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很多人对幸福的定义，是把社会看成一座金字塔，必须登上塔尖，成为财富、名望、权力的大赢家。但阿德勒不这么看，他认为幸福是精神上的平衡和安宁。阿德勒提出获得幸福的条件是：接受自己、信赖他人，并且成为一个“有用”的人。认识到自己有瑕疵，承认自己的不完美，然后努力改变能够改变的，放下不能改变的，活出自己的特色，做自己喜欢的人，这才是幸福的样子。 在这本书中，日本阿德勒研究学者岸见一郎，以平实浅近的叙述，穿插生活实例及哲学故事，介绍阿德勒心理学的精要论点，并提出明确有力的行动指标，让读者能真正掌握阿德勒心理学的真义，进而卸除生命的负担，找到不受过去和他人支配的幸福之道。
- GenresPsychology
147 pages, Hardcover
First published September 15, 1999
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Ichiro Kishimi
81 books1,020 followersIchiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.
M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University.
He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.
M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University.
He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.
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December 10, 2025Highlights ✨
• A person becomes an individual only within a social—interpersonal—context.
• Feelings of love emerge where good communication exists.
• When people cannot accept being “ordinary,” they try to make themselves “special.”
• Sharing joy and expressing your feelings can be an act of encouragement.
Try saying things like “thank you,” “I’m happy,” or “that really helped me,” even for small acts we tend to overlook as normal.
My own reflections after digesting the theory:
I often find myself seeing the world through a hierarchical lens, and sometimes that leads to subtle power struggles even with my partner or family.
People who genuinely aim to treat others as equals do not speak in ways that belittle anyone.
The power of saying thank you.
The importance of actually voicing “I’m happy.”
By respecting the other person, I want to express things like:
• “Seeing how hard you work makes me happy—it motivates me to try harder too. Thank you 😊”
From an educational standpoint, this is something I’d like to come back to and read again in the future ✨
And about future
I decide my own future.
Who I am now is acting toward the person I want to become.
→ I feel tired because my body is telling me it needs rest.
→ I’m in a position to leave my current job because I want to work in a new world.
ハイライト✨
・個人はただ社会的な（対人関係的な）文脈においてだけ個人となる
・いいコミュニケーションがあるところに愛の感情は生まれる
・普通であることを受け入れることができないと人は特別であろうとする
・喜びを共有すること、自分の気持ちを伝えることは勇気づけになります。当たり前だと思って見逃しがちな行為に対して「ありがとう」とか、「うれしい」とか「助かった」といってみる
理論を自分なりに考えて咀嚼したことは以下
どうしても自分を縦社会の一部として見てしまい、パートナーや家族ともマウントの取り合いになってしまう時がある。対等に付き合うことを心がけている人は人を見下す言い分をしない。
ありがとうの言葉の大きさ。嬉しいと口に出してみる。相手をリスペクトし、下記を言ってみる
・あなたが頑張っているところをみて嬉しい、わたしもがんばろうとおもう。ありがとう😊
教育面では、もう一度将来戻って読んでみたい✨
そして、自分の将来は自分で決める。今の自分はこうなりたいという目的の上で行動している→休養をとりたいから体が疲れていると感じる。もっと新しい世界で仕事をしたいから辞める状況にある
• A person becomes an individual only within a social—interpersonal—context.
• Feelings of love emerge where good communication exists.
• When people cannot accept being “ordinary,” they try to make themselves “special.”
• Sharing joy and expressing your feelings can be an act of encouragement.
Try saying things like “thank you,” “I’m happy,” or “that really helped me,” even for small acts we tend to overlook as normal.
My own reflections after digesting the theory:
I often find myself seeing the world through a hierarchical lens, and sometimes that leads to subtle power struggles even with my partner or family.
People who genuinely aim to treat others as equals do not speak in ways that belittle anyone.
The power of saying thank you.
The importance of actually voicing “I’m happy.”
By respecting the other person, I want to express things like:
• “Seeing how hard you work makes me happy—it motivates me to try harder too. Thank you 😊”
From an educational standpoint, this is something I’d like to come back to and read again in the future ✨
And about future
I decide my own future.
Who I am now is acting toward the person I want to become.
→ I feel tired because my body is telling me it needs rest.
→ I’m in a position to leave my current job because I want to work in a new world.
ハイライト✨
・個人はただ社会的な（対人関係的な）文脈においてだけ個人となる
・いいコミュニケーションがあるところに愛の感情は生まれる
・普通であることを受け入れることができないと人は特別であろうとする
・喜びを共有すること、自分の気持ちを伝えることは勇気づけになります。当たり前だと思って見逃しがちな行為に対して「ありがとう」とか、「うれしい」とか「助かった」といってみる
理論を自分なりに考えて咀嚼したことは以下
どうしても自分を縦社会の一部として見てしまい、パートナーや家族ともマウントの取り合いになってしまう時がある。対等に付き合うことを心がけている人は人を見下す言い分をしない。
ありがとうの言葉の大きさ。嬉しいと口に出してみる。相手をリスペクトし、下記を言ってみる
・あなたが頑張っているところをみて嬉しい、わたしもがんばろうとおもう。ありがとう😊
教育面では、もう一度将来戻って読んでみたい✨
そして、自分の将来は自分で決める。今の自分はこうなりたいという目的の上で行動している→休養をとりたいから体が疲れていると感じる。もっと新しい世界で仕事をしたいから辞める状況にある
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