Stepwives: Ten Steps to Help Ex-Wives and Step-Mothers End the Struggle and Put the Kids First

by Louise Oxhorn

(n) (1) ex-wife and current wife to the same man, mother and stepmother to the same children; (2) women destined to battle for the love and control of their families...until now!

Lynne and Louise were stepwives for ten years. While they managed a barely civil relationship, each was seething with anger on the inside. It all boiled over in an ugly scene on the day Lynne saw that Louise was wearing shoes identical to her own favorite pair, and then they knew they had to find a new way of being a family.

With the guidance of marriage and family therapist Marjorie Vego Krausz, Lynne Oxhorn-Ringwood and Louise Oxhorn developed a ten-step program that has helped thousands of women begin to go from sworn enemies to CoMamas. You don't have to follow the program together with your stepwife; even if only one of you follows the plan, your stepwife relationship and the happiness of your family will improve. Learn how

-Establish a good working relationship with your stepwife
-Put the children first
-Understand your husband's/ex-husband's role and how he can help
-Handle vacations, holidays, and other big occasions

Packed with quizzes, lists, and other helpful tools, Stepwives can show you how to step into her shoes and have a peaceful, cooperative relationship with your stepwife.

Genres: Parenting

288 pages, Paperback

First published April 9, 2002

Reviews

[Arianne · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read

More warren who are in some type of a stepfamily should read this book. So women stop seeing eachother as instead a o fannemy

[JoAnna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Revolutionary ideas for this new step-mom! I could hardly put this book down, I was so eager to make the relationship with my husband's ex a positive one. But I couldn't really imagine getting the ideas off the pages and into real life. My husband's ex also wants to have a good relationship with me, but there's such an age difference between us, we have a difficult time connecting. I tried suggesting several ideas to her from this book, but either she's too busy or simply isn't interested. I'm not bold enough to suggest this book to her, unfortunately. I guess I can try again in a few years.

[Becki]

I had waited so long to get this book from the library�to find it completely useless. To be honest, I skimmed a lot of it. \nDon�t get me wrong. I think it�s great that this ex-wife and this step-wife found a way to get along and communicate effectively. And they say you can do the same even if you are the only �step-wife� working on the relationship. But I just don�t see how that�s practical. Especially when ones� step-wife has told you that her kids are none of your business and then blatantly ignores any communication from you regarding them.\n

[Brenda · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's a good book. There are some great principles in here. Sadly, it won't be applicable to a lot of people. Not all ex-wives and step-mothers will be able to co-exist as the authors do.

[Jeff Bobin · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good read for Ex-Wives and Stepmothers to think about in developing a relationship so that the kids will benefit from your relatioship rather than suffer from it.

[Raquel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book for ex wives and stepmother relationship.