Red-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle

by Bill Farrel, Pam Farrel

With their trademark insight, humor, and candid personal perspectives, Bill and Pam Farrel reveal the truths about the sexual relationship in marriage and what husbands and wives need to know to keep the embers burning. The Farrels present difficult-to-discuss topics and biblical truths in universal language with sensitivity, fun, and understanding. For newlyweds, golden anniversary celebrants, and all couples in between—this book inspires the gift of romance and passion to fuel lives with love.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Nonfiction, Sexuality, Relationships, Self Help, Romance

224 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2006

Reviews

[Jenny · Rating 4 out of 5]

I got some really good date/romance ideas from this book. It contains 200 Romance Ideas. What I liked best was how they emphasized that we as a couple must spend time together and connect intimately on several levels: social, financial, recreational, vocational, parental, emotional, spiritual and sexual. They recommend T.I.M.E.--

T-take ten-twenty minutes to talk together alone each day.
I-invest in a weekly date night together for at least 4 hours.
M-make a monthly "day away" policy where once a month you spend 8-12 uninterrupted hours together to reconnect.
E-escape quarterly for a 48-hour weekend.

[Pauline · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great ideas to keep connected, emotionally, physically, spiritually...if you're married for 5 years or 50...we always need to prioritize & keep stoking the importance of intimacy & connection! As a MFT :), I realize just how far couples can grow apart if they are not continually moving towards each other especially in our fast paced world. It's also great to get ideas for simple & meaningful dates that you wouldn't have thought of yourself. GREAT BOOK!

[Leigh Ann · Rating 3 out of 5]

I bought this book at a conference after hearing the Farrel's speak at that conference. They were GREAT! They have some great ideas and are funny. Most of what I heard was in the book but not as much humor. They also give 'homework' at the end of every chapter and 200 'red hot romance ideas' throughout the book. Very practical!

[Kim · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great for date-night ideas and reminding each other how important frequent sex is in a marriage...quite graphic and interesting! I have to say I like Kevin Lehman's Sheet Music better, but this was very good, too. I would definitely recommend it to those needing really cool date night ideas.

[Tami Boesiger · Rating 4 out of 5]

I like how the Farrels celebrate their sexual union and encourage couples to continually work on this area in their marriages. They give variety of activities to spark interest. I have asked my husband to read this book too and hope it will give us some concrete ideas to enhance our relationship.

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

The authors of this book are a local couple who we have heard speak several times. They are such cool people.

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I like the really practical ideas this book has for keeping your marriage vibrant, especially after children!

[Jill · Rating 3 out of 5]

It fufilled my need to know God thoughts on sex in the marriage. I enjoyed reading the scriptures, the connecting ideas and personal stories. All very fun and helpful..

[Becki · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for marriage, easy read.

[Kristi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Informative, thought provoking, and practical.

[Justin Nichols · Rating 5 out of 5]

WONDERFUL book! Beautiful insights. Touches on many important topics of sex and intimacy that the Church often overlooks or ignores. Good stuff!

[Jeffrey McDowell · Rating 3 out of 5]

While this wouldn't be the first book I would recommend to married couples, it did provide for some good conversations. A few nuggets of gold were scattered throughout the pages. In many ways, it was kind of far out there, though.

[Kari · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book invites you to take eight weeks to fan the flame, so I guess my final review of the book should come in about two months. Until then...

It's not easy to write a book about monogamy that comes off as light, fun and inspiring, but this one does. Sure it has a healthy dose of cheesy and corny, but at its core has some great reminders and refreshers. So don't roll your eyes at the 25 romantic ideas at the end of each chapter - you just might find one worth trying.

[Christina M. Reitz · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good advice, sexy by the end

The first few chapters are a bit tough to get through. Who wants to read about financial planning? But by chapter five the sparks are flying with some steamy bedroom advice. You may not be able to afford to take the many get aways the Farrells recommend but some of their ideas are budget friendly. My husband and I had a good time reading this book together. And yes, it sparked some red hot monogamy.

[Armicia · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a really good book, with easy steps to follow. Good ideas to spice up your marriage. And a great open-minded Christian view to sex. Although it is written for people that have been married longer, I enjoyed reading it.

[A. Reiter · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's dated (2006), but an honest, frank and practical book to make sure you never get stuck in a rut. Relationships required faceted connection: mental, emotional, spiritual, etc. Worth reading no matter how young/old your marriage.

[Lisa]

Marriage

[Shannon · Rating 2 out of 5]

Just couldn't get into it. Didn't finish.

[Becki]

There are some very practical thoughts in this book. Definitely readable.\n\nEach chapter ends with a list of 'Romance Ideas.' Some are rather odd. But some are definitely worth a try.

[Anthony Mast · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book should be in every married couples library. This is worth reading at least once a year. The book is written about a serious topic, but mixed with humor and funny stories.

[Tomi J · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book to keep the romantic & sexual love alive in your marriage.

[Shannon · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is hard to get my husband to read with me. But he was begging to finish this one. Has great practical ideas to improve great marriages or not so great marriages.

[P.L. Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am happy to confess that I have little concern over the quality of alone time I spend with my husband. But having said that, I realize that there is always room to make improvements. The authors do a wonderful job of guiding readers through a topic that is often not spoken about by Christians. They show us how we can have a red-hot sex life within our marriages and there is no shame in that. At the end of each chapter you find Hands on Homework that gives readers real life application of the concepts covered there. And following that are Red-Hot Romance Idea which are sure to give you new ideas for spicing up your own marriage. This is a great book for married couples at any stage in their lives. And I believe it would be a great book to gift to newlyweds. I wish I had this book far sooner in my life! But I have it now, and my husband and I have been discussing which ones of the Red-Hot Romance Ideas we want to try next.

[Wozzerella · Rating 1 out of 5]

DNF. Basically burst into tears when the advice near the beginning of the book was just to spice up your marriage by remembering when you were newlyweds having hot sex all the time. For a book that is aimed specifically at couples who are struggling to have a pleasurable sex life, this is an extraordinarily tone deaf approach. The authors seem to have never actually struggled to have a good sex life and have no understanding for people who have struggled with sexual pain, dysfunction, or hormone issues. As a woman who has had all 3 problems, this book was impossible to read and offered absolutely no real assistance. For a book that might actually be helpful, read "The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex" by Sheila Wray Gregoire or Enjoy! by Clifford and Joyce Penner.

[Wintermote · Rating 4 out of 5]

If I was at a different place in my marriage, then I likely would’ve given this 5 stars. I think this is exactly what my husband needs as a basic understanding of sex as good and godly. I read a library copy and am considering purchasing my own copy just for the lists of ideas.

[Alana Moyer · Rating 2 out of 5]

I might like it better a second time around. We were really struggling to have sex at this time. Looking back over the places I marked I see that vaginismus is referenced but I didn't know what that was at the time.

[Laura]

A pretty great book on the subject, with lots of great ideas and advice... but also some rather cheesy ideas. Good read, but I've read better. Nevertheless, it does spark some new ideas and adventures.

[Jeff Enderle · Rating 3 out of 5]

Practical advice for marriage. Gives good hints at working on the spiritual and emotional elements of the marriage relationship before addressing the intimate relationship.

[Sondra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of good ideas of things to do with your spouse

[Krystel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so important for couples. I wish I read it years ago. It’s never too late!