Genitori e figli: aspetti psicologici - Genitori e figli: crisi nei rapporti genitoriali e filiali - Genitori e figli: servizi per i genitori - Bambini: educazione, comunicazione - Adolescenti: rapporti con la famiglia - Giovani: rapporti con la famiglia.
Thomas Gordon was an American clinical psychologist, student and later colleague of Carl Rogers. He was mainly known for his Gordon Method, primarily a method to improve relationships between parents and children that was later developed into a general communication method to improve all relationships.
Dr. Gordon spent more than 50 years teaching parents, teachers and leaders the model he developed for building effective relationships. His model was based on a strong belief that the use of coercive power damages relationships. As an alternative, he taught people skills for communicating and resolving conflicts that they can use to build and maintain good relationships at home, school and at work. These skills, which include Active Listening, I-Messages and No-Lose Conflict Resolution, are now widely known and used by people around the world. He first applied some of these methods in the 1950s as a consultant to business organizations. Then, in the early 60s, he developed the Parent Effectiveness Training course - commonly known as P.E.T. - and taught the first class to a group of 14 parents in a Pasadena, CA cafeteria. The courses proved to be so popular with parents that he began training instructors throughout the U.S. to teach it in their communities. Over the next several years, the course spread to all 50 states.
In recognition of his contributions to the betterment of humanity, Dr. Gordon was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1997, 1998 and 1999. In addition, both the American Psychological Foundation and the California Psychological Association presented him with lifetime achievement awards. Gordon Training International, the company he founded in 1974, continues his work.
Questo libro scritto da uno psicologo americano parla di come affrontare i conflitti coi figli adolescenti (e non solo). Denuncia che sostanzialmente, i rapporti genitori figli vedono prevalere un modello autoritario in cui è il figlio ad avere sempre la peggio o un modello troppo liberale in cui è il genitore ad avere sempre la peggio. Analizza i pro e i contro di ciascun modello educativo e teorizza che piuttosto bisognerebbe - attraverso l'ascolto partecipe - entrare in sintonia coi bisogni del proprio figlio e nel contempo evitare di rinunciare troppo ai propri attraverso un sistema - che lui definisce modello III, di maggior comunicazione empatica tra genitori e figli basato sul rispetto e la non prevaricazione. Interessante spunto di riflessione.
Un "manuale" da leggere con mente aperta, tenerlo appresso e consultarlo almeno per riflettere più a fondo sul rapporto genitore-figlio e i conflitti che ne derivano, ma principalmente per trovare un modo di assumere il ruolo di genitori efficaci senza creder di essere padroni della vita dei propri figli.