my first marriage, might have avoided it if I had, but who thinks of failure when one has heart-eyes? Heck, who thinks at ALL at the point?
I digress. I am actively trying to purge books, saw this on my shelf and decided to read it to see if it was a good one to gift to a friend going through their own personal troubles and after the re-read, I think it will be a good fit. At the very least, I’m hoping it will be accepted with politeness and not chucked at my head.
Definitely a good book, to be accompanied by therapy, plenty of time to process and work on self-awareness and forgiveness, of the offender and of the self. You can’t move on if the person who hurt you is living rent-free in your head. Don’t rush into anything. Take your time and think things through.
5, I hope you all are in the best place possible in whatever relationships you choose and there is hope if you are hurting, stars.
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March 6, 2020
It's not often I read a book and in between reading I'm mouthing "Thank you Jesus!" I bought it over two years ago and forgot it on my shelf! Thankfully I was searching for something and found it. Devoured the book in less than 48hrs! This book IS MY BOOK OF THE YEAR! My one dissatisfaction? The title! This is not just a book for divorced people seeking remarriage! Everyone who even remotely considers marriage should READ THIS BOOK! The 'bestest' thing about it is- you come with the desire to learn 1 thing? It rewards you with fixing multiple sides of you! So, following my reading of this amazing book, I've revised my career goals, set new life, business and family goals, just all round become more ALIVE! I know not everyone will come out as excited as I am but everyone who's heart is ready will gain more than they bargained for! I wanted to personally thank the authors for writing this amazing book but their emails weren't in the book, I tried the website and it wasn't live, I couldn't just move on, these men literally changed my life! I had to say thank you! Yes, this is my first book review, so I hope I haven't messed it up, but I really just had to say thank you Edward& Jim! God bless you much! I'm definitely going to be looking out for all you write and gobble them up! Thanks for sharing so deeply. If there is a marriage book to read, it's definitely this 1!
December 2, 2013
After you get a divorce, but BEFORE you start dating READ THIS BOOK! It would be so easy to slip into one of the common pitfalls of dating after divorce if you don't. The reasons people get married a second time are different from the reasons people get married the first time. This book shows the "bad reasons" for getting married a second time & helps you steer clear of those. I really liked the quoted stories from real people.
March 17, 2025
Dear authors,
If you’re reading this, thank you a million times for writing this book. It has given me so much clarity and probably saved me from making mistakes I might have regretted. Some insights were real eye-openers, while others reinforced things I already sensed but couldn’t quite put into words. I only wish I had read this book before getting married :)
This isn’t just a one-time read for me. I’ll be coming back to my highlights now and then—to remind myself why dating or remarrying might (or might not) be a good idea.
I really appreciate the wisdom you’ve shared.
If you’re reading this, thank you a million times for writing this book. It has given me so much clarity and probably saved me from making mistakes I might have regretted. Some insights were real eye-openers, while others reinforced things I already sensed but couldn’t quite put into words. I only wish I had read this book before getting married :)
This isn’t just a one-time read for me. I’ll be coming back to my highlights now and then—to remind myself why dating or remarrying might (or might not) be a good idea.
I really appreciate the wisdom you’ve shared.
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