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Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome
“Last month a man came home from work with my husbands face but he did not act at all like the man I married,” says Marie, a 48 year-old wife and mother of three. “I've known this man for 30 years, married 22 of them and have never met this guy before. Angry, nasty, and cruel are just a few words to describe him. He used to be the most upbeat, happy person I knew. Now he’s gone from Mr. Nice to Mr. Mean. In spite of how he treats me I still love my husband and want to save our marriage. Please, can you help me?”
Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome is the first book to help women, and the men they love, to rescue their relationship, help their partner, and save their sanity.
Mr. Mean explains:
• Why so many mid-life men turn mean.
• What Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) is and why it’s dangerous.
• When a woman should leave and when she should stay.
• How to get through to a man who refuses to talk.
• What to do when he says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
• Why low testosterone can cause a man to change from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde.
• How IMS affects the family and how to help the children.
According to Nancy Cetel, M.D., author of Double Menopause: What To Do When Both You and Your Mate Go Through Hormonal Changes Together, “This is the 'go to guide' every woman must have to save herself, understand and support her mate, and strengthen their marriage. Men will absolutely benefit from this treasure trove of solid information as well."
Mr. Mean answers the questions that are most important to you now:
• What to do if you believe your spouse is cheating?
• How to tell if he’s depressed, but acts angry?
• How to know if he’s going through “male menopause passage?
• What is Irritable Male Syndrome and why is it so dangerous?
• What are the most important symptoms of IMS?
• When should his testosterone levels be tested?
• How do we deal with the effects of IMS on the children?
Here’s what Dr. Diamond’s colleagues are saying:
“Jed Diamond is not inclined to give angry men a pass. He wants them to understand what they can do to deal with their irritability and anger—and he wants their partners to know what they need to do. If there is a Mr. Mean in your life—or a Mr. Mean looking at you in the mirror—this book is for you.”
--Eric Maisel, PhD, author of Brainstorm: Harnessing the Power of Productive Obsessions
“I love this book. I want to order one for every client I have. Finally, a book written for women about men by the world’s leading expert on men’s health. This is a book every woman must buy for herself and for every woman she cares about. It is a book that transcends gender and will be of huge value to men as well.”
-- Jackie Black, Ph.D., author of Couples & Money: Cracking the code to ending the #1 conflict in marriage.
“A must read for women and for men who have the courage to see themselves through the eyes of their partner. Mr. Mean cuts to the core of what is undermining relationships today. It doesn’t just help us understand the problem, but offers specific solutions that can save your marriage and enrich your lives.”
--John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
“This is a wake-up call to everyone who thinks that it’s only women who are mentally transitioning and transforming during mid-life.
Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome is the first book to help women, and the men they love, to rescue their relationship, help their partner, and save their sanity.
Mr. Mean explains:
• Why so many mid-life men turn mean.
• What Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) is and why it’s dangerous.
• When a woman should leave and when she should stay.
• How to get through to a man who refuses to talk.
• What to do when he says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
• Why low testosterone can cause a man to change from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde.
• How IMS affects the family and how to help the children.
According to Nancy Cetel, M.D., author of Double Menopause: What To Do When Both You and Your Mate Go Through Hormonal Changes Together, “This is the 'go to guide' every woman must have to save herself, understand and support her mate, and strengthen their marriage. Men will absolutely benefit from this treasure trove of solid information as well."
Mr. Mean answers the questions that are most important to you now:
• What to do if you believe your spouse is cheating?
• How to tell if he’s depressed, but acts angry?
• How to know if he’s going through “male menopause passage?
• What is Irritable Male Syndrome and why is it so dangerous?
• What are the most important symptoms of IMS?
• When should his testosterone levels be tested?
• How do we deal with the effects of IMS on the children?
Here’s what Dr. Diamond’s colleagues are saying:
“Jed Diamond is not inclined to give angry men a pass. He wants them to understand what they can do to deal with their irritability and anger—and he wants their partners to know what they need to do. If there is a Mr. Mean in your life—or a Mr. Mean looking at you in the mirror—this book is for you.”
--Eric Maisel, PhD, author of Brainstorm: Harnessing the Power of Productive Obsessions
“I love this book. I want to order one for every client I have. Finally, a book written for women about men by the world’s leading expert on men’s health. This is a book every woman must buy for herself and for every woman she cares about. It is a book that transcends gender and will be of huge value to men as well.”
-- Jackie Black, Ph.D., author of Couples & Money: Cracking the code to ending the #1 conflict in marriage.
“A must read for women and for men who have the courage to see themselves through the eyes of their partner. Mr. Mean cuts to the core of what is undermining relationships today. It doesn’t just help us understand the problem, but offers specific solutions that can save your marriage and enrich your lives.”
--John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
“This is a wake-up call to everyone who thinks that it’s only women who are mentally transitioning and transforming during mid-life.
238 pages, Kindle Edition
First published April 15, 2010
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About the author
Jed Diamond
39 books14 followersJed is Director of the MenAlive, a health program that helps men live long and well. Since its inception, Jed has been on the Board of Advisors of the Men’s Health Network. He is also a member of the International Society for the Study of the Aging Male and serves as a member of the International Scientific Board of the World Congress on Men’s Health.
Diamond has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 40 years and is the author of seven books including the international best-selling Male Menopause ... His PhD study on gender and depression developed vital new information for treating depression in men.
He lives with his wife, Carlin, on Shimmins Ridge, above Bloody Run Creek, in Northern California. They are proud parents of five grown children and eleven grandchildren.
Diamond has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 40 years and is the author of seven books including the international best-selling Male Menopause ... His PhD study on gender and depression developed vital new information for treating depression in men.
He lives with his wife, Carlin, on Shimmins Ridge, above Bloody Run Creek, in Northern California. They are proud parents of five grown children and eleven grandchildren.
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June 30, 2017
According to new research, humans seem to find greatest happiness early in adulthood and then again late in life, beyond 60. Between those bookends looms a mid-life slump when we feel least happy with our situation.
For American men, that deep trough arrives around age 56, a chronological anniversary that so many men are now experiencing. The low point for American women arrives nearly a decade earlier, possibly in tandem with menopause and empty nesting.
Roughly ten million American men are now between 55 and 59, so, according to this research, millions are struggling with depression and futility that robs us of our sense of life satisfaction, our happiness. It's not too much of a leap to conclude that many of these men are grappling with a potential wasteland of an aging life, a sunset not fully validated with continuing engagement, enrichment and purpose.
Unprecedented aging of the male population, coupled with contemporary economic and social challenges, has created a crisis that many women must understand, confront and manage. Individual men may feel powerless against external forces of unemployment, layoffs, downsizing, chronic disease and disempowerment.
Boomer men are searching for answers to complex challenges connected with male aging; some of these challenges foment anger and depression. Some men lash out; some men direct their anger and frustration at the women they love most.
Mr. Mean has substantial value for Boomer women who are trying to address significant and unpredictable changes in the men they love. This well-crafted, insightful book provides Boomer women and men with knowledge, encouragement and practical coping strategies.
Jed Diamond's sensitivity to this life-stage passage is profound and uplifting. His book is a gift for frustrated women, and especially for the men they love who need insights and skills to move forward into what can become the most productive and happiest stage of life.
For American men, that deep trough arrives around age 56, a chronological anniversary that so many men are now experiencing. The low point for American women arrives nearly a decade earlier, possibly in tandem with menopause and empty nesting.
Roughly ten million American men are now between 55 and 59, so, according to this research, millions are struggling with depression and futility that robs us of our sense of life satisfaction, our happiness. It's not too much of a leap to conclude that many of these men are grappling with a potential wasteland of an aging life, a sunset not fully validated with continuing engagement, enrichment and purpose.
Unprecedented aging of the male population, coupled with contemporary economic and social challenges, has created a crisis that many women must understand, confront and manage. Individual men may feel powerless against external forces of unemployment, layoffs, downsizing, chronic disease and disempowerment.
Boomer men are searching for answers to complex challenges connected with male aging; some of these challenges foment anger and depression. Some men lash out; some men direct their anger and frustration at the women they love most.
Mr. Mean has substantial value for Boomer women who are trying to address significant and unpredictable changes in the men they love. This well-crafted, insightful book provides Boomer women and men with knowledge, encouragement and practical coping strategies.
Jed Diamond's sensitivity to this life-stage passage is profound and uplifting. His book is a gift for frustrated women, and especially for the men they love who need insights and skills to move forward into what can become the most productive and happiest stage of life.
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