the poll: I'm curious and am wanting clarity on this.. If you are an introvert, extremely shy, or just not motivated to engage at all; why do you STILL choose to join interactive groups on this website? > Likes and Comments
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Although I can feel uncertain in new situations, I have found over the course of time that the groups I'm a member of are always welcoming. Interacting with other book lovers is why I joined, I enjoy getting others opinions and book rec's and sharing mine.
Patricia wrote: "Although I can feel uncertain in new situations, I have found over the course of time that the groups I'm a member of are always welcoming. Interacting with other book lovers is why I joined, I enj..."
Same here.. I love discussing all manner of topics over books or RL.. But the common thread is books. Debating a plot, sharing a rec' and receiving recs'.. Even offering encouragement or a kind word or two when needed..
I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. I think that’s why I love yall. I travel a lot (like this weekend) and I love sharing, interacting, and creating characters to share with yall. Can’t do that anywhere else.
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."
Aww.. We love you too! We're so thankful you're a part of this community with us.. Not just in our group(s) but on this platform as a whole. Thank you for being you (hugs)
Me being a group administrator you don't have the option to lurk or disengage. But as strictly a group member in some of my groups, I enjoy interacting with others. Variety is the spice of life. Different perspectives are great drivers to open us up in many ways. I believe it's good for us all to be able to connect in some way, on some level.
A book site is an excellent and safe way to do this. Book groups, depending on their content and members, can be a bit intimidating for some. This is certainly understandable why some may shy away for a time to try to feel things out before they interact. The point is that they do usually begin to interact with others.
The other issues with this however, are those who are just serial group joiners or lurkers. If you know that you only feel comfortable with just reading, reviewing and not interacting with others, then you should not be joining groups that require a certain level of interaction with its members. As a group moderator and member for many groups on this platform, I can't stress how discouraging and frustrating it is for us, when we do everything possible to encourage group interaction, but people still refuse to participate.
The time, effort and organizations of groups is not an easy task.
If the environment of a group is warm, inclusive, informative, consistent and offers ease in which to navigate the group, then your moderators are working hard to ensure this.
A little more appreciation and consistent effort on the part of the group members to actually engage is not going to kill them, and would be appreciated and does not go unnoticed.
This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based.
That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every single thing, but I know there is going to be something posted; a buddy read, a poll, or a question that I'll eventually want to participate in conversationally.
That's what I love about being here. I feel like in a lot of ways we've all been a little bit vulnerable and very honest with each other.
Shan ~A~ wrote: "This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based.
That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every sing..."
Thank you, Shan~A~
We love you and what you choose to share when you can. Your POV and input on certain topics we discuss, I truly enjoy hearing about..
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."
Your awesome!! 😀 I always look forward to conversing with you!
Now that you mentioned it, no one in my life reads like I do. So this is where I can freely discuss what I'm reading and my thoughts about it
Shan ~A~ wrote: "This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based.
That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every sing..."
That's what I love about being here. I feel like in a lot of ways we've all been a little bit vulnerable and very honest with each other.
Yes, agree. There is a certain safety, for lack of a better word. To this group, there really is no judgement, about anything. I've been in discussions where there were several different opinions, no one was offended or upset, just book lovers discussing their opinions about books and life. 😀
As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊
Dayna wrote: "As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊"
We always love hearing from you Dayna, when you can participate! You're an author, we understand you're actively writing awesome reads for us, so we can discuss em..
I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and everyone in it. You guys are awesome.
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."
Aww Sarah.. We got you.. Kids, fur babies, grown babies(Hubby), work and life in general does get crazy for us all at times.
I love joining in with discussions , there may be the odd day I'm quiet on goodreads ( I suffer from migraines , I always enjoy catching up after that happens) I especially enjoy having discussions about the group and buddy reads , every one is so friendly here 😀
Matthew wrote: "I love joining in with discussions , there may be the odd day I'm quiet on goodreads ( I suffer from migraines , I always enjoy catching up after that happens) I especially enjoy having discussions..."
(Hugs)
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."
This is 100% as well as add in health issues that seem to hit me randomly.
Picked get intimated though, always feel like im late to comment or over think what i want to say and how people will take it, so then dont want to post. Hate to be hated.
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@ Emi
I am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consistently in other groups, while at the same time being able to moderate your own group as well?
Moderating and engagement go hand in hand. So I am curious to know how you can feel such anxiety about not being able to do one, when you are doing so well with the other?
I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but adulting sucks lol.
I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and disabilities are bad. Everything is a chore now...
Matthew wrote: "I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and..."
Here's to hoping that everything gets easier for you Matthew..
I'm so sorry this season/transition has not been all hearts and cupcakes for you.. I am happy that this site is your happy place escape though.. We all need that.. I try my best to give that kind of positive warm space to everyone here, cause we all have enough sh^tty things in our lives to contend with.
#Healings&Blessings
Angela wrote: "I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but adulting sucks..."
I love reading what someone's experience was within a book while reading it.. I live for honest bold and raw reviews.. I try to give that type of energy in my own reviews as well.. I feel like whether you agree with what I say or not, you can always trust that you've gotten an honest review from me...
Adulting is the most ghetto hood we will all ever have to live in.. Which is why we need a safe place or Haven, with like minded folks, to share, be silly or vent with..
For the voters who have chosen this option:
I'm intimidated by the rapport of the other members, and I am often unsure of how to engage with them
If you feel this way, why do you still join interactive groups or stay in them? Groups that require your input/participation, in order to keep the environment rich and engaging?
I get that when you join a new environment, that you want to feel things out, see if it's a good fit for you. That's understandable and the wise thing to do.. But eventually you will need to start to interact with people.
People who have good rapport in groups, they got to that level because they took those first steps in interacting with each other, and it grew from there. That's the only way to get to that next step- ENGAGEMENT..
When you also see that the environment is also inclusive, diversified and chill (no drama), why do you still choose to stay on the sidelines?
Please do not take these questions as an attack or anything like that. I'm honestly curious and I really want to know and understand...
I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming. There are a few groups, I just have not accepted invites. Sometimes, I accept to gain information or recommendations more so than chat. I think with the way GR has gone in the last few years, it made the community a bit different in terms of how I use the site.
I was a lurker on the old site for a long time. Completely intimidated by the technology and my own insecurities. What if they don't agree with me? What if I sound like a nut? I finally starting posting here and there, oh the thrill of someone responding!! 😂. I definitely took baby steps, it got easier as time went. There have been times when someone has had a different opinion, it was all good. It makes me look at the book a little differently, or hmmm, I never thought about it like that. Which enriches the book for me. I'm not saying my approach to it is for everyone, it's not, I get that. What I will say is I've made some amazing friends here, and no, we don't all like the same kind of books and that's ok. I really enjoy the LBR we do, getting everyone's opinions and thoughts about what's happened, what's going to happen, so much fun for me. I don't have anyone in my life that loves to read like I do so this is my place to share and talk books. Or talk about whatever.
I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I do get to check out the groups I’m apart of
Samantha wrote: "I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming. There are a few groups, I just have not accepted invites. Sometimes, I accept to gain inf..."
I understand that.. The changes GRs has done or allowed to go unchecked, have changed the climate a bit when it comes to groups in general..
When you say:
"I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming.
Does this feeling of being overwhelmed stem from being part of too many groups on the platform, or because a particular group may have too much going on within it, and you feel you can't or don't have the time to keep up?
Meka wrote: "I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I..."
Thank you for your response, Meka!
Pretty sure I joined this group (prob others) for book recommendations with people that read similar books. I don't really interact because I don't feel comfortable talking to people I don't know. I stay because there's no pressure to stay in contact, and I still get to feel included, which is wonderful. 🖤
Being able to talk with members of groups and making friendships from that has been a great boon for me. I've truly met some wonderful people by just jumping in and conversing in conversations- whether that's been over books or what's happening in other's lives. Plus there's the bonus of buddy reads, finding out about great recs from others, discussions on polls, etc.
You never know until you put yourself out there. The group I help Moderate is fantastic, and a safe place for everyone-no judgement.
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."
Aww, Rick-we're so happy you're a part M.E. and that you're really enjoying it🤗😇💛
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."
Sarah, we so appreciate you!🤗 We understand about all the responsibilities as well. Just jump in when you can-we love hearing from you!
Patricia wrote: "I was a lurker on the old site for a long time. Completely intimidated by the technology and my own insecurities. What if they don't agree with me? What if I sound like a nut? I finally starting po..."
Same👍😇💛
Dayna wrote: "As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊"
We completely understand, Dayna! You keep writing those awesome books, and check in when you can. We love hearing from you😇💛
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "Angela wrote: "I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but..."
LOL! You've got that right, Nya! Adulting is total ghetto-hood!😂😂😂
Matthew wrote: "I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and..."
I sincerely hope your health issues get much better soon, Matthew🙏😇
Jacquelyn wrote: "Pretty sure I joined this group (prob others) for book recommendations with people that read similar books. I don't really interact because I don't feel comfortable talking to people I don't know. ..."
Thank you Jacquelyn, for commenting!
FYI-We're not in any groups together, I don't think.. ...
We're friends because we're awesome people (hugs)
Debbie wrote: "Being able to talk with members of groups and making friendships from that has been a great boon for me. I've truly met some wonderful people by just jumping in and conversing in conversations- whe..."
Absolutely! Thank you Sis!
^Kalinka^ wrote: "@ Emi
I am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consistently in other gr..."
I think some of it has to do with control, i started the group and can see new relationships being formed, where as entering a new group is daughting with interaction, especially ones with friendships and inside jokes already formed as i feel i could kill the mood and/or convo with one sentence... if that makes sense?? Thats why its intimidating doing it.
I also dont feel i am doing well in my own group, moderating and stuff as i am sometime met with lulls OR conversations just completely stop.
I will never stop trying though, amd know once i jump over this hurdle its worth it... but confidence making friends, online or RL, is difficult for me and really gets me out my comfort zone.
Hops that makes any sense
That makes perfect sense to me, Emi..
I can definitely understand that..
There is an ebb and flow when moderating groups. Here in the US, it's summer time, so online activity slows down a bit anyway, cause kids are out of school, or more family engagements etc., as well, then the first 2-3 months after school starts for kids, it's crazy hectic as well but at least because it's getting colder at that time, you begin to see more group activity and flow..
So just give it time..Especially if you have a new group.
Emi wrote: "^Kalinka^ wrote: "@ Emi
I am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consis..."
Thank you so much Emi, for answering my question.
Yes, this makes sense to me now.
And to add to what Nya said about moderating a group, this is very true. There is an ebb and flow to things that goes with the seasons and what's happening at those times.
Give it time, but also think of new topics to promote more group activity as well.
Meka wrote: "I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I..."
Sometimes that can be the case for me. Life or work gets in the way and I get a little lost. I always try to check back in and see recommendations, etc.
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "When you say:
"I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming.
Does this feeling of being overwhelmed stem from being part of too many groups on the platform, or because a particular group may have too much going on within it, and you feel you can't or don't have the time to keep up?"
Well no. I am a part of many groups and I even moderate a few. I think I do feel overwhelm because some groups have too many things going on and I can't keep up. Also, in the last few years, I have experience a few shake ups in life including my own health and I couldn't focus on it. There was a time in my life when GR provided escapism and with all the GR changes and shake ups, I just fell back from it when I had to deal with other issues.
The engagement is something that I miss. Even some "friends" I miss. I love chatting with them. My longtime folks.
Hewwoooooo :DDDDD I just love interacting with my pedal group members because it takes me connect with....just otherss (and also probably because this is the only social media that i ever use in my phone 😭😭😭😭, like i don't use any of the other social media platforms anymore because of their "addicting nature"..
For goodreads u literally just, track your books, read people's reviews, & interact with them through messages and groups.
Gohnar23 wrote: "Hewwoooooo :DDDDD I just love interacting with my pedal group members because it takes me connect with....just otherss (and also probably because this is the only social media that i ever use in my..."
😇😇😇
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "Please answer/vote as honestly as you can.
Keep in mind that this is not a group poll. This is my personal profile poll that is open to all GRs members as well as friends who were invited to part..."
Hi my friend, I really love how active you are. My life has been crazy and my return to reading is still a work in progress. I hope to interact more once my health issues and other challenges have been resolved. Thank you for engaging and responding to my direct messages as well!
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Hey Livia!
Thanks for commenting!
Praying for a speedy healing in your health, and desire to read more!
Tammie P ℓօรƭเɳαɓօօҡ wrote: "This is such an interesting question and a great discussion.
As someone who leans more toward introversion than shyness, I think I have improved. My engagement is more consistent now. However, I to..."
Thank you, Tammie! And thank you for commenting and voting!
First, congrats on your improvements with engagement.. I know it's not easy when you are not use to interacting when you're an introvert. The action can seem daunting.. Intimidating.
I agree with your thoughts here:
I totally get where you're coming from. Joining interactive groups might seem counterintuitive, but I think many introverts join interactive groups as a gentle first step.
Online spaces provide them with the opportunity to engage on their own terms, at their own pace. They’ll jump in when the timing feels right.
All of this, a thousand times, yes.. Usually my introverts come out of their shells in due time..
The ones that always confuse me though, are the ones who never do engage. I'm talking years.. Sometimes a decade or more, of joining an interactive group, being aware of what is going on most of the time, but still refusing to engage on any level. At some point you have to ask, "Why are you not interacting?" Or "Why didn't you join a group that's more suitable to your personality, if this is not in line with your comfort zone?"
Tammie P ℓօรƭเɳαɓօօҡ wrote: "This is such an interesting question and a great discussion.
As someone who leans more toward introversion than shyness, I think I have improved. My engagement is more consistent now. However, I to..."
Good for you! Great news.
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Although I can feel uncertain in new situations, I have found over the course of time that the groups I'm a member of are always welcoming. Interacting with other book lovers is why I joined, I enjoy getting others opinions and book rec's and sharing mine.
Patricia wrote: "Although I can feel uncertain in new situations, I have found over the course of time that the groups I'm a member of are always welcoming. Interacting with other book lovers is why I joined, I enj..."Same here.. I love discussing all manner of topics over books or RL.. But the common thread is books. Debating a plot, sharing a rec' and receiving recs'.. Even offering encouragement or a kind word or two when needed..
I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. I think that’s why I love yall. I travel a lot (like this weekend) and I love sharing, interacting, and creating characters to share with yall. Can’t do that anywhere else.
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."Aww.. We love you too! We're so thankful you're a part of this community with us.. Not just in our group(s) but on this platform as a whole. Thank you for being you (hugs)
Me being a group administrator you don't have the option to lurk or disengage. But as strictly a group member in some of my groups, I enjoy interacting with others. Variety is the spice of life. Different perspectives are great drivers to open us up in many ways. I believe it's good for us all to be able to connect in some way, on some level.A book site is an excellent and safe way to do this. Book groups, depending on their content and members, can be a bit intimidating for some. This is certainly understandable why some may shy away for a time to try to feel things out before they interact. The point is that they do usually begin to interact with others.
The other issues with this however, are those who are just serial group joiners or lurkers. If you know that you only feel comfortable with just reading, reviewing and not interacting with others, then you should not be joining groups that require a certain level of interaction with its members. As a group moderator and member for many groups on this platform, I can't stress how discouraging and frustrating it is for us, when we do everything possible to encourage group interaction, but people still refuse to participate.
The time, effort and organizations of groups is not an easy task.
If the environment of a group is warm, inclusive, informative, consistent and offers ease in which to navigate the group, then your moderators are working hard to ensure this.
A little more appreciation and consistent effort on the part of the group members to actually engage is not going to kill them, and would be appreciated and does not go unnoticed.
This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based. That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every single thing, but I know there is going to be something posted; a buddy read, a poll, or a question that I'll eventually want to participate in conversationally.
That's what I love about being here. I feel like in a lot of ways we've all been a little bit vulnerable and very honest with each other.
Shan ~A~ wrote: "This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based. That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every sing..."
Thank you, Shan~A~
We love you and what you choose to share when you can. Your POV and input on certain topics we discuss, I truly enjoy hearing about..
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."Your awesome!! 😀 I always look forward to conversing with you!
Now that you mentioned it, no one in my life reads like I do. So this is where I can freely discuss what I'm reading and my thoughts about it
Shan ~A~ wrote: "This group is the only one that I consistently engage in that is not challenge based. That's because you all post interesting content that makes you want to interact. I may not post to every sing..."
That's what I love about being here. I feel like in a lot of ways we've all been a little bit vulnerable and very honest with each other.
Yes, agree. There is a certain safety, for lack of a better word. To this group, there really is no judgement, about anything. I've been in discussions where there were several different opinions, no one was offended or upset, just book lovers discussing their opinions about books and life. 😀
As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊
Dayna wrote: "As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊"We always love hearing from you Dayna, when you can participate! You're an author, we understand you're actively writing awesome reads for us, so we can discuss em..
I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and everyone in it. You guys are awesome.
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."Aww Sarah.. We got you.. Kids, fur babies, grown babies(Hubby), work and life in general does get crazy for us all at times.
I love joining in with discussions , there may be the odd day I'm quiet on goodreads ( I suffer from migraines , I always enjoy catching up after that happens) I especially enjoy having discussions about the group and buddy reads , every one is so friendly here 😀
Matthew wrote: "I love joining in with discussions , there may be the odd day I'm quiet on goodreads ( I suffer from migraines , I always enjoy catching up after that happens) I especially enjoy having discussions..."(Hugs)
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."This is 100% as well as add in health issues that seem to hit me randomly.
Picked get intimated though, always feel like im late to comment or over think what i want to say and how people will take it, so then dont want to post. Hate to be hated.
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@ EmiI am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consistently in other groups, while at the same time being able to moderate your own group as well?
Moderating and engagement go hand in hand. So I am curious to know how you can feel such anxiety about not being able to do one, when you are doing so well with the other?
I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but adulting sucks lol.
I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and disabilities are bad. Everything is a chore now...
Matthew wrote: "I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and..."Here's to hoping that everything gets easier for you Matthew..
I'm so sorry this season/transition has not been all hearts and cupcakes for you.. I am happy that this site is your happy place escape though.. We all need that.. I try my best to give that kind of positive warm space to everyone here, cause we all have enough sh^tty things in our lives to contend with.
#Healings&Blessings
Angela wrote: "I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but adulting sucks..."I love reading what someone's experience was within a book while reading it.. I live for honest bold and raw reviews.. I try to give that type of energy in my own reviews as well.. I feel like whether you agree with what I say or not, you can always trust that you've gotten an honest review from me...
Adulting is the most ghetto hood we will all ever have to live in.. Which is why we need a safe place or Haven, with like minded folks, to share, be silly or vent with..
For the voters who have chosen this option:I'm intimidated by the rapport of the other members, and I am often unsure of how to engage with them
If you feel this way, why do you still join interactive groups or stay in them? Groups that require your input/participation, in order to keep the environment rich and engaging?
I get that when you join a new environment, that you want to feel things out, see if it's a good fit for you. That's understandable and the wise thing to do.. But eventually you will need to start to interact with people.
People who have good rapport in groups, they got to that level because they took those first steps in interacting with each other, and it grew from there. That's the only way to get to that next step- ENGAGEMENT..
When you also see that the environment is also inclusive, diversified and chill (no drama), why do you still choose to stay on the sidelines?
Please do not take these questions as an attack or anything like that. I'm honestly curious and I really want to know and understand...
I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming. There are a few groups, I just have not accepted invites. Sometimes, I accept to gain information or recommendations more so than chat. I think with the way GR has gone in the last few years, it made the community a bit different in terms of how I use the site.
I was a lurker on the old site for a long time. Completely intimidated by the technology and my own insecurities. What if they don't agree with me? What if I sound like a nut? I finally starting posting here and there, oh the thrill of someone responding!! 😂. I definitely took baby steps, it got easier as time went. There have been times when someone has had a different opinion, it was all good. It makes me look at the book a little differently, or hmmm, I never thought about it like that. Which enriches the book for me. I'm not saying my approach to it is for everyone, it's not, I get that. What I will say is I've made some amazing friends here, and no, we don't all like the same kind of books and that's ok. I really enjoy the LBR we do, getting everyone's opinions and thoughts about what's happened, what's going to happen, so much fun for me. I don't have anyone in my life that loves to read like I do so this is my place to share and talk books. Or talk about whatever.
I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I do get to check out the groups I’m apart of
Samantha wrote: "I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming. There are a few groups, I just have not accepted invites. Sometimes, I accept to gain inf..."I understand that.. The changes GRs has done or allowed to go unchecked, have changed the climate a bit when it comes to groups in general..
When you say:
"I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming.
Does this feeling of being overwhelmed stem from being part of too many groups on the platform, or because a particular group may have too much going on within it, and you feel you can't or don't have the time to keep up?
Meka wrote: "I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I..."Thank you for your response, Meka!
Pretty sure I joined this group (prob others) for book recommendations with people that read similar books. I don't really interact because I don't feel comfortable talking to people I don't know. I stay because there's no pressure to stay in contact, and I still get to feel included, which is wonderful. 🖤
Being able to talk with members of groups and making friendships from that has been a great boon for me. I've truly met some wonderful people by just jumping in and conversing in conversations- whether that's been over books or what's happening in other's lives. Plus there's the bonus of buddy reads, finding out about great recs from others, discussions on polls, etc.You never know until you put yourself out there. The group I help Moderate is fantastic, and a safe place for everyone-no judgement.
The Beloved Bibliophile wrote: "I try to engage when I can. Really this group is so vital to me because I really don’t engage with others about reading and books bcuz nobody reads like me. Plus Nya and others keep me encouraged. ..."Aww, Rick-we're so happy you're a part M.E. and that you're really enjoying it🤗😇💛
Sarah wrote: "I know I don't engage as much as I should, but I do try to pop in as much as I can with my work schedule, hubby, kids, demanding cats... the list does go on 😂 But I do appreciate this group and eve..."Sarah, we so appreciate you!🤗 We understand about all the responsibilities as well. Just jump in when you can-we love hearing from you!
Patricia wrote: "I was a lurker on the old site for a long time. Completely intimidated by the technology and my own insecurities. What if they don't agree with me? What if I sound like a nut? I finally starting po..."Same👍😇💛
Dayna wrote: "As I'm always busy writing, I don't usually participate in your chats, but I do check them out, and add my comment here and there 😊"We completely understand, Dayna! You keep writing those awesome books, and check in when you can. We love hearing from you😇💛
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "Angela wrote: "I try to interact as much as I can. I also enjoy reading others opinions on books. Sometimes things are mentioned that I missed or didn't understand. I would be a lot more active but..."LOL! You've got that right, Nya! Adulting is total ghetto-hood!😂😂😂
Matthew wrote: "I want to be interactive, I e just got so much going on right now and Goodreads is my happy place, I don't wanna spoil it by forcing myself. I have a lot of health issues too, but mental health and..."I sincerely hope your health issues get much better soon, Matthew🙏😇
Jacquelyn wrote: "Pretty sure I joined this group (prob others) for book recommendations with people that read similar books. I don't really interact because I don't feel comfortable talking to people I don't know. ..."Thank you Jacquelyn, for commenting!
FYI-We're not in any groups together, I don't think.. ...
We're friends because we're awesome people (hugs)
Debbie wrote: "Being able to talk with members of groups and making friendships from that has been a great boon for me. I've truly met some wonderful people by just jumping in and conversing in conversations- whe..."Absolutely! Thank you Sis!
^Kalinka^ wrote: "@ EmiI am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consistently in other gr..."
I think some of it has to do with control, i started the group and can see new relationships being formed, where as entering a new group is daughting with interaction, especially ones with friendships and inside jokes already formed as i feel i could kill the mood and/or convo with one sentence... if that makes sense?? Thats why its intimidating doing it.
I also dont feel i am doing well in my own group, moderating and stuff as i am sometime met with lulls OR conversations just completely stop.
I will never stop trying though, amd know once i jump over this hurdle its worth it... but confidence making friends, online or RL, is difficult for me and really gets me out my comfort zone.
Hops that makes any sense
That makes perfect sense to me, Emi.. I can definitely understand that..
There is an ebb and flow when moderating groups. Here in the US, it's summer time, so online activity slows down a bit anyway, cause kids are out of school, or more family engagements etc., as well, then the first 2-3 months after school starts for kids, it's crazy hectic as well but at least because it's getting colder at that time, you begin to see more group activity and flow..
So just give it time..Especially if you have a new group.
Emi wrote: "^Kalinka^ wrote: "@ EmiI am interested in knowing how are you able to separate the two, between feeling intimidated about being an active group member and engaging with your fellow members consis..."
Thank you so much Emi, for answering my question.
Yes, this makes sense to me now.
And to add to what Nya said about moderating a group, this is very true. There is an ebb and flow to things that goes with the seasons and what's happening at those times.
Give it time, but also think of new topics to promote more group activity as well.
Meka wrote: "I honestly love being apart of groups with like minded individuals… Unfortunately due to my work schedule, I rarely get time to really interact. But I can say I get good book suggestions whenever I..."Sometimes that can be the case for me. Life or work gets in the way and I get a little lost. I always try to check back in and see recommendations, etc.
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "When you say:"I normally find myself interacting but I think over the course of time, I feel like it can be overwhelming.
Does this feeling of being overwhelmed stem from being part of too many groups on the platform, or because a particular group may have too much going on within it, and you feel you can't or don't have the time to keep up?"
Well no. I am a part of many groups and I even moderate a few. I think I do feel overwhelm because some groups have too many things going on and I can't keep up. Also, in the last few years, I have experience a few shake ups in life including my own health and I couldn't focus on it. There was a time in my life when GR provided escapism and with all the GR changes and shake ups, I just fell back from it when I had to deal with other issues.
The engagement is something that I miss. Even some "friends" I miss. I love chatting with them. My longtime folks.
Hewwoooooo :DDDDD I just love interacting with my pedal group members because it takes me connect with....just otherss (and also probably because this is the only social media that i ever use in my phone 😭😭😭😭, like i don't use any of the other social media platforms anymore because of their "addicting nature"..For goodreads u literally just, track your books, read people's reviews, & interact with them through messages and groups.
Gohnar23 wrote: "Hewwoooooo :DDDDD I just love interacting with my pedal group members because it takes me connect with....just otherss (and also probably because this is the only social media that i ever use in my..."😇😇😇
~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "Please answer/vote as honestly as you can. Keep in mind that this is not a group poll. This is my personal profile poll that is open to all GRs members as well as friends who were invited to part..."
Hi my friend, I really love how active you are. My life has been crazy and my return to reading is still a work in progress. I hope to interact more once my health issues and other challenges have been resolved. Thank you for engaging and responding to my direct messages as well!
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Hey Livia!Thanks for commenting!
Praying for a speedy healing in your health, and desire to read more!
This is such an interesting question and a great discussion.
As someone who leans more toward introversion than shyness, I think I have improved. My engagement is more consistent now. However, I totally get where you're coming from. Joining interactive groups might seem counterintuitive, but I think many introverts join interactive groups as a gentle first step.
Online spaces provide them with the opportunity to engage on their own terms, at their own pace. They’ll jump in when the timing feels right.
So, if someone seems quiet or hesitant, it’s not necessarily a sign of disinterest. It might just be baby steps. So I give them grace as they find their rhythm.
Tammie P ℓօรƭเɳαɓօօҡ wrote: "This is such an interesting question and a great discussion.As someone who leans more toward introversion than shyness, I think I have improved. My engagement is more consistent now. However, I to..."
Thank you, Tammie! And thank you for commenting and voting!
First, congrats on your improvements with engagement.. I know it's not easy when you are not use to interacting when you're an introvert. The action can seem daunting.. Intimidating.
I agree with your thoughts here:
I totally get where you're coming from. Joining interactive groups might seem counterintuitive, but I think many introverts join interactive groups as a gentle first step.
Online spaces provide them with the opportunity to engage on their own terms, at their own pace. They’ll jump in when the timing feels right.
All of this, a thousand times, yes.. Usually my introverts come out of their shells in due time..
The ones that always confuse me though, are the ones who never do engage. I'm talking years.. Sometimes a decade or more, of joining an interactive group, being aware of what is going on most of the time, but still refusing to engage on any level. At some point you have to ask, "Why are you not interacting?" Or "Why didn't you join a group that's more suitable to your personality, if this is not in line with your comfort zone?"
Tammie P ℓօรƭเɳαɓօօҡ wrote: "This is such an interesting question and a great discussion.As someone who leans more toward introversion than shyness, I think I have improved. My engagement is more consistent now. However, I to..."
Good for you! Great news.
Keep in mind that this is not a group poll. This is my personal profile poll that is open to all GRs members as well as friends who were invited to participate..
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