Dawn meets a boy who she thinks is perfect for her. Unfortunately, he is three years older, and not very interested in her as a so called individual. I read this book when I was nine or ten, and I loved it. It was full of the dating intrigue I was sure I would have when I turned thirteen.
Things I remember from reading this as a kid:
Dawn going out with Travis after school, and the way he ordered for her. This raised my hackles even as a little girl, especially since I understood Dawn's anxiety about needing to order vegetarian food. I also remember Dawn following Travis and his red-head date around like an idiot. I thought this was so stupid, but I enjoyed reading it for car-wreck reasons.
Mary Anne ratting Dawn out to her parents (because supposedly she can't lie) and then hanging around the kitchen while Dawn gets yelled at for going out with Travis. And then crying about it when Dawn confronts her. I hated Mary Anne in this book.
Things I've considered since reading this as an adult:
This is a surprisingly adult book, written in a way that makes grown-up dating issues accessible to young teens. In the first place Travis is perfectly written: self-confident, athletic, charming, and charismatic, which he uses to get out of unpleasant situations. I have dated so many guys, exactly like him. I actually get along with guys like him because I'm quiet, so I don't mind them talking non-stop, and I'm opinionated enough to call them out when they act like jerks. But it was a little hard to witness thirteen year old, whiny, insecure Dawn get bulldozed by Travis's confidence and brashness. She doesn't know enough to look him in the eye and say, "I don't want to cut my hair," or "I prefer to order for myself." And the fact that Travis just shows up wherever she is, and always has presents, or plans for her strikes me as stalker-ish behavior. He takes her out for food and shopping, and Dawn thinks they had a great time, and that Travis really likes her, only to find out that he takes another girl out on the same outing, and that he seems really into this pretty, well-dressed girl. This is very Sex and the City for the middle school set. (In this book the characters refer to this as "leading me on", in the real world this is called "the cycle of dating.") Unfortunately, Dawn probably has years of "Why didn't he call? I thought we had a good time" obsession ahead of her. The adult in me is a little sad knowing this.
Dawn decides to confront Travis about his behavior, first by following him and his new girlfriend around while they shop, which doesn't come off so well. Then she decides to call him on the phone, and tell him off. The twenty-one year old in me who let way too many guys get away with never calling me again applauds Dawn for standing up for herself, but the twenty-one year old in me who let guys get away with their shit knows that they truly do not understand or care why they hurt your feelings, and all the confrontation in the world will not change that. During Dawn's phone call Travis is completely taken aback by Dawn's anger and hurt. He can't understand why she's upset, because in his mind he just made some vague suggestions for her, and he can't believe she took it all so seriously. If Dawn were older and wiser she would have (hopefully) taken Travis's suggestions more casually, and she would have spoken up and told him that she didn't like this style, or she wanted to make sure she got vegetarian food, and that whole aspect of their relationship wouldn't have been such a big deal. If you imagine Travis and Dawn ten years older, and the issue on the table is not trying to make someone over to be a different person, but sex instead, then you have a similar confrontation, with Dawn upset because she slept with Travis, and then he took another girl out, and kissed her (and presumably more), and now he's not interested in her. And Travis would behave in a similar manner, acting completely bewildered about Dawn making such a big deal about it. It was just sex, they weren't in an exclusive relationship, so what's the big deal? Why is she so angry? Why doesn't Dawn want to see him again? After all, he didn't mean to hurt her feelings. Reading this book as an adult actually made me feel more kindly toward the long-ago exes of my past.
Mary Anne is even more obnoxious than I remember her being in this book. She decides that Logan's cousin would be perfect for Dawn, so she goes about setting them up via snail mail (or the only kind of mail that was really available in the early 90s). Dawn is not so enthused about Lewis after her disaster with Travis, so she wants to take it kind of slow. However, Mary Anne pressures Dawn to agree to go on a date with him, even though she hasn't met him, and she has barely read his first letter. As the recipient of many fix-ups by my friends before I got married, I completely sympathized with Dawn. Why do friends come out of the woodwork with "the greatest guy" right after you break up with someone, and then act so annoying when you are reluctant to jump into something else right away?