Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again--with Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation

by David J. Lieberman

In his runaway bestseller NEVER BE LIED TO AGAIN, Dr David Lieberman broke new ground with his insights on the way people communicate. Now he revolutionises interpersonal relationships with GET ANYONE TO DO ANYTHING, another phenomenal New York Times bestseller. Lieberman is a master at exploring the human psyche. With this

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Business, Audiobook, Leadership, Social

208 pages, Paperback

Published January 1, 2000

About the author

David J. Lieberman, PhD, is a renowned psychotherapist and the author of eleven books, including the New York Times bestsellers Get Anyone to Do Anything and Never Be Lied to Again. He has trained personnel in the U.S. military, the FBI, the CIA, and the NSA, and his instructional video is mandatory for psychological operations graduates.

He teaches government negotiators, mental health professionals, and Fortune 100 executives, and has appeared as a guest on more than 300 television and radio programs, including the Today show, NPR, and The View.

Reviews

[Jen · Rating 5 out of 5]

You're a smart person, I think we can both agree. It's good to learn techniques that make your life easier, isn't it? You want to read this book, right?

[Eugenie Octopus · Rating 3 out of 5]

NOTES

[Law of Association] The circumstances/moods we are in color our perceptions of the people that are there at the time.

[Repeat Exposure] People like things that they are exposed to more

[Reciprocal Affection] We like people more when they like us.

Shared Experiences.

We like people who make us feel good.

We dislike people more after doing them harm.

Seeing someone you like doing something stupid or clumsy will make you like him more.

Adrenaline generates and intensifies passionate feelings.

People are most comfortable around others who are the same level of attractive.

How to get someone’s real opinion:
Q: Do you like my new clock?
A: Sure, it looks fine.
Q: How could I make it even better?

Q: Do you like the concept for my new idea?
A: Sure. It’s very original.
Q: Well, what would it take for you to love the idea?

The Six-Star Test to see if She’s a True Friend
INTEREST
One important criterion that defines a friend is how interested the person is in your life. Tell her about something significant that is going on in your life and see if she calls to follow up and find out what happened. If she doesn’t, then call her and see if she mentions it. Finally, if she doesn’t bring it up, hint about it and see if she even remembers the conversation you had about it previously.

LOYALTY
Tell a secret about a mutual friend and see if it gets back to him or her. True friends know the value of trust in a relationship. Just make sure you get the permission of your friend to tell her secret to this other person.

PRIDE
Anyone can tell you to cheer up. It makes them feel good. But see who pats you on the back for a good job. Those who are not driven by jealousy and envy will do just that. Your true friends are proud of your accomplishments, not jealous of your successes.

HONESTY
A true friend is someone who tells you the things that you don’t want to hear. She is willing to have you upset with her if it will help you.

RESPECT

SACRIFICE
Is she willing to give up something if it means making you happy? Will she sacrifice her own pleasure for your happiness?

[Cecilia Burk Carter · Rating 3 out of 5]

Picked up this book while looking for a distraction. Been smiling the whole way through so far. Surprise!...It's not about manipulation. The phychological principles are natural things we do as humans and most of the time we don't even know it! The findings are based on research and every one of them rings true as I picture my own life experiences. It's all stuff most of us eventually learn, but I wish I'd had this book in high school and college. I'd have been less confused.

Still chuckling my way through this book, like at the chapter entitled "How to Get a Stubborn Person to Change His(Her) Mind about Anything." HaHaha! My husband could use that one on me. What a hoot!

[K. · Rating 1 out of 5]

If you're looking for a book on Influence and Persuasion - I'd recommend reading Robert Cialdini instead. If you're looking for a book on simple manipulative tricks... maybe this is the book for you.

[Miguel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Este es un libro excelente que todos deben conseguir. Básicamente es una guía de comportamientos y como aprovecharse de ellos. Es realmente bueno. Detectar mentiras, manipulaciones, mostrar empatía, confianza, etc. ¡Búsquenlo!

[Amina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome tips are given in this miraculous books. Most people already know half the things written in this book but the way David writes these in relation our day to day lives is amazing and very helpful... I would recommend it to everyone.

[Amir Tesla · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple rules to achieve effective social life

[Cornelius · Rating 1 out of 5]

I remember picking up this book and wondering at all the possibilities. I figured most people were too stupid to pick it up, and gladly picked it out of the library.

As I read through it, I noticed the book was poorly written for the most part (subjects aren't really fleshed out, and everything is followed by "all the time!") It was easy to overlook this, as I imagined soon my attractive neighbor would be all over me and my boss would be doing my bidding.

When attempted in real life, it did not work (my boss thought I was weird, and my neighbor continued to ignore me.)

I give this book a very angry one star. It is much worse when you are promised a hot neighbor, than to have never been promised at all.

[DC · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is reminiscent of Greene's The 48 Laws of Power, but while that book holds more principles, THIS book give you concrete tools on how to accomplish those principles.

It's a great hodgepodge of things you can do to get anyone to do anything, but I suppose it can sound ruthless to the meek. I personally thought it was great, and I liked the note at the end wherein the author noted how this book wasn't meant to fix deep-seated emotional problems, but can help in small everyday steps.

[Carl · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practicaly psychology applied to everyday interactions. It's definitely worth reading. More than manipulation, it tells you how to control yourself, motivate others, and deliver the message that you want during an encounter.

B/B = BUY

[Eric · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Get anyone to do anything" had a couple nuggets in it, but for the most part the author and title is promising more than the book can give.

[Marcie Lovett · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book came highly recommended; however, I couldn't finish reading it because the techniques he described seemed manipulative. What was I thinking with a title like that?

Allegedly, he provides "psychological secrets to gain control of any situation." The "secrets" either were commonplace behaviors or downright deceptive.

I read the paperback book, but it wasn't one of the choices from goodreads. I wouldn't recommend it.

[Card · Rating 3 out of 5]

The book have separated into section for each situation which easy to pick to use. You can read whatever you want not necessary to read from first to last. Many times, book link some chapters to implement together. However, sometimes I found it quite exaggerate for the name of this book. It not that magic, It quite depend on situation. The method is very good but with a limit of power. You can't really get "Anyone" to do "Anything" as you please. But It helps a lot.

[Hendra · Rating 3 out of 5]

buku yang berisi teknik-teknik psikologi persuasif yang bisa dipakai dalam kegiatan sehari-hari dengan penyajian yang sederhana...
lumayan menyegarkan, memberikan ide, sayangnya seperti kebanyakan buku psikologi populer lainnya, teknik-teknik yang disajikan sebenarnya telah diulang-ulang di buku-buku lainnya

[Anton Klink · Rating 2 out of 5]

Having read it quite a number of years ago, I remember thinking it was OK but not much else. Neither can I seem to be able to remember too many specifics about it. Obviously it wasn't awful, otherwise I would have remembered that, but neither was it good enough to burn a vivid image into my mind, so two stars is the most I can give it in hindsight.

[Ivo Stoykov · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good reading. If you are interested in self developing and are curious why things happens read this book. It is not long so it even does not requires much time.

I've read it twice. After the first reading I've became aware of commented situations and now I can easily note when they occur. The second reading helped me to note also my reaction in these situations and to correct some of them.

[Gebo · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a pretty good book about persuasion as it offers tactics and strategies to persuade people rather than just the larger theory of the matter. While for many people who've read a lot of these books this one only has a little to offer, that little is worth the effort as it's a short book and the tactics are good.

[Fatih Kuru · Rating 4 out of 5]

İçeriği doğrularla dolu, uygulanabilir yöntemlerin yer aldığı kişisel gelişim kitaplarından biri olarak anılabilir. Öğütler kitap içerisinde özet ifadelerle yer alıyor.
Kitabı okuduğum sırada anlatılanların, örnek olay, yaşanmış öykü veya kurmacalarla desteklenirse akılda daha kalıcı olabileceğini düşündüm.

[Alice Verberne · Rating 4 out of 5]

David Lieberman seems too young to have written such an insightful book on human behavior. It is a great quick-reference to keep at the office when folks see a bit out of control and you need a little help in understanding how they tick.

[Christine]

It is really an interesting book on how to handle a specific situation and how to influence people. This book will help you to become a better person with self-esteem and you will never feel powerless again upon reading this book.

[Nate Hewitt · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really liked this, and is a great starter for those interested in influence, psychology and body language. Will definitely put you in the right direction of that field. Useful , everyday tools to use.

[Waseem Abunnadi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good read. It covers what it claims to cover. Patience is key. Every tip in this book needs a fair amount of patience to be properly executed. I would recommend this to anyone planning to use it for good.

[Topolub · Rating 5 out of 5]

I bought copies of this for my whole family at christmas. It is not an evil manipulative book, but a good thoughtful manipulative book.

[Krys · Rating 4 out of 5]

I got this one on audio CD back in 2003. It was really good. I want to find it again.

[-Marisa -]

Generally the point of this book is similar with another Mr. Lieberman book "Agar siapa saja mau melakukan apa saja untuk anda", but still interesting for me.

[Arminius · Rating 4 out of 5]

It offers some good ideas about how to handle difficult situations. I don't think they all will work but it is never-the-less interesting.

[Amir · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple rules to achieve effective social life

[Nattatida · Rating 3 out of 5]

เป็นหนังสือจิตวิทยาเกี่ยวกับการจัดความสัมพันธ์ของคนรอบตัวเรา ในสถานการณ์ต่างๆ อธิบายเหตุการณ์ที่บางครั้งเราอาจไม่รู้ว่าเราถูกเอาเปรียบ หรือถ้าเรารู้ เราจะจัดการกับเหตุการณ์นั้นอย่างไร นอกจากนี้ยังอธิบายถึงวิธี และเหตุผลของความสัมพันธ์ว่าทำไมเราถึงตกหลุมรัก หรือลูกน้องเชื่อถือ ทำตาม
เป็นเล่มที่อ่านเข้าใจง่าย มีสถานการณ์เป็นตัวอย่าง ถึงแม้อาจไม่ครอบคลุม แต่ลองอ่านแล้วลองมาปรับใช้ดูนะคะ เชื่อว่าเราจะจัดการกับความรู้สึก ความสัมพันธ์กับคนขอบข้างได้ดีค่ะ

[G Scott · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of those books that after I read it, I think: "Why didn't I read this,say, 15 years ago." Simple to understand.

[Mary · Rating 1 out of 5]

I let the title 'grab' me. While it was a quick read (45 minutes on audiobook), it is not worth the time. I can't say there is a single new thing I learned from this book. I realize if I had read the reviews with the high stars I would have been even more disappointed that I wasted my time. I think my background helps me see through the ridiculousness of the tips suggested. While the tips are reasonable to have normal discussions with someone, they have zero practicality in real life when you are in an adversarial discussion. No way will these tips get you to have "anyone" do anything just because you use certain verbal techniques in an adversarial situation.
I especially took issue with the suggestions towards the end on how to get out of a sexual assault where the suspect is someone you know. Although, I get the intent....to buy time to escape...I don't know that in the moment of such an incident, a woman who is trying to survive and escape will actually have the time to think about being nice to the suspect and play along to be able to escape. Humans have a flight, freeze, fight response automatically. At no point will any of us know exactly how we will react in a traumatic event, regardless of how much preparation you have. I'm sure there are women who can use this 'technique' successfully, but the author makes it sound so easy and that it will be successful. I have to say, I did appreciate that he did emphasize such technique is for the purpose of escaping. However, he fails to mention considering any consequences of using the technique and then reporting to law enforcement.