Somewhat outdated knowledge on BPD, as well as I disagree with some of the framing of the relationship with a BPD loved-one. For example example, one of the main takeaways according to the summary at the end is that you’re unfairly burdening your BPD loved-one by privileging their perspective and feelings over your own, which completely disregards the codependent dynamic that goes on, and that it’s not as easy as just suddenly ceasing to prioritise them. Also, I find the constant pushing of the narrative that the person with BPD is bot responsible for their behaviour, the disorder is, harmful. The manifestations of BOD are not up to the sufferer, but whether they choose to do something about them or continue hurting their loved ones is. Another thing I want to flag is the reliance on the 12-step programme, which has been largely disproven. These are just some of my thoughts, but the books still gets a 4⭐️ bc it was very informative.