Once upon a time, about nine years ago, I read a book called "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton. It required me to take a survey online which asked me several questions about how I process information, relate to people, and so on, and then it gave me my top five "strength talents," things that I'm wired to do naturally. The premise of the book declared that by knowing these strengths, I could then start pursuing a career more meaningful to me, and that I would be better at it than at a job where I only focused on trying to improve my weaknesses.
They called it The Strengths Revolution.
This was all well and good, but sadly, while amazing in its precision and inspiring in its intent, it lacked sufficient practical application, at least for me. I finished the book with a greater sense of self-awareness, but little else.
Thankfully, that's not where the story ends.
My last employer (of over eight years) recently eliminated my department, and my father-in-law, knowing how miserable I was most of the time at my old job, and how distressed I felt over "what do I do now," loaned me "Go Put Your Strengths to Work" with this advice: The best way to know what to do next is to first understand how I've been designed.
"Go Put Your Strengths to Work" is justifiably called the companion book to "Now, Discover Your Strengths" because it contains all the practical and practicable application I wanted so much.
Buckingham's intent with this book is to identify six steps to achieving outstanding performance, and in each step, give the reader the tools they need to apply his tactics in their current situation, in their current role. The first four interested me highly, as I could apply them right now, but the last two didn't hold my attention so much since I don't currently have a manager. However, all are useful and insightful, and I know that later, when I'm working at my next job, I'll come back to this book and utilize it the way Buckingham intended.
There are three main ideas that resonate with me:
1. The myths.
Buckingham claims there are myths about our jobs and our lives that are so ingrained in us we aren't even aware of them, and even when they're brought to our attention, we continue to believe them because we think it BENEFITS us to do so, or because we believe that it would cost us too much to change our perspective. Buckingham reveals these to us, debunks them, presents a truth statement, and then asks questions to try and shake us out of this entrenched thinking.
2. The biology argument.
Science has proven over and over that when a person learns new things, the brain forms new neural pathways. Buckingham presents the argument that since the brain will ALWAYS try and use existing pathways instead of creating brand new ones (path of least resistance), each one of us will learn faster and better something that is related to what we already knows, and something we are already predisposed to know based on our innate talents (aforementioned strengths talents), our skills learned, and our knowledge acquired.
3. The emotions factor.
From the biology argument, Buckingham then proceeds to inform us that the sign of a strength activity is how we FEEL about it - what do we love doing? What makes us feel energized or excited or enthusiastic? What are we doing when we lose track of time, even to the extent of forgetting to eat? Those things are tied to strengths, clusters of neural networks in our brain, and it makes us HAPPY to do them. Our capacity for these things is greater, our contribution stronger, and our efficiency higher.
Likewise, something that we loathe doing, that makes us feel drained or bored or anxious, that seems to drag on and on and on - that is a weakness activity, and for a person to be truly efficient, they should avoid such activities as much as possible.
I discovered just how much this applies to me, in two specific ways, after a conversation I had with a writer friend this morning.
1. Several months ago, she suggested I try a different approach to my stories, since I seemed to have such a hard time with "writer's block." At the time, I was writing random scenes that occurred to me, then filling in blanks later - a connect the dots of sorts. I love to write, and I especially love to write stories, but this frustrated me to no end, made me feel disappointed and drained and inept. I was nearly at a point of giving up on the whole enterprise.
Then my friend suggested I try using an outline instead.
What Sharon didn't know at the time is that I used to be incredibly good at writing research papers in college because I had mastered the use of outlines - planning ahead what I'm going to say, and having side notes in a notebook or cards to keep my thoughts in order.
I realized today just how much I LOVE planning. I do it with everything, from my workout regime to my wardrobe, from my chores to my vacations. Even if I don't follow my plans exactly, I feel secure in the foundation I've laid, so that when deviations happen (because they always do), I can refer back to my baseline and adapt as needed. I feel energized and excited after I've created an amazing plan. Perhaps this is why I handle maps so well - there's the structure of the thing, and so long as I keep where we eventually want to be in sight, I can navigate around roadblocks and detours, and I don't feel anxious about it because of the original plan.
Ergo, using an outline for writing my stories is PERFECT for me. It's a strength, something I like to do, and do well if given the necessary information.
2. During our conversation this morning, Sharon did give me the feedback I wanted, but she did it in exactly the way I suddenly realized is a strength for me - she affirmed what I was doing well, praised me for it, and then gave me a handful of things to "tweak" to make my story even better.
I've had two types of feedback experiences, employment related or not: one is the laundry list of things I need to fix, and the other is the aforementioned "tweaking" method, where I'm told exactly what I'm doing well, and then one or two concrete things I can adjust slightly to make what's already good even better. My last coach was amazing at this method, and Sharon did this without even knowing it feeds my strengths.
How do I know, you ask? Because of how I felt afterwards. I didn't feel despair or a sense of failure, but rather I felt excited that she liked what I had written, and that there were specific things I could do to improve it as I work on my next draft. I had an overwhelming desire to tackle the thing RIGHT THEN, and I was happy doing it.
Since I found this book so useful, I'm positive there are others out there who will as well, and have the same kind of revelations I did, and feel empowered to do something about it.
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