It's Not You, It's Him: The Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating

by Georgia Witkin

You're smart and cute and fun to be around. So naturally you wonder why you’re still single. Well, here's a news It’s Not You, It’s Him!This book will make dating fun again—and help you find the love you always dreamed of“Why is this book for single women? Because we think about relationships, and talk about relationships, much more than single men do. And when things go wrong, we’re also much more likely to blame ourselves! We ask ourselves, “What’s wrong with me?” “What did I do?” “What should I have done differently?” Well, maybe, just maybe you are not the problem. Maybe, just maybe, you’d still be single even if you were perfect. Maybe the men you’re meeting have the problems. Maybe it’s not you, it’s him!Actually, there’s no maybe about it. Your aunt in Florida, your married brother, and your gym friends are wrong—you are not single because you’re too picky, too pushy, or a princess. Besides, even if you were, picky, pushy princesses get married every day. And so will you. So let’s get real and get you the life you want.” --Dr. Georgia Witkin, from…It’s Not You, It’s Him In her upbeat new “rules” for finding lasting love, Dr. Georgia Witkin shows that the secret to dating without all the pain is to assume that you are perfectly lovable exactly as you are. When a good date goes bad, the problem is never you. It’s him!Suddenly dating is so simple. You will never again ask “why didn’t he call?” It doesn’t matter. You will never ask, “How should I change?” You don’t have to. Instead you will do what you want, go where you want, wear what you want, and it will only make you more perfect. You will take everything dates say and do as information about them—not you. You will have zero tolerance when you’re getting zero. You will feel happy, in control, and actually enjoy dating again. And before too long, the new you will fall wildly in love with a man who is just perfect enough to find you irresistible.

Genres: Nonfiction

192 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2006

About the author

Georgia Witkin previously published under the name Georgia Witkin-Lanoil.

Reviews

[Ameetha Widdershins · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book takes the place of a sensible friend helping an anxious dater. The book would be most helpful to the daters who wonder, "Is it me?" and to those who are a little beaten down and insecure as a result of past dating relationships. While there were a few especially useful insights and tips, there is nothing groundbreaking (which was rather a relief). It doesn't have the wishy-washy, feel-good approach that instantly turns me off. It's also an extremely quick read which makes it the perfect read for a reminder or a boost when needed.
Update: Some advice is a bit dated. Telling sexist jokes is included under quirks.

[Zoe123 · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this book. Great no nonsense approach. Reminds women there is nothing wrong with us if we are not married. As the author states, "picky, pushy princesses get married everyday so why not you?". I am a picky, pushy princess so I appreciate this piece of advice. I did notice the author is not married. Hmmm.

[Debbie]

I bought this book in the summer of 2007. Yes, I found myself out of a relationship again!!! This is a good book to help you feel that it's not you.

[Kristin · Rating 5 out of 5]

I will read this again and again. I should probably buy it.

[Sasha · Rating 3 out of 5]

I do not like recommending dating books unless I have read them myself. This one was an easy read and had some useful advice.

[Linda S · Rating 3 out of 5]

A quick easy read reminding women that it's okay to be single including warnings of men to stay away from :)

[Christina Pool · Rating 3 out of 5]

Recommend this to any woman after a serious break up or divorce.

[melissa · Rating 2 out of 5]

It's not you, it's him. It's not me, it's you. It's not you, it's me...Yadda, yadda. Read it with a bitter bff and a bottle of wine (one for each of you).

[Dina Guardado · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think that this is a really good book.

There is some very useful info in this book.