The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults

by Terri Apter

What do young people at the threshold of adulthood really need and want? Why do so many responsible and motivated teenagers become young adults who are still dependent, financially and emotionally, on their parents? Why are many young people today so quick to leave childhood behind, but so slow to become adults?

In this wise and compassionate book, Terri Apter debunks outdated and misguided ideas about maturity: Acting in the name of love, many parents withdraw emotional or practical support, thinking it best for a son or daughter to solve his or her own problems—even to suffer alone the consequences of mistakes. Apter shows us that young adults actually need a parent's guidance and support, while also requiring respect and independence. Based on carefully observed case studies and current research, this book describes how we can support young people through a crucial stage in their development.

Genres: Nonfiction

290 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2001

Reviews

[Pathila Singh · Rating 5 out of 5]

She wrote from a very empathetic standpoint and described everything in a way I was able to understand. My sister we lost to this situation she fell into the wrong crowd and was afraid of being an adult.

[Lorna · Rating 2 out of 5]

Interesting book. Written by a non-christian so misses out the whole spiritual realm which obviously hinders the usefulness of the book. Many ideas in it a rather strange and I wouldn't really recommend reading it.

[Lisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wish I would have read this before my first teen.

[Shellie · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book discusses the 19 - 25 year old, and it's pretty interesting what she shares.

[Cymiki]

comes from teacher recommendation

[Jean Brazil · Rating 2 out of 5]

Skimmed this one. Some good ideas, but didn't really apply to what I was seeking advice on.

[Lara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very relevant. Really liked a fresh perspective from the push-them-out-the-door advice everywhere else.