Elegant. Dignified. Compelling.
On the highly unusual side of this biography there are a Golden Globe award (plus another seven nominations), three BAFTA nominations and a win for Best Actress at the San Sebastian International Film Festival -which any Hollywood child would mention at least three times- that go utterly ignored. Not a single mention of any of that.
She is also a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador and was elected by Time Magazine as one of the Most Influential people in the world. Both also unmentioned in the book.
On the insanely unusual side, though, the anecdotes are like a work of fiction. Mia had dinner with her father and Frank Sinatra at the age of 11. Eight years later, unaware of who she was, and just after a brief chance encounter on a film set, Sinatra (49) invited Mia (19) to a movie preview later that week. During the film, he held her hand and afterwards invited her to drive to Palm Springs for the weekend; when she baulked citing some unfinished chores at home he offered to send his private plane to pick her up the following day. She flew in, he took her virginity, and a year later they were married until shooting in Rosemary’s Baby (Mia’s first leading role) run into delays which clashed with the schedule of The Detective, a Sinatra-Lee Remick show. Frank had Mia replaced by Jacquelineas Bisset and dispatched his lawyer, Mickey Rudin with divorce papers.
Mia had met John Wayne as an infant, was a kindergarten friend of another Hollywood child, Liza Minelli, her best friend was next-door neighbour Maria Roach, whose father Hal Roach produced all Oliver & Hardy movies, and in Martha’s Vineyard, her neighbour and very good pal was Carly Simon. But probably her most serendipitous encounter occurred a month before her 18th birthday. She caught the elevator to a party at the top floor of the St. Regis hotel. When the doors opened, the crush of people, smoke and noise made her change her mind, so she took a step back and remained in.
That was when she realized there was still another passenger in the elevator who had not alighted. “a quite extraordinary-looking man I had never seen a mustache like his: several inches long, waxed and wire-thin, it sprang antenna-like from above his pursed lips into a jaunty curl at each tip. His eyes popped outrageously, and his black hair fell past the collar of a pin-striped morning coat under which glimmered a gold brocade vest. Gold too was the handle of his cane, which he raised slightly to say “Bonjour,” with a short bow. Never mind that it was nine at night. “Good morning” was my reply.
When the doors opened onto the lobby, the mustache-man suggested “Encore?” with an upward gesture of his cane, and, abandoning my foothold in the real world, I nodded. There were three or four more ascents, three or four brief studies of the party, and then my companion introduced himself.”
The following day, Mia had lunch the man and his wife, Gala, and they continued to share meals daily every time the couple was in New York, which happened every fall until St. Patrick’s Day when everything became “too green” for the man, and they left for Paris. And so, a family-deep friendship was forged for the rest of their lives between Mia’s family and Gala and Salvador Dalí.
When Mia was struggling to get over her abrupt divorce from Sinatra, she she received a phonecall from her sister Pru, asking to accompany her to a crowded auditorium in Chicago to hear the Majarishi Mahesh Yogi speak.
Afterwards, the Maharishi invited Pru to India to a teacher’s course, so she could learn to meditate and seek enlightenment. Mia decided to join too and seek escape at the foot of the Himalayas. What followed was a deeply introspective period, during which she tried to make sense of God, read the teachings of Buddha, Thomas Jefferson’s writings about Christ and Tolstoy’s take on the Gospels, also Kierkegard, Hegel, Kant, Nietzshe, Camus, Satre, Plato and all of Dostoyevski’s ouvre. All this profoundness was interrupted weeks later when the Beatles showed up with their guitars and wives. They all became good friends and after they left, Lennon and McCartney wrote “Dear Prudence” about Mia’s sister.
Mia’s second husband was also a world-famous musician, pianist-composer-conductor André Previn whose asinine schedules allowed the couple only a week or two together every year. They did use their time constructively and had three natural children and adopted another three.
During one of Andre’s appearances in London, the Previns attended dinner at 10 Downing Street with the Oliviers (“Lawrence and Joan Plowright). ”It was a stiff crowd—except for us and Leonard Bernstein, with whom I had a depressing conversation about the death of symphonic music and civilization in general. Larry, sitting next to me, was Lord Olivier from the moment he arrived. At the dinner table the Queen Mother was on his other side. She asked me about the babies and I said they were fine, thank you, and then, because of the silence, I asked, What, in your view, is the most important thing I can teach them?
“Let me think for a moment.” Her Highness looked thoughtful.
“Ma’am, I think Mia means—” Larry interjected, flashing a look that jogged a vague recollection that you’re not supposed to ask queens questions.
“I know what she means. I’m just thinking—” She cut him dead. Then, with her eyes shining, she said beautifully, “I think it’s…manners.“
“Really?” I squeaked. “You think?”
“Yes,” she said decisively. “I believe that manners can get you through anything.”
Although they were legally married for 9 years, soon enough, there and because of the awful globetrotting schedules, there was a new Mrs. Previn in his bed and Mia devoted her time to bringing up the children.
The eldest adopted kid, Mia’s oldest daughter, was a Korean orphan of indeterminate age –the orphanage guessed five years at the time- and you probably know that by the time she was in her senior year of high school, Woody Allen –the boyfriend Mia threw away twelve valuable years of her life next to- started fucking Soon-Yi.
Because Allen never married Farrow and Farrow had legally adopted Soon-Yi, she makes the acid observation that, technically, after Allen and Soon-Yi, Mia could be considered Woody Allen’s mother in-law.
Woody Allen had one child with Mia, (born Satchel then he changed his name to Ronan Farrow –the Pulitzer prize winner). If you’ve read his book “Catch and Kill” , you’ll know that Ronan accuses his father of raping his young (adoptive) sister Dylan. Mia’s book corroborates the fondling and molestation accusations but the police investigation was dropped after pressure from the Mayor’s office.
Unfortunately, a good part of the biography is dedicated to Mia’s life with Allen (though they lived in separate apartments right across Central Park). He comes across as the manipulative, neurotic, degenerate, child-molesting, vile cockroach the press has reported him to be.
Mia’s words, however, are much kinder but no less revealing: ”Woody the actor had long ago invented his screen persona: a lovable nebbish, endlessly and hilariously whining and quacking, questioning moral and philosophical issues great and small. He was a guy with his heart and his conscience on his sleeve, whose talk was peppered with quotes of Kierkegaard and Kant: an insightful and unthreatening mascot of the intelligentsia. A guy who is nothing like the real Woody Allen.”
As a footnote: Mia Farrow has 14 children -4 biological (3 with André Previn, 1 with Woddy Allen) and 10 adopted. Among her adopted babies there was an abandoned crack-baby, two blind Vietnamese girls and an Indian kid who came to her as the human version of a pretzel, too twisted to even sit on a wheelchair, and after years of therapy, love and patience, she unknotted, stretched and straightened him until he could walk with braces and crutches.
There is no sign, none whatsoever throughout the book, that Ms. Farrow loves or favours her biological children above the adopted ones.