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Step Wars: Overcoming the Perils and Making Peace in Adult Stepfamilies
More and more people over age sixty-five are remarrying each year, and few families are prepared for the avalanche of feelings that comes when adult children learn that a parent is getting remarried. Psychiatrist Grace Gabe and award winning author Jean Lipman-Blumen provide a practical guide with advice and understanding for every family facing this increasingly common, complex situation. Using case studies from a variety of perspectives, chapters address concerns frequently faced,
* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations
* Health and Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty
*The Innocent Pawns (or Occasional Bridges) in Stepfamily Conflicts
Written for both the couple getting married as well as their adult children, Step Wars is the only book in the market that focuses on the blending of adult families.
* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations
* Health and Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty
*The Innocent Pawns (or Occasional Bridges) in Stepfamily Conflicts
Written for both the couple getting married as well as their adult children, Step Wars is the only book in the market that focuses on the blending of adult families.
352 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2001
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July 7, 2021
This is a far overdue book on dealing with adult stepchildren.
Although it gives some grace, the bottom line seems to be that you won't be able to make them like you, can't do enough to make them love you, can't make them reasonable, and might as well live your life well and plan that they will cut you out of their lives if your spouse dies. That seems bleak until you realize that you could have wasted years of futility rather than enriching the years you have left with your spouse.
Nicely done!
Although it gives some grace, the bottom line seems to be that you won't be able to make them like you, can't do enough to make them love you, can't make them reasonable, and might as well live your life well and plan that they will cut you out of their lives if your spouse dies. That seems bleak until you realize that you could have wasted years of futility rather than enriching the years you have left with your spouse.
Nicely done!
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March 17, 2017
The only book of its kind. If you have an adult step family and it's struggling this book is a huge help.
Because most of the reviews here seem to be from the adult parents remarrying perspective let me also add that this book is extremely helpful for the adult children of the parents who are getting married. The book does a good job of helping each side see their behavior more clearly.
Because most of the reviews here seem to be from the adult parents remarrying perspective let me also add that this book is extremely helpful for the adult children of the parents who are getting married. The book does a good job of helping each side see their behavior more clearly.
March 18, 2010
Helpful, advice-filled book that often left me shaking my head over the self-centered, money hungry aspect of some adult children. The authors give many examples of different experiences and do their darndest to help people reframe negative behavior and see things in a more positive manner.
January 31, 2008
An absolute must read for anyone in a blended family that is looking for answers to life's little blended troubles. This book is a life saver !
December 11, 2009
Extremely practical and helpful book for older adults remarrying. Tips on how to cope and understand their adult children and their qualms about their parents getting married.
January 30, 2008
This book is the best out there regarding blending families. Very practical advice.
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