“What is going on for me? What are my needs and capabilities related to this situation? What do I want to happen?     What do I know about what is going on for the other people involved?     What do I know about their needs and capabilities related to this situation? What might be a desirable outcome for them? What is the context they work in? What are the demands of their context? What is our shared context? What is in the negative space of this change? What is the downside, and who might experience that downside?”