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The Social Dimension of Sex
Explores the social dimensions of sexuality, topics such as the number of partners in both homosexual and heterosexual relationships, self- esteem and sex, masochism, cross-cultural comparisons, cultural vs. natural construction of sex, sex drive, pornography, novelty, rape, and marriage. Tice and Baumeister (Case Western U.) merge research in social psychology and human sexuality to shed light on sexual behavior shaped by society. For example, in discussing theories of why female sexual interest is suppressed, one of the circulating theories is that women need to withhold sex in order to gain male commitment, especially, financial. And so, the theory goes, it is not surprising that staunch believers in monogamy rail against prostitution and pornography (sex without commitment), since these undermine female power by offering something for "nothing." This book is geared toward the educated but not the academic, even if citing research studies is a constant mode of textual operation. Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
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304 pages, Paperback
First published September 1, 2000
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Roy F. Baumeister
82 books464 followersDr. Roy F. Baumeister is Social Psychology Area Director and Francis Eppes Eminent Scholar at Florida State University in Tallahassee, Florida. He is a social psychologist who is known for his work on the self, social rejection, belongingness, sexuality, self-control, self-esteem, self-defeating behaviors, motivation, and aggression. And enduring theme of his work is "why people do stupid things." He has authored over 300 publications and has written or co-written over 20 books.
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May 21, 2021
مجرد العثور على شخص ما لممارسة الجنس معه يعد إنجازًا مثيرًا للإعجاب بالنسبة للرجل العادي مقارنة بالنساءالعاديات ، بسبب الاختلافات في توفر الشركاء. يمكن للمرأة أن تجد شخصًا لتنام معه من خلال دعوة شخص غريب نسبيًا أو شخصًا قابلته للتو ، لكن هذه الاستراتيجية لا تعمل مع الرجال .
بعبارة أخرى ، بالنسبة للنساء العاديات ، فإن العثور على شخص يرغب في ممارسة الجنس معها لا يعد إنجازًا أكثر من العثور على شخص يرغب في إعطاء التوجيهات لمطعم. (ومن المحزن أن نقول : على الأرجح أن العديد من النساء يفضلن المطعم).
ومع ذلك ، هناك فرق شاسع بالنسبة للرجال ، وقد يُنظر إلى كل شريك جنسي جديد على أنه هدية نادرة وثمينة. يمكن للرجال ، بالطبع ، استخدام البغايا. ومع ذلك ، فإن معظم الرجال لا يعتبرون البغايا خيارًا قابلاً للتطبيق لأسباب مختلفة ، بما في ذلك الخوف من الجريمة والمرض. نشك أيضًا في أن ممارسة الجنس مع عاهرة لن يعزز احترام الرجل لذاته ، وذلك ببساطة لأنه من السهل نسبيًا القيام بذلك (على افتراض أن لديك المال) وبالتالي ليس إنجازًا. ربما لا تشكل ممارسة الجنس مع عاهرة انتصاراً حقيقياً . بسبب هذا الاختلاف ، فإن ممارسة الجنس ليس شيئاً يمكن للمرأة أن تفتخر به ، في حين أنها كذلك للرجل . إذا نجح الرجل في ممارسة الجنس مع شريك جديد ، فقد يشعر بارتفاع تقديره لذاته ، لأنه قد تغلب على الاحتمالات.
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Roy F. Baumeister
The Social Dimension of Sex
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
بعبارة أخرى ، بالنسبة للنساء العاديات ، فإن العثور على شخص يرغب في ممارسة الجنس معها لا يعد إنجازًا أكثر من العثور على شخص يرغب في إعطاء التوجيهات لمطعم. (ومن المحزن أن نقول : على الأرجح أن العديد من النساء يفضلن المطعم).
ومع ذلك ، هناك فرق شاسع بالنسبة للرجال ، وقد يُنظر إلى كل شريك جنسي جديد على أنه هدية نادرة وثمينة. يمكن للرجال ، بالطبع ، استخدام البغايا. ومع ذلك ، فإن معظم الرجال لا يعتبرون البغايا خيارًا قابلاً للتطبيق لأسباب مختلفة ، بما في ذلك الخوف من الجريمة والمرض. نشك أيضًا في أن ممارسة الجنس مع عاهرة لن يعزز احترام الرجل لذاته ، وذلك ببساطة لأنه من السهل نسبيًا القيام بذلك (على افتراض أن لديك المال) وبالتالي ليس إنجازًا. ربما لا تشكل ممارسة الجنس مع عاهرة انتصاراً حقيقياً . بسبب هذا الاختلاف ، فإن ممارسة الجنس ليس شيئاً يمكن للمرأة أن تفتخر به ، في حين أنها كذلك للرجل . إذا نجح الرجل في ممارسة الجنس مع شريك جديد ، فقد يشعر بارتفاع تقديره لذاته ، لأنه قد تغلب على الاحتمالات.
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Roy F. Baumeister
The Social Dimension of Sex
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
September 28, 2008
Finally, finally after years of never quite finishing, I did it!
This was a textbook for my Human Sexuality class in college, but we only read selected chapters. But it always presented such unique and thought-provoking ideas that I always planned to read it straight through. I'd tried several times, but it is of an awkward size and not the easiest of books to carry around. Also, I have gotten MUCH better about reading non-fiction and academic works in recent years and am very proud of that. :-)
I think my favorite part about this book is that it plays with ideas, it throws theories out there that are a little wacky, and provides some research that begins to back it up. The point isn't proving anything, but merely starting a discussion. Certainly some ideas come out more strongly than others, but mostly it is just trying to start a dialogue about the social psychology of sex and the possibilities of more research.
The writing style is much more interesting than many psych texts, with lots of author's anecdotes and snarky asides. Much of the research cited is at least vaguely familiar to me, but I was a psych major and read a fair amount of books on women's psychology and sexuality. Studies are not recapped in detail, but are discussed in terms of their intriguing findings. It's nice to be reminded that sometimes studies discover totally unexpected things - that's the joy of research!
The chapters about the plasticity of the female sex drive and the tragedy of the male sex drive dragged on a bit, but that may be because they are the 2 that I remember reading for class. I found the chapter on novelty in sex REALLY interesting (and relevant!), and also thought the chapter on sex and violence quite thought-provoking.
Frankly, the whole book is interesting and presents lots of unusual explanations for things we take somewhat for granted. Some of it read almost like a self-help book to me, because it encourages you to question your situation and rethink some of your assumptions. I'd recommend it to everyone, but I know not everyone is enough of a psych nerd to care, and most people don't read academic texts for pleasure. Oh well.
This was a textbook for my Human Sexuality class in college, but we only read selected chapters. But it always presented such unique and thought-provoking ideas that I always planned to read it straight through. I'd tried several times, but it is of an awkward size and not the easiest of books to carry around. Also, I have gotten MUCH better about reading non-fiction and academic works in recent years and am very proud of that. :-)
I think my favorite part about this book is that it plays with ideas, it throws theories out there that are a little wacky, and provides some research that begins to back it up. The point isn't proving anything, but merely starting a discussion. Certainly some ideas come out more strongly than others, but mostly it is just trying to start a dialogue about the social psychology of sex and the possibilities of more research.
The writing style is much more interesting than many psych texts, with lots of author's anecdotes and snarky asides. Much of the research cited is at least vaguely familiar to me, but I was a psych major and read a fair amount of books on women's psychology and sexuality. Studies are not recapped in detail, but are discussed in terms of their intriguing findings. It's nice to be reminded that sometimes studies discover totally unexpected things - that's the joy of research!
The chapters about the plasticity of the female sex drive and the tragedy of the male sex drive dragged on a bit, but that may be because they are the 2 that I remember reading for class. I found the chapter on novelty in sex REALLY interesting (and relevant!), and also thought the chapter on sex and violence quite thought-provoking.
Frankly, the whole book is interesting and presents lots of unusual explanations for things we take somewhat for granted. Some of it read almost like a self-help book to me, because it encourages you to question your situation and rethink some of your assumptions. I'd recommend it to everyone, but I know not everyone is enough of a psych nerd to care, and most people don't read academic texts for pleasure. Oh well.
May 4, 2016
Very insightful but yet again it had a lot of things I already knew from previous books. This books really opens your mind about sexuality if you are a person who are either a traditionalist believer or do not have as much knowledge as you wish on the topic. I do warm you that at times it does get a bit boring when discussing theoretical work but then it has also a lot of case studies which help to balnce out.
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