Intimacy Ignited: Conversations Couple to Couple: Fire Up Your Sex Life with the Song of Solomon

by Joseph C. Dillow, Lorraine Pintus, Linda Dillow

Looking for more romance in your marriage? by studying the Song of Solomon, you'll get a timeless look at God's design for love in marriage.

This verse-by-verse Bible study of the Song of Solomon can strengthen your relationship with your husband or wife.

Includes discussion questions.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction, Christian Non Fiction, Religion, Self Help, Relationships, Sexuality

320 pages, Hardcover

First published September 1, 2004

Reviews

[J.A.A. Purves · Rating 1 out of 5]

A painful read.

It’s like reading a Utilitarian who: (a) doesn’t know what poetry is or what poetry is for, (b) who became a Christian and somehow still kept the underlying assumptions of utilitarianism, (c) decided that the literary genre of love poetry could be taught as a series of “how to” therapy self-help lessons, and then (d) uses the same pseudo-criticism methodology on a beautiful form of literature (with all the stereotypical and dumbfoundingly mindless Sunday school “discussion” questions for each chapter) that modern literature teachers have been using for decades now, making almost all their students hate literature in the process.

Skip this. It’s a waste of your time. The only thing it has in its favor is that it is so light with fluff that you can read through it in less than an hour or two.

Just read some Shakespeare instead. Or some Robert and Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Or some John Donne. Or some Christina Rossetti. Or some Shelley, Keats and Byron. Then read some Wordsworth, Coleridge, Yeats, Burns, Blake or Herrick. Then re-read the Song of Solomon again after you’ve acquired at least a minimal sense of what love poetry is for. Then obtain a copy of “Outlines of Romantic Theology” by Charles Williams and you’ll actually have something on the same topic with substance to it.

There are theological assumptions contained in the Song of Solomon (about objective standards of beauty, about how Eros itself points to the divine, about a mystery that no amount of pop psychology could ever explain into practical self-help tips, about the idea of “otherness”) that are diametrically opposed to many of the commonly held assumptions of our modern culture. This book doesn’t even begin to deal with any of them.

It’s embarrassing that books like this sell.

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

A well-written guide for Christian couples who want to celebrate their marriage with physical intimacy.

[Leah · Rating 5 out of 5]

My husband and I read this book together in our 8th year of marriage. Although we had a great marriage before we read Intimacy Ignited, this book was a really good Bible/book study for us to do together. We learned so much about Song of Solomon and I really liked the way the book study was included at the end.

[Amber · Rating 4 out of 5]

I went to a women's conference with Linda Dillow and read her first book "Intimate Issues" VERY good. I am also listening ot a Mark Driscoll sermon on the Song of Songs and he recommended this book as well. I am reading part of it now.

[Joy Herring]

We have been married for 29 years. We have never studied or realized what a deep study and read is the Song of Solomon. We have discovered a treasure for our marriage in this book. Every couple should read this book together and discover the gift God has given them in their mate.

[Linda · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've always been curious about the Song of Solomon because it describes a beautiful relationship between Solomon and Tirzah. Intimacy Ignited is written tastefully and gives advice to both spouses equally. Reading it with your spouse is highly recommended.

[Rena · Rating 1 out of 5]

I did not care for this book at all. It focused to heavily on the physical. And they tell a story of a woman that is violated and how they offer an odd way to recover from it and again be intimate with her husband. It would not work for me.

[Lisa Ziarnik · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book! My husband and I both read it.

[Donita · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really like the idea of a servant lover. This book made me aware of selfishness in all areas of my life and has empowered me to make changes.

[Nicole · Rating 1 out of 5]

I wish I could give this zero stars. Accidentally downloaded and thought I would read it anyways. Honestly disgustingly sexist and obviously homophobic.

[Emily D. · Rating 3 out of 5]

I got this book in pre-marital counseling and proceeded to not read it until 10 years later! It was good. There were some ideas that were a little cheesy to me, but it was better than I expected since I went in thinking this was something geared towards Christian couples before or in the beginning of marriage. It's actually for couples already married and based on the Song of Solomon. The philosophies of the authors were in line with the doctrines I expected but also less restricted than I anticipated. I found it helpful, especially with its overall message of thinking of your partner's happiness and not being a selfish lover. The book opened my mind to ideas to contribute to happiness and is also a good reminder that a relationship is hard work, intentional, and a marriage is a covenant to be honored.It's not something you should expect your partner to upkeep and put effort into while you yourself just coast. It requires communication and forgiveness. I thought it ended up being good timing reading this now rather than when I was first gifted it, since instead of reading it early on and then forgetting about its message, it acted more as a refresher.

[Stacy Myers · Rating 4 out of 5]

My husband and I read this book together. We enjoy reading books and passing them back and forth. This one was a good read. We never want to think our marriage is so solid that we get cocky or lazy and don’t water it.

This book takes the Song of Solomon book in the Bible and makes it applicable to today - showing how to be a servant toward your mate. I know some people shrink back from that word, thinking it’s synonymous with “door mat” but that’s so far from the truth. I love serving my husband and he’s great at serving me. It’s a dance - so I appreciate a book like this that gives great ideas and encouragement to keep up the good fight.

If sex is scary, annoying, or something on your to-do list, you’ll benefit from this read.
But if sex is a fun part of your marriage, you’ll still benefit from this read.

[Daniel G Keohane · Rating 5 out of 5]

Our twenty something daughter gave us this book as a gift and it is fantastic. Not sure why do many Christians find sex a taboo subject when talking specifically about sex in marriage. This has so many good challenging points. Will it bring so e people out of their comfort zone? Yes definitely. That's the point. If you refuse to be what they call here a "servant lover" for your mate, you've got issues that need to need addressed in what should be an always-intimate relationship. Highly recommend this point but also for couples to read together.

[Suzanne Cefola · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don’t agree with all of their interpretations of Song of Solomon but a great book to read along your own reading through Song of Solomon’s.
Well written for Christian couples. Full of practical examples.

[Kamila Mullen · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was pretty disappointed with this book. I liked that it involved biblical passages but besides that it really wasn’t gripping me in a way of helping resolve solutions of relationships intimacy problems

[Melissa (Semi Hiatus Until After the Holidays) · Rating 1 out of 5]

Very out of touch with reality, problematic when it comes to abuse situations.
Trash.

[Jacob · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great study on the book of Song of Solomon

[Zinnada Hodges · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a HOT book to get and read with your spouse.

[John Wise · Rating 4 out of 5]

A helpful resource for husbands and wives based on the Song of Solomon.