Interviewing Your Daughter's Date

by Dennis Rainey

As a dad, you want to protect your daughter, especially from boys with super-charged hormones! Just the thought of it makes you break into a cold sweat. Interviewing Your Daughter's Date will walk you through principles that Dennis Rainey used to help his own daughters navigate the dating years, with their emotions calm and their hearts whole. You'll learn how to protect your daughter, set boundaries in her relationshis, and give her guidance as she grows up. Dad - She needs you now more than ever!

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Christian, Family

79 pages, Hardcover

First published April 16, 2007

About the author

Dennis Rainey is president and CEO of FamilyLife, a division of Cru. Dennis and his wife, Barbara, have spoken at Weekend to Remember conferences around the world. Dennis serves as the daily host of the radio program "FamilyLife Today". He and Barbara have authored more than two dozen books, including the bestselling "Moments Together for Intimacy" and" Moments Together for Couples". The Raineys have six children and nineteen grandchildren.

Reviews

[Petra X · Rating 1 out of 5]

I was going to preview this book, but the Kindle sample consists of only one word, "Kid". Is the author trying to tell us something?

What got me interested in this book was actually another of the Raineys' books, Passport2purity Project Kit I was 'reviewing' (ranting on about). This is where you take your preteen girl or boy, but we are talking about girls in this 'review' away for the weekend and totally and utterly brainwash her into thinking that the worst thing in the entire world, going to get you damned for all eternity, is having sex before marriage. Oh my, it's really a sin is it? Did God make girls and boys have rampant hormones just in order to laugh at them battling against them? Did he say these hormones are Satan in your body until marriage, then they are magically transformed into godly?

So since the Kindle sample was inadequate (!) I read the few reviews and this one struck me as a Good Way to Save Money,

"For a daughter to know her father loves her enough to really protect her and be involved with her social life and for a boy to understand the responsibility of manhood in relating to someone else's daughter is amazing."

Really? I can't think of anything worse. But of course this book makes Passport2purity Project redundant. Just frighten the boys off with making sure they know that Daddy does not approve of even a Kiss Goodnight and that's that. "Pure and Innocent" girl, or rather, one whose opportunities have been curtailed by a father too interested in his daughter's moral, social and private life. Don't we all as teenagers want to make our own decisions?

I say 'boys' but what's the betting that once it gets around that is what the girlie's daddy does, there won't be many queuing up for a Saturday night out?

[Ali Bank · Rating 1 out of 5]

Honestly could write a 10 page paper of how stupid this book is

[Ana]

Incredible

[Scott · Rating 4 out of 5]

Originally read this short book when my oldest was very young... decided I needed a refresher. Still very helpful perspective.

[Tim Casteel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Should have been a blog post (and free!).

[Heidi Morrell · Rating 5 out of 5]

We thought we were prepared , but after reading this aloud during a cross country drive , my husband , 3 daughters , and I are thankful we read this . One teen stated that she believes this is going to be a great way for her to be "off the hook ", if she gets asked out , but doesn't want to go out with the guy ! Also , this is preparing us all for when "it's real". I don't think any parent is ever really ready for their children to date . Now that we've read this ,we now believe we are more prepared to face this next chapter in our family .

[Stephanie Sheaffer · Rating 4 out of 5]

Important message in a short and easy-to-read format. This is a book for every father - but don't wait until your daughters are teenagers to read it! Excellent food-for-thought for dads with younger daughters too.

* Some of the scripts didn't resonate with me (ex: asking a high school student to promise you that they will have a similar conversation with their future daughters' dates...), but this book has a critical message that has the potential to impact many people for good.

[Vincent Madhavan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an Easy Read, but Impactful & Powerful Book for Father's whom Daughter are going into the age of Dating,, Teaches and Reinforces for Dad's to be Man of Valor and Brave to Protect Their Daughters .. Strongly Recommended to all Men , having Daughters of similar seasons in life, irrespective of age...

[Philip Rabon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick, simple, practical read for every Christian dad. Definitely something I will put into practice as my daughters get older. Great reminder to take home on dates and spend quality time with them and show them how a young man should treat them. Protect them, love them, pray for them. Thank you, Dennis Rainey.

[Sheldon Dillman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great for Dad of all ages. Also helped me as a young man more deeply realize the impact of a strong relationship between daughter and father. When I meet a woman I will treat her with even more respect due to this book. Praise God for great Dads.

[Paul · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good principles for godly fathers but more emphasis should be placed on our daughters and how loved they are through the gospel. That’s the real protection that goes beyond the love and power of an earthly father.

[Welsey Hargon · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a short and simple guide for the dad with dating daughters! I don't have kids myself but this book has planted some seeds that I hope will bear fruit if I am to have daughter.

[Wassenario · Rating 4 out of 5]

Super easy read. Highly recommend for any dad with a daughter. Good reminders to be intentional about protecting your girls and yet serving the young men they date

[Josh · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have a daughter in the home, this is a must read. It is short, direct, and very meaningful...just like the interview it suggests.

[Philip Meinel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Makes sense. I'm going to try this out.

[Brady Speers · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read!!!

[Cheryl · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of my favorite books by one of my favorite authors (family life- not fiction). I think that giving this to your husband is one of the greatest gifts to give the next generation :) For a daughter to know her father loves her enough to really protect her and be involved with her social life and for a boy to understand the responsibility of manhood in relating to someone else's daughter is amazing. It is meant to empower both the daughter and her date- not to intimidate or annoy. It also has a strong focus on mentoring the next generation of men. Anyway I totally loved it and it's one your husband could read in an hour or two. But don't tell my husband- he's getting it for father's day.

[Vince · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not a bad little book, lost of good ideas and structure that is sound.

Probably a little overboard for me on a few minor points and definitely not forward thinking on raising a strong self-reliant daughter. But for most without a strong family background to refer to, this is an excellent starting point.

I would reccomend to new dads, single moms, and others contemplating their relationship with their daughter.

[Rodney Wright · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read the 30 minutes man-to-man version the day I was to interview one of my daughters potential dates. Great advice and great wisdom. Less about how to intimidate and more about how to show the young man what is expected and how he can benefit from a pure dating relationship. Definitely recommended reading for any Dad's of both sons and daughters.

[Cynthia Nicola · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish I had this book when my daughter first started dating. Rainey comes at the topic of interviewing your daughter's date from a Christian point of view but it really boils down to respect. I think setting expectations using this method would show not that you're intimidating but that you value your daughter and expect the young man to treat her that way or simply not date her.

[Scott · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a must read for parents of girls that are dating age or close to it. It prepares you to portect your daughter's purity and innocence. Highly recommended. Why should you interview your daughter's dates? Read the book and find it. This is a quick but important read.

[Kevin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick read! Beyond the how to of interviewing a date, this book provided me with an urgency for talking with my daughter about dating and purity.

[Alan K. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good book. Good strategy and encouragement for Dads to take a more active role in their daughter's dating life. Very easy, quick read. Invaluable insight.

[Stein · Rating 5 out of 5]

All fathers with daughters need to read this book!

[Phil Allen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read for fathers of daughters. Don't wait until they are dating age, this book tells you how to prep them from the start.

[Mark Chaffee · Rating 5 out of 5]

My first daughter. Her first romantic interest. A freaked out father. A great practical guide!

[Patrick · Rating 5 out of 5]

Be the man.

[Larry Taylor · Rating 4 out of 5]

good, simple, short book of advice for dads of teen girls

[Jamie Hill · Rating 3 out of 5]

Cute and humorous. Some good ideas in here.

[Tim]

I listened to an interview where he was asked if interviwed his son's girlfriends and he said that he was never comfortable doing that. He felt was girl's dad's responsibility to interview his sons but not his to interview the girls. So basically he feels the parents are not responsible in making sure their son's make the right choices in mates. Only daughters. Sounds like favoritism to me.